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To ask: does anybody else think that they're just really crap at everything...

109 replies

newsecretidentity · 08/02/2014 13:50

all the time?

Seriously, I know I've survived to reach my mid-thirties, so I must have got some things right at some point. But I can't seem to go through a day without cocking something up. Burning the dinner, forgetting my phone, paying a bill late...

Does anybody else get that feeling, or is it just me?

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CatAmongThePigeons · 08/02/2014 13:52

That's me! Something will always go wrong, normally and thankfully nothing serious, but if it could go wrong, it'll be to me!

RevoltInParadise · 08/02/2014 13:53

Yup. Me too! :)

RubyGoat · 08/02/2014 13:56

Everything? No.

Anything to do with technology? Yes! Computers etc just seem to break, stop working, whatever. How I've not been sacked, I don't know. (I am chained to my work computer 24 hours a week.) I really should have thought about it more, before I went for the job...

DanceWithAStranger · 08/02/2014 14:28

Me.Today, for example, we went out for lunch: I ordered a glass of wine and knocked it straight into my bowl of pasta. Bye bye wine (sob), inedible pasta. That's typical, unfortunately.

brokenhearted55a · 08/02/2014 15:02

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bearleftmonkeyright · 08/02/2014 15:20

Constantly lurching from one disaster to the next. I have a memory like a sieve and have only recently religiously writing everything down. But laziness ennui sets in and I burn the dinner, am late on school run, forgot pe kits and dinner money.

bearleftmonkeyright · 08/02/2014 15:22

*should read started religiously! Doyou see? Crap at mumsnetting. Grin

BronzeHorseman · 08/02/2014 15:31

Yes, absolutely. I am a crap parent who is crap at my job. C'est la vie.

Philoslothy · 08/02/2014 15:34

Yes, I crap at most things. Have bad 2 successful careers. Always waiting to be found out

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 08/02/2014 15:35

Today alone i have missed a bill, burnt the toast and broken a glass. Its not even a particularly bad day.

Philoslothy · 08/02/2014 15:39

Look at how badly worded my post is, further evidence of my crapness.

Pigeonhouse · 08/02/2014 15:41

Starting to learn to drive at 41 is a real eye-opener in terms of realising the depth of your own personal cheapness at things. How can virtually everyone else do it when I am finding it impossible?

MrsOakenshield · 08/02/2014 15:44

I don't think I'm crap at small things like making the dinner or whatever, but bigger things - yes. I think I'm quite crap at being a mother, and not that great at my job either Sad.

DanceWithAStranger · 08/02/2014 15:56

Pigeonhouse, I'm a terrible driver (overcautious rather than dangerous, I hasten to add). I can only do it because I learnt at 17 - I'm much the same age as you and if I'd left it till now to learn, I'd really struggle. I don't drive if I can help it, and as I live in London I rarely have to.

NoodleOodle · 08/02/2014 15:57

I feel like I'm crap at everything. I hope that this is because of 'black and white' thinking that my psychiatrist says is due to depression, and that with treatment I will start to think differently about myself. Do you have any other symptoms that suggest you could be depressed or just this one worry about being crap at everything? Most people feel like they're coasting at some stage, or that you could be 'discovered' for not being as good at your job or similar at some stage. So, it could just be normal for you, to be a bit self-deprecating. I think it's also a bit of a British thing too, lol.

TheCrackFox · 08/02/2014 15:58

I feel the same way.

A toxic combination of foot in mouth syndrome, clumsiness and ineptitude has stalked me since birth. I really feel like I am acting like an adult.

DorisAllTheDay · 08/02/2014 16:00

I'm crap at relationships. Sad And I'm also crap at all sorts of everyday things like cooking, keeping the house clean and tidy, mending even the simplest of gadgets, driving, remembering to go shopping, getting the bills paid, finding a plumber and so on. I have evidence that I'm not crap at my job (I've held my current one down for several years and I gather that most of my colleagues think I'm competent and have high standards) but it doesn't feel that way to me, and like Philoslophy I'm just waiting to be found out.

The only thing I think I'm good at is spelling. TBH I'd rather be able to make a nice meal and have someone to share it with.

Faverolles · 08/02/2014 16:03

I'm crap at everything. Every time I feel I'm finally getting something right, someone kindly points out I'm cocking things up in other areas.
The only way to ever succeed is to completely reinvent myself and become someone else, but I don't seem to be able to do that. I am stuck with myself.

JoulesQueenofSheba · 08/02/2014 16:05

Yes! I'm naturally clumsy and it has a big impact on my day to day life. Also I strongly suspect I'm crap at motherhood and wife hood despite loving my kids and husband dearly :(

BakingBad · 08/02/2014 16:07

Because I have no-one else to do it, I attempted to hang a roller blind today. As I expected, it didn't go well Sad

I hate diy because I'm so unbelievably crap at it.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/02/2014 16:10

Yes i generally am crap at life. Was just saying to my friend last night that i dont think im doing any good at all for my dcs and am probably damaging them. Would like to be able to just get through a day without losing my head and flapping about shouting at them.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 08/02/2014 16:11

I sometimes wonder what is so different bewteen me and the people who breeze through life when jut getting through a day all fed and clean is an acheivement for me Hmm

YesAnastasia · 08/02/2014 16:15

I never meet any of you in real life! I'm alone in my absolute uselessness IRL.

I can't drive, I'm lazy so CBA cleaning, have no pride in my house, life or much tbh, I have no money, very few friends & am crap at role playing games with my DSs.

I have no idea what kind of job I could do now - probably nothing. My body fell apart after DS2 so I can't even birth children properly.

JabberJabberJay · 08/02/2014 16:20

I currently feel like I've failed at everything. I'm not a very good mother, my marriage broke up and I can't seem to get my career back on track after taking time out to be a SAHM. But then I was fairly crap at my job too. Sad

cornishcreamtea · 08/02/2014 16:22

It is a well known fact in our house that if I touch anything that is to do with technology then it will go wrong. How I even manage to get a post on here is quite frankly amazing.

My 3 year old DGS has to show me how to play a DVd, I can never work out which remote does what. When the Sky flashes up that I am recording 2 programmes and I have to choose which one to cancel I always cancel the wrong one etc etc.

My DP reckons I should get a job setting challenges for the Apple troubleshooters as whenever he passes me his Ipad to look at something I manage to do something to make the screen change and he has no idea what I have just done.

My usual cry is Whaaat, I didn't even touch anything!