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DH's decision holiday vs wife with sprained knee

54 replies

windchimes8 · 17/06/2014 15:22

That's it really. DH decided on the holiday 4 days with 2 other family members one of them OAP. Sprained knee happened Friday, holiday started Monday. Holiday could not easily be re-scheduled, knee is slowly getting better and I can drive short distance, have enlisted help to walk dog, we live in a bungalow. Just wondered what others thought.

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SirChenjin · 17/06/2014 15:25

I'm not really clear on what your post means - sorry. Do you mean he arranged a holiday after you sprained your knee?

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 17/06/2014 15:26

About what?

It's a sprained knee,sounds like it's improving. As long as your dh is aware he may have to do all the running around. Can't see why it's a problem.

DragonMamma · 17/06/2014 15:29

You mean your DH went on holiday even though you've sprained your knee?

Unless it was broken I wouldn't expect anybody to cancel their holiday. My DH could only have one day off work when I broke my foot and was in plaster up to my knee with a 4yo and a 6mo and I couldn't drive either. You just get on with it sometimes!

Original poster
windchimes8 · 17/06/2014 15:29

Holiday was arranged months ago. Just wondered what others thought if he should've gone. FWIW I was glad he went but was a difficult decision.

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Cookiepants · 17/06/2014 15:30

I think OP means DH left her and went on hols without her after she sprained knee.

Cookiepants · 17/06/2014 15:32

For what it's worth OP my DH went away to the other end I the country on holidays when I was 34 weeks with DS. My parents were away so I had nobody. Realistically I knew I'd be fine, but I felt pretty shit about it. I think it's natural to feel a bit abandoned and vulnerable, I would have felt too guilty to ask him to cancel though.

Frontier · 17/06/2014 15:33

If pre arranged, paid for and only for 4 days Id be perfectly happy that he still went, unless (maybe) we had very young children who were staying with me and no local support

42andcounting · 17/06/2014 15:33

Do you mean that your DH decided to go ahead with the holiday leaving you at home x alone with a sprained knee?

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 17/06/2014 15:33

Oh I see, I struggled to understand what you meant OP.

MelanieCheeks · 17/06/2014 15:34

Can you make yourself a cup of tea and pour a glass of wine? If you were able to manage by yourself and it coudn't be re-arranged, then fair enough. I was hobbling around on a plaster cast with 2 crutches, in a house with 3 flights of stairs recently. And I had to get dog walkers as DH couldnt find the time to do it.

Tinkerball · 17/06/2014 15:35

I'm not sure either, were you meant to go to?

whois · 17/06/2014 15:46

Not U for him to have gone but can see why you felt a bit down about it.

SirChenjin · 17/06/2014 15:48

Are you able to look after yourself and any dependents, and get yourself about? If so, I don't think he was unreasonable to go. I think I'd quite enjoy the peace tbh Grin

CoffeeTea103 · 17/06/2014 15:48

I would not have wanted my DH to miss out because of a sprained knee. He probably would not have gone though.

WorraLiberty · 17/06/2014 15:49

No, he wasn't unreasonable from the sound of it.

Hope your knee gets better soon

evertonmint · 17/06/2014 15:55

I sprained my ankle at 27 weeks pregnant, have2 other DC (6 and 3) and was on crutches for 10 days, and not too mobile for a few weeks after. DH had a 3 day business trip - probably could have rearranged if necessary but I was able to manage and had some help from friends, family etc. so it seemed daft to rearrange. I think it would be even harder to re-arrange a family holiday, logistically and emotionally.

Having said that, he probably owes you a big favour at some point in the future Smile

Sometimes life sucks a bit. I would have preferred him to stay obviously, but I managed ok.

whattheseithakasmean · 17/06/2014 16:01

I'm not clear why you couldn't go on the holiday as well with the sprained knee?

WipsGlitter · 17/06/2014 16:11

How bad is the sprain? I'd have gone anyway!

starfishmummy · 17/06/2014 16:14

Its a sprained knee. Unless it was a walking holiday then why couldn't you go?

longjane · 17/06/2014 16:15

Can I just asked everyone who said he was ok to go
How they would feel if freind ask them to ask to them to help because ther husband when on hoilday and they could not cope alone.

I know I would not happy to help out for free. Why should give my free time when there husband would not.

And if was once for work maybe once if urgent but not 3times or for something that could be rearrange .

Frontier · 17/06/2014 16:19

Oh, I read it as the op was never intending to go. If you did op then yes, you should have still gone .

Longjane, really? I can think of several people i would be happy to help for a few days in those circumstances.

BikeRunSki · 17/06/2014 16:26

DH went away for the week end last summer, 2 days after I sprained my ankle. I could barely stand, let alone walk/drive. The dc were 4 and 1. DH was doing a sporting challenge he really wanted to do and had trained for. I was miffed that he went, but I wouldn't have stopped him. We watched a lot of TV and ate a lot of toast that week end.

PenelopePitstops · 17/06/2014 16:30

Longjane most people would happily help out. A sprained knee is cope able with. A pre planned holiday shouldn't be cancelled because of it.

Imsuchamess · 17/06/2014 16:37

I had just given birth had a one week old and a 4yo and on the Friday they wanted to re admit me for a severe allergic reaction (my nether regions were covered in open sores the size of a 5 pence piece). I asked if it was absolutely necessary to admit and they said no not if I came up every day for a examination. DH had a wedding Sunday (his brothers) involving two overnight stays. He offered to not go under the circumstances but I made him and got my mum to stay while he was gone.

I would have forced him to go on holiday if I had sprained my knee tbh. I wouldn't want him missing out because I'm ill.

sunshinecity17 · 17/06/2014 16:39

who ae the elderly family memebers- his parents?

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