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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be fed up with everyone's holiday pics/brags on FB?

126 replies

Bellini12 · 30/07/2014 14:36

In the old days, you sent a postcard or were shown someone's holiday snaps after they'd returned from holiday. Now with the advent of social media, I can't turn on my FB without a constant feed of shots of manicured feet in front of a swimming pool, blue sea and beaches, marinas with big boats, interiors of plush villas etc. All very much 'look how lucky I am' blah, blah. Some are posting a pic EVERY DAY with a description of what they got up to.

I just keep thinking of all of those that can't afford a holiday and I just can't get over the constant bragging, it seems so vulgar. Or is it just me?

Yes, I know I can stop looking, perhaps I should. But there's some other stuff I like seeing in it.

OP posts:

sebsmummy1 · 30/07/2014 14:38

I'm sure you can unfollow people without defriending them, perhaps do that so it's not so depressing to see others enjoying luxury when you are feeling skint.

MorphineDreams · 30/07/2014 14:38

I think it's just you.

I use facebook to store my photos, update my friends, chat with them.

I don't go on holiday, can't afford to at the minute but I'm not jealous of those who have been posting their holiday photos.

SiennaBlake · 30/07/2014 14:39

Oh god I know right? How DARE people share their happiness with people they assume are their friends?! I reckon everyone should just post pics of themselves dressed in bin bags foraging for food in dustbins. It's the only way to keep people happy given the number of threads like this atm.

MrsWinnibago · 30/07/2014 14:39

It's understandable but unreasonable to expect people not to do it because some people can't afford a break.

I can't afford a hol...but when I do I share pics so relatives can see them etc....I have a lot of mates who live abroad too.

I DO hate those photos of legs propped on walls though...with painted nails...I always think people do it because your legs look slimmer in that position!

SelfconfessedSpoonyFucker · 30/07/2014 14:40

eh, I like seeing my friends having a good time, I assume my friends feel the same way. I post pictures of us doing other fun things. Perhaps I should stop.

Jan616 · 30/07/2014 14:42

I love seeing photos of my friends enjoying themselves, even if I can't afford the same luxury. I don't think of it as bragging, just them wanting to share their lives with their friends and family. If it bothers you, then you can unfollow them or hide their posts. I'm sorry but I think YABU.

WorraLiberty · 30/07/2014 14:42

I love looking at people's holiday pics

Some years we cant afford a holiday either but so what? It doesn't mean people shouldn't upload theirs.

Why do you see it as vulgar bragging, rather than people sharing their pics with their family and friends?

Selks · 30/07/2014 14:44

YABU, sorry. I like seeing people's pics.

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 30/07/2014 14:44

Well, it's not just you, there's been at least three threads on this very subject on here in the last day or two.

However, should people not be allowed to admit to having anything nice, incase someone else will find out and be upset about it?

You could take it to the nth degree - even tea and cakes out is unaffordable to some - should people not be able to celebrate even that little pleasure?

One of my friends is running in the Commonwealth Games tonight for the first time and from her facebook, its obvious that she's pretty excited about it and I am too and I hope she does well.

I'm not sat here thinking, its not fair, I can't run that fast, and hell, some people can't run at all - I wish she'd stop posting pictures from inside the stadium etc .

Anewmeanewname · 30/07/2014 14:47

Yes, I also love looking at these sorts of pics and seeing my friends enjoying themselves.

If you begrudge these people their luxury hols, they probably aren't real friends - just quietly defriend & stick to those that can only afford to go to butlins you actually like.

BoldBlackCherry · 30/07/2014 14:50

Yanbu it pisses me off too.

Surely if you're having that great a time you don't need to post it on Facebook day in day out?

Yes, post you get home by all means but I can think of better things to do on holiday than show everyone else how amazing my life is.

CoffeeTea103 · 30/07/2014 14:50

It's you, why be miserable over someone else's happiness. You only make yourself worse off by being jealous. Good for whoever is on holiday, I love seeing holiday pics and knowing friends are having a great time. Odd person you are.

Namechangedforthisohyesidid · 30/07/2014 14:53

I like nice photos and interesting photos and family photos and food photos. All very welcome. What I don't like is a fucking collage made from your holiday every single day and photographs of every single thing you do combined with how lucky you feel you are to be on holiday and what a fantastic time you are having.

If you are genuinely having a lovely time then maybe you would post a family pic, a picture of the view
Combined with a frosty cold glass of wine, or a picture of your book on a sun lounger with a caption saying "making the most of nap time". That's all

DomesticSlobbess · 30/07/2014 14:53

I don't have an issue with seeing other people's holiday photos. I usually look at them enviously! And if it's a particularly close friend then I enjoy seeing them have a good time.

