to ask if anyone has been 'outed' in rl from mn?

[newfavouritething]

It seems to crop up from time to time on some threads that some posters say that they're afraid of being outed in rl? Does this or has this actually happened? Is there really that many people reading this? Or is it just paranoia?

[lostproperty]

I have been...not long ago and I was absolutely mortified. It was completely my fault as I was giving too many recognizable details about myself and my life...The lady who recognized me was really kind and we are still friends even if she knows some of my secrets !

[poorchurchmouse]

No (at least so far as I know) but I don't post much. I did recognise a RL friend on here once, but didn't let on and didn't make a note of her MN name. She hadn't posted anything I didn't know anyway so probably wouldn't have been fussed.

[poorchurchmouse]

No (at least so far as I know) but I don't post much. I did recognise a RL friend on here once, but didn't let on and didn't make a note of her MN name. She hadn't posted anything I didn't know anyway so probably wouldn't have been fussed.

[PimpMyHippo]

I haven't been outed on here, but on another forum I used when I was a very stupid teenager, I posted about someone who'd done something that made me angry (eg. if I overheard them making a racist comment - it wasn't that, but along those lines) and she recognised herself from the post and was very angry! It was someone linked to my work so she complained to my boss. She said I was posting lies about her but I wasn't, my post was true!

I've learnt my lesson and now try not to post anything I wouldn't say to someone's face. I still try to stay anonymous though, mostly just because I'd be a bit embarrassed if I was outed - young single childless people are not supposed to be addicted to mumsnet!

[MrsMelons]

I am not sure it would bother me if I was outed. I post lots of RL stuff and experiences on here but nothing that is hugely personal. I asked some personal advice about a relationship once which I name changed for, anything else is probably stuff I have discussed in RL anyway.

I do wonder if I chat to people on here that I then go off and chat to on the school run which I find quite odd.

[Ruprekt]

Yes I have.

It involved a lot of people, threatened my job, had to change my 10 year posting name.

I have never spoken to the bitch since though she knows she outed me.

Am still cross as I do not know who she is on MN!!

[Blueandwhitelover]

I regularly name change, I do feel a bit sad about it as on another forum I made a lot of friends who I met up with in real life.
However, I work in a school so want to protect myself!

[VivaLeBeaver]

I feel I should name change but never do.

[fizzzness]

Same here blueandwhotelover , I name change loads. I miss the chance to build up a reputation and friendships. But it also stops it being so
Addictive

[matchpoint]

I've recognised a few people on here. Had a little stalk, then moved on with my life. End of story. Can't believe some of the stories on here about job losses etc!

[itsallshitandmoreshit]

I 'know' someone on here. She talks regularly about where she comes from and lots of identifying details. I know enough about her from her to know that she is an aquaintance in real-life.

I assume she doesn't care about anonymity as she doesn't seem to censor. I haven't outed her and try not to think about it.

Recently I nearly defended her on a thread where someone accused her of exaggerating and I knew she wasn't

She's a regular poster too [taps nose]

[IneedAyoniNickname]

I recognized someone on here once as they posted the same things on here and facebook. I pm'd her, saying I.knew who she was and now we are facebook friends.

Oh god, just realised I sound like a total nutter, contacting someone like that! It was meant to be friendly! I can't remember her mn name, and haven't recognized her since.

I hope if anyone recognizes me, they'd say so!

[marriedinwhiteagain]

Not outed but a v lovely mnnetter realised I might know some of her family and I did. We now have lovely pm exchanges from time to time and eventually will meet up.

[DiaryOfAWimpyMum]

Yes a few times not so much recently though I name change regularly

[Catmint]

I just can't imagine the scenario where anyone would give enough of a shit about what I say to either 'out' me or not!

[redwellybluewelly]

Some of my posts here were then repliacted and i was outed in another forum, very nastily and so I NC'ed and lay low for a while.

It bothers me less now but I never post to do with work and I'm cautious about posting about family.

[domesticslattern]

I was once at a playgroup and recognised someone and realised I knew all of her sexual problems in quite some detail.
That's why I namechange a lot.

[PaleHousewifeOfCumbriaCounty]

Not on here but another forum, i recognised a good friends sister. She had made the fatal error of posting the same thing on FB as forum... So i looked at her other posts to find her bitching about her sister a lot! Awkwarrrrrrd.

[amazingmumof6]

I tell people in RL that I'm on MN and if they recognize me they should pm me.

not happened yet

[GeppaGip]

I name change quite a bit now. Not because I have personally been outed but on another, similar forum, I started reading a post and realised it was about me! Dug a bit deeper and discovered it was someone who was a good friend who had used me anecdotally in a number of posts but twisted things so that the posts weren't even true. I have no idea why someone would do this, but I did find out what she really thought of me haha.

She doesn't know I know and I would never say but it has had a detrimental effect on our friendship and I am often 'too busy' to meet up now.

It was a good lesson for me to learn without ever feeling the pain of an 'outing'.

[SoleSource]

I haven't as i know nobody haha

[MrsMelons]

I am not sure I would not be able to tell someone if I recognised them, especially if the story was about me.

I sometimes twist things to make them less recognisable but never to make someone seem worse.

[GeppaGip]

It was just pointless lies, Mrs Melons. I fell pregnant a few months after her. Her 'story' on this forum, where someone had asked - "have any of your friends been jealous of your pregnancy?" was that I had been trying to get pregnant for years, she fell pregnant, I was jealous and upset but lo and behold, managed to conceive shortly afterwards. Apart from the conception the rest was absolute bollocks and just didn't happen! My pregnancy was a (very happy) surprise! I knew it was 'supposed' to be me from other details. Why? Just why?

Others were nasty and if I elaborate it would out me, lol.