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AIBU?

to be fed up with everyone's holiday pics/brags on FB?

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Bellini12 · 30/07/2014 14:36

In the old days, you sent a postcard or were shown someone's holiday snaps after they'd returned from holiday. Now with the advent of social media, I can't turn on my FB without a constant feed of shots of manicured feet in front of a swimming pool, blue sea and beaches, marinas with big boats, interiors of plush villas etc. All very much 'look how lucky I am' blah, blah. Some are posting a pic EVERY DAY with a description of what they got up to.

I just keep thinking of all of those that can't afford a holiday and I just can't get over the constant bragging, it seems so vulgar. Or is it just me?

Yes, I know I can stop looking, perhaps I should. But there's some other stuff I like seeing in it.

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CleanLinesSharpEdges · 30/07/2014 15:44

Sharing the details of your fabulous life is what Facebook is all about isn't it.

I'd rather see a few holiday shots and a snappy concise status update on FB than be bored shitless having to look through your whole photo album and hearing all about your day trip like in the good ole' days.

If you don't like it then deactivate your account.

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amyhamster · 30/07/2014 15:44

Gosh I'm probably offending people all the time

I've got two healthy kids & a healthy dh

I've got 2 healthy parents & healthy inlaws

People probably hate me when I post smiley pictures of family bbqs, birthday parties

I've also got depression & I hate my job but no one would appreciate a photo of me looking fed up & miserable so that bit of my life stays off facebook

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fortyplus · 30/07/2014 15:46

I've just won three silver medals at an international sporting event (NOT the Commonwealth Games! Grin ) I'm being tagged in dozens of photos - I bet my friends are really hacked off Wink

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Mrsjayy · 30/07/2014 15:48

Tbh I prefer daily updates than all the pictures when they get back meh people are not allowed to be anything on facebook its a minefield

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weeblueberry · 30/07/2014 15:49

I've also got depression & I hate my job but no one would appreciate a photo of me looking fed up & miserable so that bit of my life stays off facebook

Sorry to pick on this amy but it also should seriously be stressed. I also went through a period of what was probably depression about 6 months after I had my daughter and one of the ways I helped myself get over it was to post photos of her and communicate with the other mums who were doing the same.

People only highlight the best parts of their life on Facebook. If they don't they're called attention seekers.

Sorry to pick up on your comment amy. I hope you're getting some help for the depression?

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Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 30/07/2014 15:51

I'd rather see them

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Softlysoftlycatchymonkey · 30/07/2014 15:52

Posted to early!

I'd rather see them on FB than get invited for a coffee only to get ambushed with a slide show !

I like seeing pics, it gives me ideas for next year!

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abigamarone · 30/07/2014 15:58

I'd sooner chew my arm off than look at other folk's holiday photos. At least on fb I either filter them out or scroll past quickly. (I did get pretty adept at the real world version of scrolling through in the olden days)

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Stinkle · 30/07/2014 15:59

I like to see my friends' holiday pics.

They're my friends, I care about them and like to see them having fun and being happy.

I live a few hundred miles away from my family and old friends and we don't see each other all that often. FB is such an easy and quick way for us all to share what we're all up to

I posted a few when a I returned from a recent holiday. I even took 30 seconds out of my day a few times to post a pic while I was there. Still managed to have a fantastic time.

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Butterpuff · 30/07/2014 16:00

I don't mind them, in fact prefer them to the depressing updates, and if I want to then I can ignore them.

But one really did make me Hmm a young friend updating hourly about her first weekend away with her darling 'rock' new boyfriend. I just didn't get it, first dirty weekend away with my OH and updating FB was not a consideration Wink

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passmethewineplease · 30/07/2014 16:00

yabu, I put my holiday pics on to show my family where I was staying, I honestly don't care if people thought it was bragging.

By the time you have got a postcard, written it and sent it you would be home by the time the recipient got it!

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passmethewineplease · 30/07/2014 16:01

Plus I don't really see the difference between looking at holiday pics in photo form and seeing them on FB surely it's just the same? Just a different method of delivery?

