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AIBU?

to be fed up with everyone's holiday pics/brags on FB?

126 replies

Bellini12 · 30/07/2014 14:36

In the old days, you sent a postcard or were shown someone's holiday snaps after they'd returned from holiday. Now with the advent of social media, I can't turn on my FB without a constant feed of shots of manicured feet in front of a swimming pool, blue sea and beaches, marinas with big boats, interiors of plush villas etc. All very much 'look how lucky I am' blah, blah. Some are posting a pic EVERY DAY with a description of what they got up to.

I just keep thinking of all of those that can't afford a holiday and I just can't get over the constant bragging, it seems so vulgar. Or is it just me?

Yes, I know I can stop looking, perhaps I should. But there's some other stuff I like seeing in it.

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Mrsjayy · 30/07/2014 19:45

Meh! Im not that bothered really. I was joking about the family bickering really not serious Hmm I typed a few words not a bloody novel it's not hard to read some people like to get out the virtual red pen don't they ?

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manchestermummy · 30/07/2014 19:48

Just unfollow.

One of my friends on fb went on an amazing looking holiday. On that holiday, her dp proposed and as it was planned, someone had been arranged with a camera to take asnap of 'the' moment on a gorgeous cliff top. Wonderful picture; I'm delighted she shared it.

YABU.

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SiennaBlake · 30/07/2014 19:51

Makes them feel superior!

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Delphiniumsblue · 30/07/2014 20:11

You just have the wrong friends!

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SiennaBlake · 30/07/2014 20:12

Hope that was aimed at the OP not me Grin

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Delphiniumsblue · 30/07/2014 20:13

MN is the most peculiar place- makes it endlessly fascinating. Why on earth are you friends with people you don't like, don't care about and have no interest in? Confused if you think they do it to make themselves feel superior they are not a friend.

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SiennaBlake · 30/07/2014 20:14

Try and follow the thread. My reply was to mrsjayy about punctuation. My posts on the topic are further up.

That's why I said I hope it's not aimed at me, because you've misunderstood.

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mommy2ash · 30/07/2014 20:17

yabu if nobody shared anything on fb that might potentially hurt someone else it would be empty. I go by the rule their page their choice if you have an issue with it then don't look.

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LynetteScavo · 30/07/2014 20:18

One of my friends on FB has posted loads of photos of her and kids in a scummy looking British sea side, town, and a few pics that look like the indoor play/ball pit place from hell. I'm not at all jealous, but I'm happy she's obviously having a marvelous time. Smile

Another friend posts about her frequent trips geocaching in far corners of the country. She obviously thinks it's the best thing ever. Again, I'm not at all jealous.

I will admit to being a little bit jealous of someone I don't like much showing off their new car, though

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pandarific · 30/07/2014 20:18

YABU

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Namechangedforthisohyesidid · 30/07/2014 20:19

out of interest, for the people who disagree with the OP, or think that it only takes seconds to upload, is there an amount of photos that you start to think "oh fuck off" or do you not mind if someone posts shitloads.

For me I love a few photos but too many and checking into the airport lounge, the plane, the hotel, bars, restaurants, photos of everything leaves me a bit cold.


Also, I don't like posting when I am away as I then think that robbers will swoop

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Altinkum · 30/07/2014 20:22

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Purpleroxy · 30/07/2014 20:23

Op are you sure you need Facebook?

I would delete yourself from it.

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Delphiniumsblue · 30/07/2014 20:23

If robbers assume my house is empty because I am away they are in for a shock.

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ChoccaDoobie · 30/07/2014 20:25

I don't see it like that. I'm not saying I've never felt a hint of envy at some of my friends' posts from their holidays but in general I really enjoy looking at them. The thing that you need to remember is that many of the people that your friends are friends with on fbook maybe friends or family that live in a different country or different part of the country and this is a way of sharing news with them rather than bragging.

I love seeing what my far away family and friends are up to and likewise
I put lots of posts and pics about Dd because my parents live abroad and it is a really easy way to keep them updated with what she is up to. I am aware that some people might think it's bragging but I'm really not and at the end of the day if they hate it they can keep scrolling or defriend me!

