to ask if anyone has been 'outed' in rl from mn?

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It seems to crop up from time to time on some threads that some posters say that they're afraid of being outed in rl? Does this or has this actually happened? Is there really that many people reading this? Or is it just paranoia?

Eats, shoots and leaves Eleanor for dead.

(should have had a , too)

I often wonder how many poster on here are in fact famous, it must be a lovely feeling to be able to talk normally to people and ask advice as in RL you may never know who would repeat your problems especially if in a relationship with someone who is also famous.

I think at least one of my sisters has worked out who I am, but they knew I used the site anyway. I'm careful to avoid discussing family issues. I would namechange if I had something really secret to say.

I came across a close friend by accident. Our DC play with each other all the time. I hadn't realised that she posted on relationships quite a few times and I have actually given her advice on her marriage without realising who she was at the time.

Well, one time she gave away too much rl information and I felt sick when I realised who she was. I had no idea that she had such an unhappy marriage. Because she is such a private person, I felt really embarrassed to tell her I knew - she would have been mortified.

I still haven't told her, I just don't know how to broach the subject tbh. And selfishly, I don't want our relationship to change. And it hasn't, I just decided to bury all the information that I know about her. It's none of my business.

Because of this experience, I name change fairly frequently. You probably won't see MyFunDay any more.

I namechange regularly, as I cannot risk being outed. It is hard, as I miss the friends i'd previously made, and I rarely get to chat to them any longer.

There is someone I know on here, and I have pmed them more than a few times to let them know to namechange, but I just keep on spotting them!

I know outing has caused huge issues for some, bad feelings for others. Anonymity iis one of MN's greatest strengths, as it allows us to be honest.invaluable really.

Yes, I have.
Trust nae fucker, as ScottishMummy says occasionally.

Someone recognised me when I was under another name and sent me a lovely PM. I was really pleased actually, as we'd been friends when both living abroad and had lost contact so t was nice to be in touch again.

I've recognised my cousin's wife who is very well known, here and in other English speaking countries, but as I see them very rarely I didn't say anything. I've also sussed someone who's child is at nursery school with my youngest DD, but I did tell her as her thread involved people we know in RL.

Whose FFS not who's.

Can't think of anyone in my RL circle who admits to hanging out on forums so AFAIK I'm incognito which is just the way I like it.

I have namechanged but haven't summoned up the energy for a while. This thread might focus my mind

Just so I know, what kinds of details would out me? I very careful not to talk about problems on here that have very specific details and I don't usually discuss a problem in real life that I've also talked about on here.

My RL friends tend to refer to the other site more than MN, at which I just nod and smile and judge. Yes, some do call me "hun" IRL.

I give away far too much information on here, I sometimes tweak details about DC ages just to try to throw people off.

But yes, I get scared when I remember that thread when someone put all the info together and had a frightening amount of data about the volunteer....

I have. I name change quite abit because of it.
There is nothing worse than chatting at the school gate and finding another mum thinks I might like to read something she read on the Internet. Then emails me with a thread I'm on.
Ffs

Molehill stuff that would out you:

• location-related stuff
• disclosing your age, DCs' age, Professions
• wearing the Mumsnet scarf
• uttering the words "naice ham" or admitting an aversion to Greggs or Fruit Shoots IRL
• offering Pom Bear crisps with glee at any gathering

Oh, and putting something on Facebook and also posting a thread about it on here .

Ah, if the ages and professions are critical I'd better pop off and name change! I fear the Pom bear situation is irretrievable but commonplace! And I shop at asda so the naice ham thing probably not a problem!

Kim - is there a teacher alive who is in favour of his reforms?

Wasn't Gove's wife a MN er?

Molehill is leaving the virtual building...who knows what I'll be next. And all because of the Pom bears.

The pombear thing still makes me laugh every time its referrenced.

I think that it is very easy on here and on other social media to imagine that you're having a cosy chat with your mates. Of course what you are doing is publishing things on the internet, which isn't really the same.

I very rarely discuss anyone I know on here, I give opinions on other peoples stories, but I don't often disclose my own.I'll ask for advice, but rarely on things that involve people I know. I know a couple of people on here irl, and I think I am fairly identifiable. I hope though that I don't post anything that would cause any rl upset. I am a teacher and think this makes me more cautious about what I post online.

How do you do a pombear?

My new favourite smiley.

Gove's wife is Sarah Vine,beauty columnist in The Times and occasional columnist elsewhere.

She has a political opinion on everything.

A stalwart supporter of her DHs views.