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MrTumblesBavarianFanbase · 30/07/2014 16:03

I like seeing this kind of dtuff on fb - its what its for. I hate the memes, the nice people who can't see that they fall for every like-farming scam going, the friend who I recently regretfully blocked because instead of posting pics of her kuds and holidays she dtarted flooding my (and all her friends) newsfeed with so many very controvertial political shares a day it meant I had to scroll for 5 mins to spot anyone elses posts, the PA "some people are such users" demanding responses of "you alright? What's up", the Happy First Birthday Small Child Who Can't Read, Mummy lives her snookums soooo much" posts addressing somenody without literacy or a fb account, the "nom nom" posts with photos of bog standard everyday food items, the posts that reveal an old friend is a raging racist etc etc.

YABU about holiday photos though - what do you view fb as being about?

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MaeMobley · 30/07/2014 16:04

YABU. You can unfollow them without defriending them.

I have just done this to a couple of FB friends who were filling up my newsfeed with aggressive pro israeli propaganda.

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DoristheCamel · 30/07/2014 16:05

Review your friends list. Genuine well loved friends are who I have on my fb snd like to see their pictures, anecdotes and statuses if their holidays and achievements etc.

I can undersrand people seeing stuff from people you fobt think much of or hokd much affection for would be annoying but real good friends - Its nice to share abd sharing is what fb is all about.

Sort your friends lust out and only have tjise people you genuinely care about on there. Then you may start to enjoy fb more. Smile

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MaeMobley · 30/07/2014 16:05

I love seeing other people's holiday pictures + kids pics.

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CripesItsTheGasMan · 30/07/2014 16:09

Sorry op but yabu. Just scroll past and get on with your day. I enjoy my family's and friends' holiday pictures. I never once begrudged them a holiday or nice days out .

I do post pictures of our days out and I never think oh I better not just in case I insult someone or make someone jealous ...

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SqueakySqueak · 30/07/2014 16:12

I like seeing pics of people's vacations and what they did. Just like other people like seeing pics of our days out.

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DoJo · 30/07/2014 16:40

YABU - if you aren't pleased for your friends, then don't have them on Facebook. Posting 20 pictures and the occasional status takes much less time than sending bland postcards to five people who barely care by the time you've documented the weather. The old 'show, don't tell' is a great adage when it comes to holidays.

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KatnissEvermean · 30/07/2014 16:44

YABU. I can't afford to go on holiday, but I don't resent people who do. I like seeing my friends have a nice time, and I hope that if I do something nice they will be happy for me too. I'd much rather see that than depressing, whining statuses or photos of sick children that some people post.

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GoringBit · 30/07/2014 16:55

I think YAB a little bit U. I'm not keen when someone posts 100 or more photos at a time, so unless they've been somewhere that really catches my interest, I'll avoid those.

I worry that posting trip photos can seem like stealth boasting, so I don't do it often, but when I do, I always pick out my favourite 10-15 - I hope this means that I'm not overdoing it, it also helps me to sort the wheat from the chaff.

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GoringBit · 30/07/2014 16:59

But don't get me on those 'share this if you love your son/daughter/stick insect with all your heart' posts... if you do, GET THE FUCK OFF FACEBOOK AND TELL THEM!

I'm so sorry for shouting. Blush

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indigo18 · 30/07/2014 17:00

Holiday can't be that great if you are posting pictures on Facebook, would be my thought.
Not on FB though, so I never have to see them!

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HappyGirlNow · 30/07/2014 17:24

It takes 30 secs to post a photo - for some people to think that must mean the poster's holiday is shit is an odd assumption.

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Bellini12 · 30/07/2014 17:25

Wow. Perhaps I didn't explain my feelings well and perhaps it's the daily deluge of the 'posed' holiday photos that are doing my head in! The shots of every room of the villa and the picture of the wine in front of the blue sea. I do not begrudge my friends their holidays one bit but some of them ARE stealth bragging! But you're right, I guess that's what FB mainly is for! It defo goes beyond the means of just communication. It's seeking validation that people realise how fabulous your life is.

Fwiw, I'm not jealous, I was wondering how it would look to others that can't go away - not the bog standard pics but the posed ones. I'm lucky and have my fair share of family holidays (& have one booked this summer). It's just the last thing I feel like doing when I'm relaxing. I've posted a picture of a view on my return saying I miss it or whatever but not a blow by blow description of what I'm doing. One person is listing every day since the kids broke up! I guess I'm a modest person and just don't get this over sharing malarky (to all and sundry, not just your good mates).

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