What I don't understand is the people who constantly update their status and upload pics WHILE on holiday. When I go on holiday I use my phone to check the time and that's it. I barely go on it all. I'm too busy enjoying my holiday rather than thinking, "Oh I must update all my old school friends on Facebook about sitting by the pool and sharing a photo of my hotdog legs"

maddening · 30/07/2014 14:53

Ffs there will always be someone with something you can't have - should people with dc not put pics of them incase childless people take offence, have pics of your parents incase others have lost theirs, share pics of their weddings so as not to offend single folk or the divorced, someone sharing amazing physical feats incase the unhealthy feel put out etc

this says a lot about you and it is not good - why wouldn't you be happy that others are having a nice time.

MrsRonBurgundy · 30/07/2014 15:02

I like looking at my friends holidays pictures! It's lovely to think they're having a nice time, even if i'm stuck behind a desk. I'm not going to begrudge somebody else some fun just because i'm not away.

Similarly when i'm on holiday, I post my pictures. If anybody thinks i'm bragging, they can feel free to unfriend me. If that's the first thing that comes to mind, i'm sure I won't miss their presence in my life.

I also think it's not a sign that somebody isn't having a good enough time on their holiday if they're keeping in touch with people while they're away? I love my friends and I don't get much time to speak to everyone while i'm at home and working non stop. Plus we're all split across the country so face to face time is rare in the last 5 years. So if i'm lying by the pool with free wi-fi, it's a nice way for me to spend my time. chatting with my friends on Facebook, Whatsapp, Twitter. It doesn't mean that i'm not having a brilliant time on holiday. It just means i'm having a lovely time sunbathing, chatting with my mates who all happen to people I adore. So why not?

OP I think YABU

coppingpandy · 30/07/2014 15:05

I love looking at peoples' holiday photos! It's nice to see friends having a good time, and lovely to see what the hotels/resorts they are staying in look like.

weeblueberry · 30/07/2014 15:09

I love seeing holiday snaps on Facebook!

But, seeing your point, where does it end?

You can't share pictures of your children in case you're bragging and what about those people who can't have children?

You can't mention that work is pissing you off at the moment because you should be damned grateful that you have a job!

You can't put an announcement that you're pregnant/getting married/have a new job because it's bragging and vulgar.

You can't put normal run of the mill statuses because it's all very boring and no one cares.

Facebook is for cataloguing your everyday life to your friends. If you don't want to see these things then unfollow/unfriend them or come off Facebook altogether...

SelfconfessedSpoonyFucker · 30/07/2014 15:18

My old boss whom I'm friendly with recently posted a picture of the pool at the beautiful french house they will be staying in, empty serene pool with upmarket loungers and a stunning view. She and I bantered back and forth about how was she going to manage, with slumming it and all and how she would need a nice glass of wine and a pool boy to help her cope. I'm glad she shared.

Honestly, it sounds like jealousy which is an ugly thing that will stop you from enjoying all that you have.

Coconutty · 30/07/2014 15:21

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Davsmum · 30/07/2014 15:24

Some people put lots of pics on facebook with the intention of 'showing off' but others post pics because they just want to share them and they are happy about their holiday.

I have friends on facebook who are real show offs - I know who they are and why they post loads of stuff about their 'fabulous' night out or 'fabulous' holiday.
It doesn't bother me at all - whatever their intention is - I don't have to look unless I choose to.
Also, some people have no idea that it bothers other people, probably because it shouldn't!

AppleBoat · 30/07/2014 15:29

My friend's don't show off when they post holiday pics. I love having a nosey of where people go on holiday.

We cant afford to go abroad, but I haven't been left feeling jealous of those who do. In fact a friends trip to Florida last week looked not my cup of tea at all

MaryWestmacott · 30/07/2014 15:31

YABU - you can hide people, you can chose not to open their photo albums of their holidays, in the olden days, when someone came back from holiday and handed you a pack of 48 photos they'd had developed, it was basic manners to then look at each one while they were sat there, normally explaining who the people were and what that place was like. At least on facebook, you can click 'like' the whole album without bothering to spend you time looking at every photo, thus giving the same impression of caring and 'showing an interest' without actually having to sit and look at them all...

DiaDuit · 30/07/2014 15:40

I like them. They give me incentive to quit eating crisps and save for a day trip to the beach

Mrsjayy · 30/07/2014 15:40

They are not bragging you are just jealous really not there fault you are not in a villa is it maybe when your pals check into the airport hide them for a week or so,

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