To ask: does anybody else think that they're just really crap at everything...

[newsecretidentity]

all the time?

Seriously, I know I've survived to reach my mid-thirties, so I must have got some things right at some point. But I can't seem to go through a day without cocking something up. Burning the dinner, forgetting my phone, paying a bill late...

Does anybody else get that feeling, or is it just me?

[Boaty]

Another incompetent here too...
How 3 DC made it to adulthood is one of those mysteries of the universe!

[ipswichwitch]

I seem to have been crap at everything this last few weeks (since DS2 arrived 8 weeks ago). I can't get anything done, when I try it seems to take. 5x longer or be 5x harder than it should be. I've been particularly crap today - every conversation with DH has ended in argument, DS1 had been fed crap, I've had no tea (DH going to a party with food so he'll be fine) and watching the Winter Olympics had reminded me how utterly crap I am at all sports.

I shall spend the rest of the night doing the one thing I truly excel at - eating chocolate and watching shite on telly.

[cjbk1]

cannot do anything well! I used to think I did my job well in fact I know I do but I have so many clashes at work I think I'm bad at working with others, my life is like an episode of Miranda but not funny anymore, on good days I think maybe I'm put here to give others a laugh on bad days I can't see a reason at all

[BakingBad]

I'm not good at relationships or friendships - have none really

But, I think it's the way we look at things.

If I do anything that seems to turn out well (how?) I don't think, "Oh, I did well" but "when will it break/fall down/go wrong"

[Littleen]

Feel the same!

[tinypumpkin]

Another one feeling utterly crap in the friend department. Feeling pretty lonely IRL at the moment. Better at admin but that is not amazingly helpful!

[ThePigOfHappiness]

Such a shame that so many of us feel that we're a bit crap. More of a shame that some of is feel we don't have friends because of this. We should sort out a crap quiche

[Custardo]

there wasa thread about what you are good at

and i couldn#'t think of a single thing, i do not excel at anything, i am a below average to average at every aspect

[newsecretidentity]

Only just driven home at 1:30am and forgotten my bleeding phone again. And left my chocolate stash in the work's fridge. So hungry for chocolate...

I lIke the sound of a crap quiche. Coincidentally, my one attempt at making quiche was awful and may have resulted in An evening in the toilet.

[MsAspreyDiamonds]

Yes I have found that post mat leave I am making more mistakes at work than I used to and things that I used to be quick at, I no longer can keep up with. I am shattered and feel like a walking zombie.

[SulkingintheShrubbery]

I'm crap at everything and my long suffering DH is very competent and capable which here's me about to make excuses for myself facilitates my crapness So he's good at his job, can cook, DIY, get along with people, be a brilliant dad ...

[LydiasLunch]

Crap at many many things others find easy. Can't drive even after umpteen years of lessons. When my daughter was diagnosed with dyspraxia EVERYTHING MADE SENSE. I have all the symptoms too but can't afford £700 to be privately diagnosed. Explains huge amounts of my clumsy crapness.

[monkeymamma]

I feel like this too. Can't work out how other people in my position have calm neat organised lives while my day to day existence is shambolic. Pigeon I am learning to drive late in life too! I'm nearly there, my next (6th) test is gonna be a pass, but it's all down to having a nice supportive instructor who doesn't make me feel like I'm crap at it (so important to find someone like that).

[livelablove]

Yes! I am crap at everything too. I think I am reasonably intelligent but its like there is a block between that and accomplishing everyday small things. I am forgetful, messy, disorganised, get tired easily, scruffy, bad at making friends, bad parent, bad driver and parker, rubbish at my job even though i have done it for years, bad at cooking even though i have put a lot of effort in to learning to cook, rubbish at gardening, knitting, bad at looking after my dog thank god dh likes walking her.
A lot of the things i am bad at are things i really want to do well, like parenting or my job.

