To ask: does anybody else think that they're just really crap at everything...

[newsecretidentity]

all the time?

Seriously, I know I've survived to reach my mid-thirties, so I must have got some things right at some point. But I can't seem to go through a day without cocking something up. Burning the dinner, forgetting my phone, paying a bill late...

Does anybody else get that feeling, or is it just me?

[Woolyback]

Yup signing in. Can't do relationship my home is reasonably tidy but far from perfect. How do some manage it all?

[shebird]

Another crap one here. I've managed to maintain a facade of perfectness and keeping it all together until recently and now I as a near 40 it's all falling apart. I've always known that I was crap but managed to hide it so well. Now the cracks are showing at work at at home and my true crapiness is being revealed. Perhaps it's just getting older I don't have the energy and my brain is more scrambled than ever before.

[jamama]

I know this thread is lighthearted, but it is very sad to see so many compassionate, warm, thoughtful women rushing on to admit that they are 'crap'. We absolutely all have these days, moments, sometimes weeks, but dwelling on it will only make you feel bad. Acceptance that whatever it is has not gone well but that there are other things that went well is the only way not to dwell in it. I can't help but feel that men wouldn't do this.

[innermuddle]

Oh gid I feel exactly like that! Crap mother, crap wife, crap at keeping the house clean, not s great cook, rubbish at relationships with family and friends. Constantly feel like my husband is one day going to realise how horrible I am and leave, and that most people just put up with me. And as for my career, it is a miracle I have one!

[Joysmum]

I suppose something goes wrong everyday but I tend to focus on the good stuff so it doesn't get me down.

Life is about attitude. I could get pissed off at being stuck in traffic like the bloke next to me, or I could welcome the opportunity to listen to my favourite music and sing my head off. We are both in the same situation yet he has high blood pressure and I'm having a brilliant time . No point getting het up over stuff you can't change.

[ToBeSure]

I don't think I am crap but I am decidedly average. I am not sure if that amounts to a stealth boast on this thread. I don't do anything we'll. I have no secret talents or areas of expertise. I am average.

I regularly burn the dinner, forget stuff and loose things.

[Woolyback]

Yeah but even on random some of u us are dealt a bad hand

[FutTheShuckUp]

Yep another crap at everythinger here! I try and fail quite often, my self esteem has taken a right battering lately

[newsecretidentity]

Is it lighthearted? Ok, I know I often lift up my own foibles for other people's amusement ( might as well use them for something) and I know I do suffer with depression.

But I guess that by this age, I expected to feel more... Competent. I do know people who are organized, have lovely homes and impressive careers, washboard stomachs and no peanut butter in their hair, who don't fall over when walking. What makes me so different?

[HadABadDay2014]

I am always ballsing things up, but on the rare times I do something right it's like I won a million pounds.

[Gruntfuttock]

The one and only thing I'm good at is being a waste of space.

[jamama]

It looks different from the outside for all of us. On the surface I have a fantastic career, lovely home, gorgeous DD, I still fear I'll fuck it up, think the house is a mess, had a MC last year, but a recent course of counseling has really helped me to appreciate and celebrate the good.

[ThePigOfHappiness]

Yep me too. I'm crap at being a good partner (I actually think I'm self sabotaging it because I've never seen a functional normal relationship). I shout regularly at the kids. Since I went back to work I've been giving them crap food far too often. My house is a tip, I cba to clean or tidy it. I don't have any friends, they can obviously see through the facade. The only reason do hasn't left me is because of the kids.

[Gruntfuttock]

I have no friends either ThePigOfHappiness

[newsecretidentity]

I cried at my toothpaste today. I don't know why. How crap is that?

[walkdowntheavenue]

Yep. I don't go through a day where I don't feel utterly shit at everything. I can't get anything right. I don't have one single friend, when my children were born I had no one to call or text to tell them about it. Just all round utter crapness.

[newsecretidentity]

We could all meet up to support each other in our crapness, and exchange tales of woe. But I'd probably be lost, late, have my knickers on show or set fire to the venue...

[Pigeonhouse]

Oh, I don't know, I'm finding this thread kind of liberating. Like a sort of AA meeting where I can stand up and say 'My name is Pigeonhouse and I'm a terrible learner driver, an underachieving academic, the world's slowest novelist, a dreadful dresser, and a frazzled mother to a toddler. Oh, and I couldn't cope with labour at all.'

On the other hand, in real life I get very irritated with other women being self-deprecating. A predominantly male gathering (even an anonymous one) is pretty unlikely to have hordes of men queuing up to admit they are piss-poor as parents, husbands, fathers, pool-players etc.

[grumpyoldbat]

I cock up several times a day and someone likes to rub that in my face at least once a day. I too don't know how I survived to my 30s.

[BoredNinja]

Yup, I feel generally crap at everything. I'm an underachiever, but think tbh it's because I'm not capable of achieving anything.

I'm also another one with no friends. Probably because of my massive inferiority complex. Ho hum.

[hermionepotter]

yes I'm crap at everything

except procrastinating and being disorganised

[newsecretidentity]

It is a bit more fun to look at it that way. For example, I am the BEST at leaving my keys in the front door. And my selection of single socks is simply breathtaking.

[NoodleOodle]

Thank you all. This thread has made me laugh, at myself, first real laugh for an age. My name's NoodleOodle and I'm crap at washing up and dealing with my mail in anything like a timely manner.

[newsecretidentity]

Oh god, the post... I fear the "admin pile" that never seems to get any smaller.

Also, I can't print things at work, and once burned pizza in a microwave so badly that the microwave was destroyed.

[BB01]

Yep, I totally sympathise. I struggle to think of anything useful that I'm good at. I'm ok at running, spelling, and making people laugh but severely lack basic skills in cooking, driving well, parking, making things, etc etc. However I think I'm a pretty good mum and wife despite this