AIBU to think that it's inappropriate to joke that ...

[Lessthanaballpark]

the Ohio situation was "a sexual fantasy for both sides"

OTOH I want to think IABU because I see this person regularly and he's an otherwise lovely person and of course he was only joking but OTOH it made me feel physically sick and uncomfortable.

Why would anyone say that?

WHAT?

That is not a 'joke'. He is not a lovely person to think or utter that.

YABU, it would only be inappropriate if he said to the victims or those close to them.

YANBU

It is insensitive and disgusting. Even if it is not said directly to the victims or those close to them, you never know who has experienced abuse in their lives and how it may upset someone, so any sort of "joke" about any kind of abuse/rape is in very poor taste.

I strongly disagree Chips, it's inappropriate to even think it IMO.

Those poor girls.

I think that reveals quite a sinister way of thinking to be honest. You should have pulled him up on it at the time.

These women were children when they were abducted and were routinely raped and violently abused. I would have a serious sense of humour failure about that.

At the very least it shows a lack of compassion and human empathy.

I'm not sure how you get a joke out of that ?

Chips Are you being serious? Do you actually think it's okay to say that about victims of kidnap, imprisonment and rape?

YANBU - That's just not a joke, it's sick.

Well obviously "those poor girls" but there's nothing wrong with making a joke about appalling things.

"At the very least it shows a lack of compassion and human empathy."

Ridiculous statement.

I would find that comment distasteful. However, one comment does not a personality make, it may have been an off-moment.

I'm sorry to say but I wouldn't look at anyone the same who could say such a thing and think it was funny. It suggests to me there is some moral fibre missing.

Chips Please explain how what the OP has said could even be described as a joke?

Chips you are the one being ridiculous.

Are you a Frankie Boyle fan by any chance?

Of course it's inappropriate and, frankly, quite sick.

Chips - are you Bernard Manning?

Chips but it's not a funny joke - basically it's just saying that the girls were enjoying it? Rape apologist anyone?

(and I have definitely laughed at inappropriate jokes that were actually humourous, this one is just, yuk)

I wouldnt be speaking to him again tbh. Its incomprehensible how wrong that "joke" is.

x post with Fenton.

*humorous

Fenton I don't even think Frankie Boyle would call that particular comment a joke!

Also there are some situations that aren't really joke material, this one is probably one of them

YANBU.

There's nothing funny about that situation. Would take a pretty weird person to think there was.

Mardy

I wanted to say 'are you Frankie Boyle?' but thought it might count as a PA.

Yes Chips - must be hilarious joking about women being punched in the stomach to miscarry the rapist's babies. Jeez, what are you on?

It's not a joke It's just a deeply, deeply weird thing to say. For a joke to work it has to have some basis in truth, or subvert the truth in some way.

I'd definitely be reconsidering my assessment of that person as "lovely".