Vaginoplasty

[LittleTurtle]

Hi all, someone from relationship has asked that maybe I get more responses here, so here is my advert.

Was just wondering if anyone has done Vaginoplasty, before and how it affected your sex life. Was it better after.

I am going for an op tomorrow and I hear it hurts like hell in the first week after. After 3 natural births, I had a huge cave down under, which was affecting our love life. DH has always been polite and said all is fine, but I am simply not enjoying sex with him anymore. He is average size and though we went on to have 2 other DC, after the 1st one, things were not the same. They were not even that big babies.

The gyna said he could easily fit 6 fingers in there, he has done hundreds of this operation and says it's a common problem. Seriously, I did not feel uncomfortable when he did fit the fingers.
DH has a hard time keeping it up nowadays, and aside from the conception of the last 2 DC, sex has been pretty much off the table, and I don't mind as I am not enjoying it at all. No friction.

The Gyna said he would do me 2 fingers, I said, 1 and a half, and he said sex should not be painful, and though lots of women ask for a pencil fit, for all they care, he feels it's a failed procedure it things are too tight. I want a vice grip to be honest.

Not many people talk about this, and though in the marriage I guess you have to abide by it, surely not all women who date later have not had natural births, or did everything just go back into place after?

I am mostly doing this for me as I cannot imagine a sexless or unsatisfied sex life for the next few decades.

Feel a bit sick at the mention of 'vice-like'. Sounds a bit, well, scary.

I'm going to assume your dh's penis is bigger than 1.5 fingers. So why need your vagina to be that tight? Do you want to be in pain?

Do what the doctor says.

Not sure why the OP has got this response.

My friend had this done on the NHS. She was asked how big her DH's penis was in order to gauge how much to tighten, I mean really if you're having this type of surgery then examination / questions are obviously going to be quite personal! And in language that all patients will understand.

I think you should follow your doctor's advice on size.

Also good luck with the OP.

How many fingers were you before having children?

Love this video

Yeah, I agree you need to exhaust all other channels of therapy before surgery. Because its not a magical cure and can have nasty complications. Has your gynaecologist talked about these with you?

No experience with this myself but I just wanted to say good luck for tomorrow OP.

Did he use both hands at once then!

The key is with the word grip though. You need muscle strength for this not tightness. He can't strengthen the muscles for you just tighten.

As a note..... I can fit without much effort and no warm up...... ??

Fit what!

Haha, 4 fingers!!

And my thumb

Apparently you can also have it lasered which is meant to help you regain muscle tone. It sounds far less invasive than surgery.

I don't see how the language is so bad when there are plenty on here that are willing to use cunt, fuck, wank etc.

It's descriptive, but it doesn't mean it's vulgar.

OP good luck with operation. Hopefully it will make you feel a lot better. Do be careful about the 'over tight fit' and likelihood of more painful sex though - that would just be another way of causing issues around your enjoyment of it. There must be online forums with women talking about their experiences of this operation...have a search

Oh and in answer to question not applicable as had cs. I'll let you know once we conceive no 2 if my vagina has it's own post code.

My friend had this done on the NHS. She was asked how big her DH's penis was in order to gauge how much to tighten

WTF?
A woman's vagina does not need surgically correcting so it is made to measure for her husband's penis!
It will still need elasticity.

Good luck to you and your fairy OP

Quite surprised as a newbie to see such harsh and dismissive responses from other users to what must already be quite a nerve-racking, personal and daunting experience!

Guessing the OP's having rather understandable last-minute pre-op jitters and instead of the reassurance or support (or constructive criticism) she expected she's being ganged-up on as if she's just uttered the most obscene of racial slurs? Tsk tsk, shame on those too quick to judge and hope your vag's, yes VAG'S (which I can only assume snapped back to near-perfection post-birth) are never in need of reassurance.

I'm definitely different enough down there now to mourn what once was, but luckily not enough to have to consider surgery. Good luck tomorrow OP, but as someone who had quite the vice-like grip pre-sprog I'd advise against it - can be incredibly uncomfortable and at times downright painful, sometimes enough to kill any passion that might have been. Two fingers sounds adequate enough for most models.

Also, if you find yourself still having any doubts or concerns in the morning please do rearrange and get a second opinion - surgery comes with its own risks and complications and would hate for you to regret not trusting your gut feeling.

Again, best of luck!

I posted on the OPs thread in relationships, just shows what a difference a forum makes t responses. She has been pointed in the direction of the prolapse and raggedy bits support threads, but as she is booked in for the operation tomorrow, there's not a lot to be done now regarding gynae physio, which most posters mentioned on the other thread.

I suspect her gynae has seen the ££££ signs and hasn't referred her to physio as she ducked answering the questions about it on the other thread.

As others have said OP, good luck and I really hope that you get the outcome your gynae has promised you and that you want.

Well I haven't had this procedure done yet but am seriously considering it. I have had 2 children by natural birth and after the first was fine, bit of a difference but nothing to write home about, but the 2nd child was really big and had to push for 3 hours and I am finding things much altered down there too. Everything was fine before childbirth and had great vaginal tone and did my exercises regularly.

It is really affecting our sex life and have no feeling down there. It is even starting to have a really big emotional impact on me and am even getting to the stage of having almost panic attacks at the thought of having sex and sometimes during. Have gone through physio, done all the exercises everyday and even used one of those electric pulse vaginal stimulators, nothing has worked.

I do know of a few women that have had this procedure and said that they wouldn't turn back and that it has made an amazing difference to their sex lives, but yes have heard that it is very painful and up to 6 weeks to recover fully.

I think just some women are lucky and haven't experienced this, but for those of us that have it is an awful thing, can be humiliating and cause depression at a time when your hormones are already up the left. Every little bit of support helps!