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To not be enjoying working in my new job which includes Sundays

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freakazoidroid · 20/04/2013 06:47

I worked in a shop 2 days a week , mon & fri. A friend who worked in another shop put me forward for a job in her shop. The money is very good £9.28 for retail.
However, I now work Sunday 11-4, Monday 9.30-5.30, thurs 9.30-5.30 and fri 9.30-5.30. I dont work tues, weds or saturday.
My children are 5 and 13. . I have only been doing the job 2 weeks but I miss a weekend with the family. Saturday, is busy with swimming lessons and Sunday I work now. I really feel like I am missing family time . My daughter is in reception and I miss picking and collecting her that extra day. I feel like I really am
Missing these special years.
I need to work as we do need the money , but I feel so sad about the lack of family time :(

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Branleuse · 20/04/2013 06:50

I don't think there's many retail jobs where you won't work either one or both days at the weekend. probably takes some getting used to but congratulation on your new job x

MortifiedAdams · 20/04/2013 06:58

BUt surely you knew the hours before accepting the job?

Most jobs involve less sociable hours than mon-fri 9-5. You have to weight up whether working the Sunday and sacrificing that time is worth the money.

JellyMould · 20/04/2013 06:59

Why not move swimming so you have one clear family day? It sounds to me like a pretty good position if you need the money.

maddening · 20/04/2013 07:11

Dh can take dc to swimming on a sunday and you can have a family day on Saturday?

You still have 2 weekdays off which is nice.

Squarepebbles · 20/04/2013 07:23

Yes. I'd move swimming.If you moved it to a day you worked and managed to get somebody else to do the dreaded swimming run even better.

flowery · 20/04/2013 07:24

I think talking about "missing these special years" is melodramatic tbh. You have a part time job, working what, 25 hours a week? You do the school run at least twice a week (if you don't start til 9.30 the weekdays you work does that in fact mean you do it every morning?)

Sort it out so swimming is on Sunday then you have a clear family day on Saturday.

Squarepebbles · 20/04/2013 07:26

I don't think she's being melodramatic,you only get them once ad it goes by in a flash,better to question and examine the situation now than to have regrets later.

purrpurr · 20/04/2013 07:32

Much sympathy OP, I don't have kids and worked weekends (office work - not fair to be in the office on, say, Easter Sunday!) for 7 years before I finally got a job that was Monday to Friday. They seem so rare these days. And for me, it never stopped feeling like an imposition on my personal time. I later went on to provide on call support on a 24 hour basis and I never minded the 2am phonecalls, whereas I always ALWAYS minded being in the office on a Sunday.
YANBU. I'd feel sad too if I had to do weekends and I had family. I know so many people work weekends these days, but it was always a shock to me.

HollyBerryBush · 20/04/2013 07:38

Just as well the emergency services and military don't feel anything outside Mon-Fri, 9-5 is 'an imposition on personal time'

I always take the view that most people would prefer a roof over their heads and food on the table. Therefore you work. Just because a weekend is traditionally Sat and Sun doesn't mean you have to order your week that way.

It was public demand that forced weekend opening - I'd prefer it if shops weren't open. All it's done is driven a culture where everyone is on the go all the time and no one relaxes anymore..

GoblinGranny · 20/04/2013 07:40

Welcome to the world of working.

DolomitesDonkey · 20/04/2013 07:43

It's a cunt isn't it, shops opening at the weekend and all.

Itsnotahoover · 20/04/2013 07:48

You get used to it after a while :) I work three jobs, so some hours every single day of the week, but weekends I do full time hours whereas the other days are just part time. It killed me at first but I'm doing it to pay the bills and its serving a purpose!

BrienneOfTarth · 20/04/2013 07:48

either do swimming on Tue or Wed, or perhaps DP could go with them on Mon/Thur/Fri - there will be other pools with other timetables for lessons - or shock horror you don't HAVE to prioritise swimming lessons over your only opportunity to have a family day together. It's all about priorities and you can make different choices. You are getting more time with your DCs than some people can afford, so just structure it wisely.

Badvoc · 20/04/2013 07:53

But surely you knew the working hours when you accepted job?
There are very very few retail jobs where you do not have to work one or both days at the weekend!
I second the idea of moving swimming to another day.

starsandunicorns · 20/04/2013 07:54

11-4 on sunday is not that bad when i did retail my shift was 10-5:30 with 30 mins travling either side. you would of signed the contract for your hours.

You still see them pre work on sunday for a few hours with your 5 yr old and home for teatime. I know a good few people who would bite your hand off for work and that pay rate

purrpurr · 20/04/2013 07:57

Holly Just as well the emergency services and military don't feel anything outside Mon-Fri, 9-5 is 'an imposition on personal time' Jesus christ, nasty much?

ParsleyTheLioness · 20/04/2013 08:03

Yes, Holly, I don't think that Purr was actually working for the emergency services, so don't get your point really...

Squarepebbles · 20/04/2013 08:05

I agree Purr heaven forbid anybody should want to be with their children and feel sad that they're missing time.

Jinty64 · 20/04/2013 08:05

YANBU to feel like this but if you need the money it's what you have to do.

As a nurse I worked weekends for many years before moving to clinics where I work full time over 4 days. To many this sounds perfect but they are long days, the nature of the work is very stressful and the clinics are very busy. I don't have a lot at the end of the day to give to the dc's. I often end up going to meetings, doing paperwork, preperation or working from home on my day off just to get everything done so everything "household" gets pushed onto the weekends. I need the money so it isn't a choice.

I have stopped swimming lessons for ds3 on a Saturday (ds's 1&2 are now really good swimmers) and we do a family swim on a Sunday instead and I am teaching him myself - he is learning faster anyway! Make the most of the time you have off or keep looking for something that suits better.

HollyBerryBush · 20/04/2013 08:09

I was pointing out some people have to work, some choose to work anti-social hours.

I forgot, everything has to be typed out base line.

thistlelicker · 20/04/2013 08:16

I have to work two weekends a month. I work alternative shifts to my husband and he works Monday to Friday! So realistically I only spend 4 days a month with him! We both work full time but have no dc but it means we appreciate the time we do have and accommodate our lives to this! It's simple.... Work and deal with it or don't work and deal with it

Lj8893 · 20/04/2013 08:20

YABU to think you can work in retail and not work weekends!!!

flowery · 20/04/2013 08:22

Can't you think about it more positively OP?

You have been fortunate enough to be in a financial position when your children were younger that you only had to work two days a week.

Now your children are older and at school, you are fortunate enough to have the opportunity to increase your hours and pay so you have more money to buy things they need/want.

Win win.

ENormaSnob · 20/04/2013 08:24

It's only 5 hours and as you said, you need the money.

If it makes you feel better I work 2 full weekends in 4. Plus Easter and Christmas etc. It's not ideal but I knew what the job entailed when I accepted it.

Yabu.

johnworf · 20/04/2013 08:27

If you take a job in retail then you would expect to work weekends. It's probably their busiest time.

I am self employed and have a shop which means I work every Saturday. You just have to rejuggle your your activities to fit in with your days off.

I never pick my reception age DD up and she goes in after school club. She loves it. Don't beating yourself up about not being there to collect her. As long as you put other arrangements in place then she'll most probably be fine.

Alternatively you could start looking for another job that fits in around you family life. Working in a school perhaps?

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