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To think they did this on purpose? PIL related

302 replies

Dannilion · 02/05/2013 16:01

Bit of background..

PIL's are shit with money. They have had failed business after failed business, declared themselves bankrupt, borrowed £££££'s from friends as investments, asked DH to launder money for them etc.

FIL is nice enough, just made some very silly decisions as well as being on the receiving end of some very bad luck. MIL are very different but get on on a surface level.

Anyways, a few months ago PIL's came round and asked if they could open a bank account in DH's name in order to receive their wages or something as due to their bankruptcy they were struggling with doing so. DH said no, as it was obviously illegal and he is also self employed and didn't want to be investigated. Also PFB was due and we were worried about the effect it would have on us when it came to claiming tax credits etc. Not that we should have had to have given a reason for not wanting to partake in this, but we had plenty.

Fast forward to them coming to visit the baby last week and bringing some letters for him that had arrived at their address. He gets the odd one every so often. He opens one and it's from Santander, thanking him for opening a new account. He never opened a new account with them, ever.

PIL's were very quick to say 'oh your father opened an account with them but they did it in the wrong name by accident, never mind all sorted now etc' and changed the subject.

I just can't see how a bank could open an account in the wrong name for someone who hasn't lived at that address in years. All his other mail comes here so if there is some sort of grand database it would had him at our home address surely?

I haven't broached this with DH yet as it would be devastating for him. But AIBU to think that they have probably gone ahead and opened a bank account in his name? Obviously if they have we will have to deal with it ASAP.

OP posts:
Pendipidy · 07/05/2013 21:21

Op , come back!

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 08/05/2013 08:17

Any news?

Camwombat · 08/05/2013 15:04

OP, where are you??????

cumfy · 12/05/2013 23:50

Anything happen ?

JackieTheFart · 13/05/2013 01:27

Just dropped in to say I agree with K8 about contacting the bank first. They have huge departments dedicated to fraud as they have a duty to protect customer's and also their own reputation. I think it unlikely staff are involved - there are very heavy personal fines and jail time as deterrents! Also, if they opened a savings account or a basic account they may not have needed to show ID? Don't know all the details, but if no borrowing can happen then maybe this is the case?

I hope DH has called the fraud team back. Credit checks may not show anything yet other than a search under his name as it can take up to 6 weeks for the info to be updated.

What a horrible situation. Thank god your PIL were too stupid to keep the information to themselves though - if they had, you might never have found out.

suburbophobe · 13/05/2013 02:15

I haven't broached this with DH yet as it would be devastating for him.

We're on page 12 now so this may have been resolved already, but what do you mean?

He didn't get it? That their parents went behind his back and opened an account in his name?

Whatever, you and him need complete clarity with each other and find out how you can stop his parents using him for their - basically - criminal activities.....

glastocat · 13/05/2013 02:41

I'm an ex bank auditor, and K8middletons advice is spot on.

ChairmanMeoww · 13/05/2013 21:10

K8 is spot on. Speaking as a senior financial crime employee at another bank.

CrapBag · 13/05/2013 21:32

Just read this!

Bloody shocking. Hope you come back and update OP. And I hope the PIL think this was worth their family relationships. They are dreadful dreadful people.

fryingpantoface · 13/05/2013 21:39

Hi OP, any update? Did things get sorted?

buildingmycorestrength · 19/05/2013 22:00

Also keen to know what happened?

lechatnoir · 23/05/2013 20:25

just wondering if there has been any update on this thread?

buildingmycorestrength · 29/05/2013 14:47

Danillion (OP) is back posting elsewhere. Wonder if she'll come back here...

mummymccar · 01/06/2013 21:28

Hoping that it has gone quiet because all is well OP. x

quietlysuggests · 01/06/2013 21:54

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 01/06/2013 22:12

Nah,i once met a 'chief inspirer' now that's a title

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 01/06/2013 22:15

Sorry for being flippant Dannilion, you're in a tough spot.

Hope all has worked out and you sorted it without causing too much trouble for the in laws. However they may have deserved it.

SybilRamkin · 01/08/2013 16:13

Just wondering about this thread, what happened OP?

nauticant · 08/08/2013 13:54

Sadly, Dannilion was killed and eaten by her PILs who took over her MN account so they could post in her name so no one would ever know.

doorbellringer · 08/08/2013 16:00
Grin
doorbellringer · 08/08/2013 16:02

Maybe MN opened the account under the wrong name but its all sorted now.
Sorry not being horrible to the OP just thought nauticant was amusing.

ImperialBlether · 08/08/2013 16:29

Oh no! I've just read all of this with horror for the poor OP and her husband, only to find it's an older thread with no conclusion!

riskit4abiskit · 08/08/2013 17:03

I wanted to know too!

newbiefrugalgal · 24/08/2013 11:45

Thought an update was here too!

Misknit · 24/08/2013 12:16

OP updated on another thread. It's with the ombudsman. It seems it was a clerical error on the bank's part.