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to ask if anyone has been 'outed' in rl from mn?

144 replies

newfavouritething · 19/05/2013 21:41

It seems to crop up from time to time on some threads that some posters say that they're afraid of being outed in rl? Does this or has this actually happened? Is there really that many people reading this? Or is it just paranoia?

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Nagoo · 20/05/2013 21:23

I don't say anything interesting enough that I'd be bothered.

I went through a right paranoid patch, but then I thought 'fuck it' and outed myself with pictures of cat shit and cakes being sick.

MrsMelons · 20/05/2013 21:28

That is awful, all I can say is that she must be very insecure and in fact jealous of you!!

flipchart · 20/05/2013 21:36

Yes and I didn't mind. In a scout leader in the Ribble Valley area so I'm quite well known locally any way.

SoleSource · 20/05/2013 21:44

Hi MrsMelons :):):)

MrsMelons · 20/05/2013 21:46

Hello Smile hope you are ok Sole

olibeansmummy · 20/05/2013 22:09

Sort of, my sister recognised me instantly from a very mundane list about baby shoes. I'm not bothered though and we know each other's posting names [waves to sis].

Bluestocking · 20/05/2013 22:18

A poster inadvertently outed her son - she said that he was studying at the university where I work and mentioned something he'd chosen to do which identified him to me. I did wonder if I should pm her but decided not to.

StickEmUpPunk · 20/05/2013 22:20

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SauceForTheGander · 20/05/2013 22:23

Yes. Awful. Now I N/C

HerrenaLovesStarTrek · 20/05/2013 22:32

Ineedayoninickname - hello there! It's me :) I thought you were friendly, not scary! Serves me right for posting identical things in MN and FB anyway, it was kind of you to get in touch and give me a little reality check.

I have met one or two people in RL whom I am CONVINCED are on MN but haven't recognised them here yet. There were references to gin

Sallystyle · 20/05/2013 22:38

I have no problems with people irl knowing me here. I never put anything on the internet that I wouldn't talk about irl.

The golden rule of internet usage imo. If something is too sensitive that I wouldn't want out irl then I wouldn't post it online, either. I understand why others would and for some MN might be the only support they have, but for me there is no reason to hide who I am.

IneedAyoniNickname · 20/05/2013 22:47

Thanks for letting me know I'm not a scary weirdo herrena! I am relieved (and I am friendly :) )

EatenByZombies · 20/05/2013 23:47

Sorry, 5madthings , but you being outed because of Frubes was pretty hilarious when I read that post Grin

5madthings · 20/05/2013 23:52

Yes yes it is funny! Buy it made dps job very difficult, so no effect for me and I am sure lots of people may recognize me from my posts Andi have friends in RL who know me on here and my sister posts on here as well :)

It was just one if those awful coincidences that the article about the frubes quoted me and at the same time I had a thread in aibu that went a bit mental...

Readyisknitting · 21/05/2013 00:05

My dsd identified me from a post in step-parenting.

It was a Grump, and I was a bit embarrassed that she'd seen it, it wasn't very complimentry about her mum.

PenelopeLane · 21/05/2013 09:42

My step sister posts in another forum and I know her name so have been able to recognize her posts in the past. After reading I was often left wondering if she was either wildly exaggerating details of her life, or living this secret life filled with things and ideas I knew nothing about. Or a bit of both.

TBH I purposely stopped paying attention to her posts after a while. Even though it's all in the public domain etc I started to feel awkward that I knew things she'd never actually told me.

DuelingFanjo · 21/05/2013 13:33

"Am still cross as I do not know who she is on MN"

this^^ it's so annoying isn't it, that's why I always post on threads like this because at the very least I would like the person who passed on my posts to know how much shit they caused by doing so.

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 21/05/2013 13:44

I'm not sure if I have or not. But a couple of years ago a friend told me that her sister had just found out her husband had been having an affair. As she described the circumstances I realised in horror, that I'd read a thread the night before, by her sister. It was very definitely her due to the specific details. I hid the thread and never read it again.

likesnowflakesinanocean · 21/05/2013 13:52

yep and previously namechanged for it but i like this name so anyone that knows me now will have to accept what i like or jog onGrin quite simply

LaQueen · 21/05/2013 15:20

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EleanorHandbasket · 21/05/2013 15:54
EatenByZombies · 21/05/2013 16:40

^ Hahaha

BandersnatchCummerbund · 21/05/2013 17:49

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Mintyy · 21/05/2013 19:13

Oooh 'slightly famous'? how intriguing.

Molehillmountain · 21/05/2013 19:20

I was, but I'd name changed because I thought the story I was going to share would possibly out me. I panicked when the person asked me but then remembered the name change. It's not that I have anything completely secret on here, that won't one day be in the public domain, it's just that I am freer with my opinions and deeper feelings than I would be even with some of my close, albeit not closest, friends. I don't think I say nasty things particularly and that's what would make me feel ashamed if I were outed. I just feel that I look a lot less together than I hope to in real life because that's how you have to be in order to get through the day.