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To think they did this on purpose? PIL related

302 replies

Dannilion · 02/05/2013 16:01

Bit of background..

PIL's are shit with money. They have had failed business after failed business, declared themselves bankrupt, borrowed £££££'s from friends as investments, asked DH to launder money for them etc.

FIL is nice enough, just made some very silly decisions as well as being on the receiving end of some very bad luck. MIL are very different but get on on a surface level.

Anyways, a few months ago PIL's came round and asked if they could open a bank account in DH's name in order to receive their wages or something as due to their bankruptcy they were struggling with doing so. DH said no, as it was obviously illegal and he is also self employed and didn't want to be investigated. Also PFB was due and we were worried about the effect it would have on us when it came to claiming tax credits etc. Not that we should have had to have given a reason for not wanting to partake in this, but we had plenty.

Fast forward to them coming to visit the baby last week and bringing some letters for him that had arrived at their address. He gets the odd one every so often. He opens one and it's from Santander, thanking him for opening a new account. He never opened a new account with them, ever.

PIL's were very quick to say 'oh your father opened an account with them but they did it in the wrong name by accident, never mind all sorted now etc' and changed the subject.

I just can't see how a bank could open an account in the wrong name for someone who hasn't lived at that address in years. All his other mail comes here so if there is some sort of grand database it would had him at our home address surely?

I haven't broached this with DH yet as it would be devastating for him. But AIBU to think that they have probably gone ahead and opened a bank account in his name? Obviously if they have we will have to deal with it ASAP.

OP posts:
sicutlilium · 03/05/2013 14:00

Yep, say "I have been advised that I must not discuss this matter". That should make them sweat.

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 03/05/2013 15:57

Any update OP? I hope both you and your DH are ok.

AngelDelightIsIndeedDelightful · 03/05/2013 16:39

I don't doubt that the pils are up to something here, but am struggling to see how it has worked in practice. Surely if they were in branch with someone she might have noticed that your fil looked a teensy bit older than the DOB he was quoting? Did she think he'd aged badly??

I don't think you need a code to open an equifax online account. I would definitely second all of the pps who have stressed that you should check your credit report. Tbh, everybody should really, but definitely when you have slippery as fish ils.

I have seen the devastation caused to my dh by his worthless mother, but even she never committed a criminal offence to stitch him up. Hope you can get it resolved quickly and easily.

ChestyNut · 03/05/2013 17:10

How awful for you and DH Sad
Can't imagine how poor DH feels being betrayed by his parents like that.

Hope Velcro baby has a better night Thanks

CommanderShepard · 03/05/2013 18:06

I really feel for you - I've been the victim of fraud before and it's bad enough when it's some random but family? Words fail me.

StuntGirl · 03/05/2013 18:21

Have you/your husband managed to speak to the bank today dannilion?

SugarPasteGreyhound · 03/05/2013 18:59

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Blu · 03/05/2013 19:13

Since the OP's DH has already told the bank to close the account and that he didn't open it, I doubt the risk of being seen as an accomplice or having HMRC breaking down the front door are minimal for now.

Probably best to deal with it when he can be calm and effective, and not by jeopardising his job.

Be preprared for MIL to arrive with another oven-ready crock of shit, trying to cover her tracks or emotionally blackmail DH out of taking action. Just take no notice, and say 'it's all in hand, I don't know how this happened, but the bank are now dealing with it. Lovely weather, isn't it?' and dpn't go into details.

helenthemadex · 03/05/2013 21:15

hope you have managed to sort things out, its sounds a really horrible position to be in

brizzagirl · 03/05/2013 22:59

How awful OP, that is bad enough at any time but unbelievably stressful with a newborn.
If you still only have a premium number for the fraud department you could try this website to see if there is a landline number for the same department which isn't a premium one.
www.saynoto0870.com/

Please keep us posted.

buildingmycorestrength · 04/05/2013 09:12

OP, I've been thinking about you. I hope things have moved forward productively with the bank and credit check.

I keep thinking that the emotional fallout from the PILs is probably awful already. Hope you are okay and able to protect yourself and the baby.

travailtotravel · 04/05/2013 10:39

Keep us posted, thinking of you!

ModernToss · 04/05/2013 18:08

I've been worrying about you too. Horrible, horrible situation for you and your poor DH.

INeedThatForkOff · 04/05/2013 18:46

Can I just ask, do posters really think of MN threads when they're going about their daily lives, or is it just a euphemism for being impatient for gossip news?

cozietoesie · 04/05/2013 18:56

I do on occasion. I always assume that someone only comes here for advice if they have a real issue and I think hard, myself, about any advice I give - so I like to see whether the situation is such that more thought is needed.

But that's just me.

Xiaoxiong · 04/05/2013 19:10

Ineed I did think about the OP today. I was telling DH about this thread over lunch and he asked whether the OP's DH was ok and had managed to close the account. I didn't know, so checked to see if the thread had been updated.

Fingers crossed no news is good news...

claudedebussy · 04/05/2013 19:22

yes i do. sometimes the lives of others touches me deeply, even though it's just the net. still people on the other end.

SugarPasteGreyhound · 04/05/2013 19:40

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YellowDinosaur · 04/05/2013 20:24

Here's hoping that the reason there has been no update is because now there is a proper fraud +/- criminal investigation the op can't be seen to publicly discuss it as it might compromise the investigation and subsequent prosecution....

ChestyNut · 05/05/2013 09:39

Hoping you've got it sorted OP?

Areyoumadorisitme · 06/05/2013 00:02

Hope the weekend has gone ok Dannilon, have been wondering how you and DH'S are getting on?

cumfy · 06/05/2013 01:42

Well, Santander will have kept copies of everything supplied.

Just wondering how long before the police get involved.

I'm guessing this Thursday.

cumfy · 06/05/2013 01:55

Wonder if they're trying to make out that they were trying to open an account for PFB DGC ?

"Oh the girl got mixed up who was the baby who was the father, it was all going to be a big surprise " HmmHmmHmm

PeeJayEll · 06/05/2013 18:45

Oh, this is absolutely dreadful for you all. Hope it's all sorted as soon as possible

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