Myself and ex were together for 4 years, living together for 3 and having our DD after 2 years. In all this time, he never worked and any contributions made were tiny.
He did mind DD when I went back to work though so for a year and a half. In all this time I paid our rent, holidays, clothes, food, everything for DD etc. But always under the premise that we could switch roles eventually, when I was made redundant last summer instead of trying to find work he took to staying out drinking all night etc as he no longer had the responsibility of DD. I ended the relationship and he moved home (I had bought my home at this stage)
He paid fair maintenance every week (more than he would be obliged to if court ruled) and eventually found work too. During all of this we had many discussions about him paying me back (as we did during the relationship) and I brought it up today and he basically said he hoped I wouldn't want him to. After much discussion we said it's fair if he pays what half our rent was for two years, even though we lived together for longer than two years and I paid for an awful lot more than rent. This works out at 50 euro a week for 4 years and he has agreed but now that he has, I feel a bit guilty? AIBU?