[kaizen]

I'm crap at house stuff and my house is falling down around me. If I buy something I tend to break it before it's out of the packet, have taped my bike lights onto bike as broke them while fitting them. Broke patio door handle last week so now door won't close, and can't manage basic tasks. Did something really embarrassingly clumsy two weeks ago that would out me on here, but thing that upset me was that it was so bloody typical of me. I'm trying to stop wishing I was someone else as it's unlikely to happen at my age

[Periwonkle]

Funnily enough, or not, I feel like this a lot. And I wonder, am I crap at everything? Have I always been? I didn't used to think I was, for example, when I was single. I thought I was good at lots of things, now I don't feel this way.

[cakewitch]

Im crap at most things. and i know very little about anything too. i exist in my own little bubble.of rubbishness.

[Periwonkle]

On the other had I am glad it is not just me.

[PixieBumbles]

I'm terrible at everything. I'm an awful wife and constantly waiting for my husband to realise how bad I am and leave me. I try my best at my job but it's never enough. I have very few friends, the one good friend I do have is brilliant at everything and makes sure everybody knows it so being around her is a constant reminder of all the things I can't get right. I'm six months pregnant and absolutely terrified that I'm going to fail miserably as a mother. No one knows I feel this way

[JakeBullet]

I can be like this, I do have Dyspraxia though....as does DS. I live in semi organised chaos.....I can get DS to school on time, he has his medication, breakfast and the right clothes etc but it's a huge effort to get it all done. I exist with lists......and manage to get most things ticked off. I have a fab book called "Living with Dyspraxia..A Guide for Adults" which has been a God send.

I sill spend a lot of time beating myself up and not feeling good about any of my achievements. Recently I was asked to be part of a Panel looking at Excellence in Education for our town, I am on it to represent the views of the parents living in the town. The fact that anyone thought me "good enough" and "articulate enough" to do this was a revelation to me. I was actually asked to apply (it is a voluntary role)...and was amazed.

I have had long chats with my GP about my Dyspraxia and how it has left me feeling not good about myself. She points out that I have achieved...and achieved well. I know this is true......but when I have lost my keys for the umpteenth time that day it doesn't feel very true.

Today my list is about tackling the downstairs rooms which are a mess/untidy. I will start in one quarter and work round in 20 minute bursts.....the only way it works for me.

When I was a HV it was awful, I would visit all these beautifully tidy and clean homes....sometimes with four+ children in them. I used to feel soooooo inadequate lol. I always said I was the messy woman's HV....I simply did not notice if a house was untidy....only if it was really filthy...and it had to be truly filthy to get my attention. I certainly noticed all those clean and tidy homes though....and used to wonder "how do you do it"? It didn't occur to me that many would have tidied up simply because "the HV is coming to see me". (Really people, you need not have bothered on MY account...I am the more human HV )

Likewise.....my colleagues all seemed to be married to wealthy professional men/high earning men and lived in beautiful homes buying bespoke furniture and posting it all to Facebook. Meanwhile I was divorced and had to be rehoused by the council....to the local sink estate. God I felt so unworthy surrounded by them all.....all so settled and organised. Coupled wth the effects of the Dyspraxia it left me feeling useless and as though "I hadn't quite made it".

Am glad I left Health Visiting.....am now a volunteer parent supporter and looking at becoming a teaching assistant. The house is less untidy these days but I have strategies in place to help.

[JakeBullet]

Aw Pixie, you will be a GREAT mother, your baby will be loved for a start and that's a pretty good base for any baby to start from. Is your DH supportive? Could you talk to him or your GP about how you feel?

If it's any comfort I was terrified before DS was born......but it was fine....not simple (I learned as I went along) but it was okay and I loved him. The housework went to pot though....and it was never great/easy to start with.

[scaredofthatday]

....and the award goes to....:@

[BB01]

Pixie, you will be brilliant. It's the mums who don't worry who aren't so good.

Periwonkle, I felt confident until I met DH's super-achieving family!

Sinister, I cried the other day because on the rare occasion I was left in charge of making bread, I forgot to put the blade in the breadmaker!

[neverputasockinatoaster]

Signing in.
I have three roles in life - wife, mother and teacher. I feel that I am no good at any of them. I have a shocking memory. I am forever forgetting to take stuff out of the washing machine. The load currently in there is on its third cycle!
D's has an ASD and I know he needs structure but I keep forgetting to stick to the plan.
DH suffers my ineptitude with such fortitude!