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pandarific · 30/07/2014 20:28

Re: amount of photos, not really. People on fb that annoy me post inane statuses and constant selfies of their annoying heads all the time - I hide them.

People posting holiday pics is normal, and when you post up an album it all goes in a clump anyway, it's not as if you're spamming with say three pics every two days or something. I mean this nicely but I suspect the OPs upset at not having a holiday is colouring her view of this.

I mean, I want to post a pic of a pizza I had in Italy because it was THE BEST pizza I think I've ever had - that's what the internet is for, sharing random crap with others, isn't it?

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MissMalonex2 · 30/07/2014 20:29

YABU - I am happy to see friends having a good time on hols. They all work blinking hard all year to afford it - whether they go to Bognor or the Bahamas - so good on them. Why don't you just hide them from your feed whilst they are on hols - you can do that, then unhide once they are back. whilst they are away, you can focus on any over sharing misery posts instead plus the photos of kittens and game requests Confused

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SolomanDaisy · 30/07/2014 20:29

I like looking at them, I often think that if an area looks beautiful in the photos we might try a holiday there in the future. It's like brochures used to be, but a bit more interesting as it's people you know.

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MyFairyKing · 30/07/2014 20:30

YABU but then again, I'm always a bit Hmm at people who post 45 photos of their lunch. I do enjoy looking at FB and photos but I always wonder why people post so many of the same thing. Yeah, yeah I know it's not mandatory to look, I'm not moaning, just most perplexed!

On the other hand (yes I'm very contrary), I will have a flick through anyway if I have the time. Blush

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ikeaismylocal · 30/07/2014 20:35

Nearly no one has a perfect life, some people are struggling with infertility, some people are single and miserable, some people are stuck in a relationship and miserable, some people are unemployed, some people are stuck renting, some people have lost their parents, some people can't afford a car/holidays/day trips.

If we were never to post about our family, job, children, pregnacy, partner, holidays, day trips then what should we post about?

Envy is normal emotion, we shouldn't expect our friends to censor their lives to protect us if we can't deal with one of the most basic of feelings.

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Delphiniumsblue · 30/07/2014 21:07

I asked once on MN what people could post about and the answer was nothing!

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halfdrunkcoffee · 30/07/2014 21:10

Now I feel bad because I put some of my holiday pics on Facebook although I know that some of my Facebook friends aren't going on holiday this year, either because they can't afford it or their DH can't take the time off work.

I already refrain from posting anything related to religion (or my lack of it) or political as I worry about offending people of different views. I also worry that childfree friends will get bored of child-updates. In fact I have hardly updated my status recently - I just use it mainly for chatting in groups, private messaging and following other people. I like seeing other people's holiday photos though, even the ones who are rich and childfree and always going on exotic exciting holidays.

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maddening · 30/07/2014 22:12

The problem is that you seem to be under the impression that everyone else is posting for reasons that you have created - eg to brag or deleting accounts as they feel the same as you and everyone should use fb as you do - this really is not the case.....

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Namechangedforthisohyesidid · 30/07/2014 22:48

panda yes es yes to best pizza ever but I
Seem to be friends with a lot of people who post every day a few times a day when on holiday. I don't mind albums when people come back but it's when it's constant photos. For example. A friend has gone away to celebrate anniversary with husband. Today at 2pm.

We have photo in car ironic selfie, photo of the weather on the way there, photo of the room, photo of the flowers in the room, photo of the bed and photo out of the window, photo taken from the bed with champagne glasses in, photo of
Them ready to go out, photo of drinks in bar, photo of starter and puddings )but weirdly no main) and then photo of them happy after dinner.

I am so tired but I kind of want to stay up to see if they take a photo of them doing it. Can't wait to see what they have for breakfast.


If anyone thinks you are having a nice time if you go away for one night with your other half and need to constant validation of about twenty photographs then god help you!!!

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Namechangedforthisohyesidid · 30/07/2014 22:49

But to answer
Original question, no I don't think anything wrong with some photos.


Have I hijacked the thread? I didn't mean to :-(

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