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Vaginoplasty

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 13:50

Hi all, someone from relationship has asked that maybe I get more responses here, so here is my advert.

Was just wondering if anyone has done Vaginoplasty, before and how it affected your sex life. Was it better after.

I am going for an op tomorrow and I hear it hurts like hell in the first week after. After 3 natural births, I had a huge cave down under, which was affecting our love life. DH has always been polite and said all is fine, but I am simply not enjoying sex with him anymore. He is average size and though we went on to have 2 other DC, after the 1st one, things were not the same. They were not even that big babies.

The gyna said he could easily fit 6 fingers in there, he has done hundreds of this operation and says it's a common problem. Seriously, I did not feel uncomfortable when he did fit the fingers.
DH has a hard time keeping it up nowadays, and aside from the conception of the last 2 DC, sex has been pretty much off the table, and I don't mind as I am not enjoying it at all. No friction.

The Gyna said he would do me 2 fingers, I said, 1 and a half, and he said sex should not be painful, and though lots of women ask for a pencil fit, for all they care, he feels it's a failed procedure it things are too tight. I want a vice grip to be honest.

Not many people talk about this, and though in the marriage I guess you have to abide by it, surely not all women who date later have not had natural births, or did everything just go back into place after?

I am mostly doing this for me as I cannot imagine a sexless or unsatisfied sex life for the next few decades.

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 15:06

Shouldnt you are one of the fist to say the truth. We are all on computer, so it's not like telling the truth in RL.

Glad to hear a RL story

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shouldnthavesaid · 07/05/2014 15:06

And erm.. you don't want a vice grip at all. I have one due to vaginismus and it isn't fun. First time you have a smear that takes the doctor 6 attempts to complete because things are so tight, you'll regret it.

Not to mention if you try to have sex again and the problem is now the opposite - that he's too big for you - and you end up with ruptured scarring and all sorts...

I'd - if you have to do this - be reasonable measurement wise. I do actually understand a bit finger wise - as have had that before from a gynaecologist, who wittered on about finger size - and it's not totally icky, but I wouldn't say 1 and a half fingers..

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 15:09

Secret et. you are lucky you went back to normal and should not make fun of us with problems!

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CinnabarRed · 07/05/2014 15:09

Sorry, but are you really asking for RL stories from "girls with big vags"?

There's no way someone isn't wanking off over this, even if it's not the OP.

Be careful what you share, people.

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 15:13

What I would like shared are stories about girls who had a problem like mine.

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UnderIce · 07/05/2014 15:15

Even on an anonymous forum I wouldn't "share" this sort of information.

Callani · 07/05/2014 15:16

1 and a half fingers and you could struggle with some tampons! I think you really need to listen to your doctor about sensible sizings.

TillyTellTale · 07/05/2014 15:17

Quick check: I have small hands, I know, but are they excessively narrower than normal, or do you, a presumably sexually mature and experienced woman, actually desire to have a procedure that would make sex physically painful for you? See, my index finger has a circumference of 2.5cm and a diameter of 2cm.

If I haven't got this wrong, and you don't actually have very big hands, why do you want this?

FrigginRexManningDay · 07/05/2014 15:17

Girls with big vags Hmm don't you mean women with vaginal wall damage? If you are trying to bd lighthearted its really not coming across as such.

yellowdinosauragain · 07/05/2014 15:21

Tremendous typo about being one of the fist to tell the truth :o

FrigginRexManningDay · 07/05/2014 15:23

I saw that yellow.

Lovecat · 07/05/2014 15:24

Ewww! I have to say your choice of language is pretty awful, OP. "Girls with big vags"?

If this is real, good luck for tomorrow, but if you've researched this as much as you say you have, why are you only posting on here for advice now? Is anything anyone says really going to change your mind?

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 15:28

Tilly, this is the doctor fingers male with gloves.

I have to say, that I am now ashamed to share this with other women, thought as not known in RL, women had the same problems and would share................but not.

So, I bow out....................................................

Going to my surgery tomorrow though as the only few with such a problem. But those who wish to share, more than happy to send private message with.

Thanks.

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FoxyHarlow123 · 07/05/2014 15:31

There's no way this is real. There are numerous other forums to go on if you're researching such a specific form of surgery.

shouldnthavesaid · 07/05/2014 15:33

Meeh.

If he/she are fumbling in their pants, then they must be pretty bloody desperate to use accounts of vulval/vaginal rejuventation as wank fodder. Plenty of videos on youtube that will allow you to em.. yeah. At least they're a bit more anonymous and you won't be bothering real life people.

At the same time though I'd rather it be someone wanking than someone who's worried going in for an operation that a) they probably don't need and b) don't sound very well informed about. Hence why I'm quite OK to give a very very basic idea of what I felt like post surgery.

The way the posts are being written is pretty astonishing however not all together a shock. I do recognise the fingers thing and can see a private gynaecologist using that as a valid unit of measurement. Though it depends on who she's seeing and where.

Should probably stop giving people the benefit of the doubt though.

softlysoftly · 07/05/2014 15:35

Yes people please private message op with tales about your huge vaginas.

Or not

your choice

Nancy66 · 07/05/2014 15:36

...and maybe a picture or two?

UnderIce · 07/05/2014 15:37

I think I'll pass...

shouldnthavesaid · 07/05/2014 15:40

There aren't to be honest - short of weird and wonderful American health forums. Probably a good thing as I can only imagine that 90% of a "vaginal health forum" would be aged between 14-18, and 40-70 and male.

Definitely not PMing.

ThePriory · 07/05/2014 15:41

Well I can get 7 fingers in and I haven't even had a baby.
I have just had That much sex.

wishingchair · 07/05/2014 15:41

Ermmm ... when the midwife gave me a sweep - so this is before any children whatsoever - she inserted pretty much her entire hand so don't see why the fact the Dr can get 6 fingers (how?) is such a big problem. Also don't know why you'd only want to be able to insert one and a half fingers - which is surely smaller than the average sized penis anyway?!!

But yes you deserve a fulfilling sex life so go for it if you think this will solve you and your DH's problems, but don't make things so 'vice like' it is painful.

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LittleTurtle · 07/05/2014 15:42

Sorry, but why are women so touchy about this subject seeing that they have no problem down under.

By the way, I am going for the surgery and would really like to hear from someone who has actually had the problem.

What? You all had natural births and no problems? Hard to believe all of you had such great births and great sex life after.
Maybe it's possible, but no need for pics, as the doctor already showed me some.

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 07/05/2014 15:42

Good on you OP for being open and wanting to discuss this. Not sure why people have a problem really, we talk about everything else. We're adults and we're women - why does this have to be taboo?

My friend said after her birth she felt very loose and down there looked like 'road kill' :( very open about it and I think she'd defo consider this op if she knew more about it because it's getting her down

MabelSideswipe · 07/05/2014 15:46

In labour the midwife is checking the cervix for dilation with her fingers not the vagina. The vagina is very stretchy. It can fit a large baby down it so not surprising Dr can fit however many fingers in there. He could fit his whole hand in if he tried. If there was no stretching needed for 6 fingers I can see that's an issue but I would be getting a second opinion re physio before I opted for such painful surgery or finding a new man with a abnormally huge penis.

icanmakeyouicecream · 07/05/2014 15:47

Weirdo

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