To not be enjoying working in my new job which includes Sundays

[freakazoidroid]

I worked in a shop 2 days a week , mon & fri. A friend who worked in another shop put me forward for a job in her shop. The money is very good £9.28 for retail.
However, I now work Sunday 11-4, Monday 9.30-5.30, thurs 9.30-5.30 and fri 9.30-5.30. I dont work tues, weds or saturday.
My children are 5 and 13. . I have only been doing the job 2 weeks but I miss a weekend with the family. Saturday, is busy with swimming lessons and Sunday I work now. I really feel like I am missing family time . My daughter is in reception and I miss picking and collecting her that extra day. I feel like I really am
Missing these special years.
I need to work as we do need the money , but I feel so sad about the lack of family time :(

[HappyMummyOfOne]

Instead of moaning, concentrate on being lucky enough to only have to work 25 hours a week. Most dont get that luxury.

How many DH's are expected to work full time plus to bring home an income, cant imagine you would be best pleased if your husband decided he misses the school run so cut his hours right down.

Special years can be heavily over rated, i can barely remember beiing five and certainly dont remember who fetched me from school each night.

[KevinFoley]

Plan something nice for when you get home just after 4pm Sunday so work doesn't dominate/ruin the whole of your Sunday. A trip to the cinema, swimming, or a meal out, for example.

[RubyGates]

I actually "volunteer" to work every other Sunday because WE NEED THE MONEY.

You don't get to pick and choose if you want to put food on the table.

I work 23 hours a week plus 4 every other Sunday so pretty much the same as you. Suck it up, or get another job. (Are Sundays no longer rostered only using those who choose to work? They always used to be. There used to be legislation in place, when did things change?)

[RubyGates]

Is this helpful?
www.gov.uk/sunday-working

[RubyGates]

"Opting out of Sunday working

All other shop workers and betting shop workers can opt out of Sunday working by giving 3 months? notice.

An employer needing staff to work on Sundays must tell them in writing that they can opt out. They must do this within 2 months of the person starting work - if they don?t, only one month?s notice is needed to opt out.

Staff can opt in to Sunday working, but mustn?t be treated unfairly if they opt out."

[noisytoys]

I work 7 days a week. Still part time, but I get paid for the hours I work so I work.

[FasterStronger]

Op, I wonder if you just need to adjust. We waste lots of time at the weekend, but we could still do the good stuff if we had to work by arranging our time better.

Maybe you need to look at all you time, week and weekend and do some planning. Its only 25 hours so you do have plenty of time.

[thistlelicker]

Sounds like op wants it all.... Lots of time and money!!! Living in real world u have o adjust and accommodate

[hedgefund]

when my ds were really small i worked after school and all holidays and most sat/sundays. just had to work those hours or be broke! you get used to it x

[TheCrackFox]

When I worked shifts I utterly hated working Sundays.

DH always works 9am-midnight on a Saturday and I can cope with that but I hate it when he works a Sunday. It just feels like we have no family time.

Op, the money is great so I would keep at it for now. Is there anyway you can change the swimming lessons for a day after school? That way Saturday could be your big family day.

[scottishmummy]

missing special years,no.you have a v light work schedule,and only 1weekend work day
You're not velcroed to your kids you don't need to see every burp,swim,or precious moment
This is all v indulgent,and ignoring obvious fact you work because you need money

[comfysofas]

Over £9 an hour to work in retail I can only dream of that.

[Squarepebbles]

Op could you cut back in order to be able to drop hours?

We live quite frugally and it's amazing what you can live without.Being broke in exchange for more family time is preferable for many.

[Jinsei]

I agree with the majority, OP. You don't have to like it, but if you need the money, then you'll just have to suck it up or find another job. It's a good idea to move the swimming lessons so that you have your Saturdays clear.

[Bobyan]

You made a choice to go for more money and you knew the hours, I can't really see why your are moaning, given the current job market.

[Squarepebbles]

She isn't she is feeling sad,can't say I blame her.

[iloveshortshorts]

Your lucky to do 11 - 4 my sundays 8 - 5 meaning i had to get up at 6 on a sunday.
Sigh

[iloveshortshorts]

*are

[TheCrackFox]

I used to work 7am-4pm on a Sunday. That really was shit as if I was lucky to get a Saturday night off I couldn't really enjoy it.

[HappySunflower]

I can totally see why you feel you're not getting a weekend. So you work Thursday, Friday, Sunday and Monday? Hence you cant ally do anything much as a family at the weekend aside from a Saturday.

I would look to change your hours. I'd rather work in the evenings than lose daytime weekend hours.

[Hiphopopotamus]

The OP just said she was struggling - she's not moaning, or making a fuss.

If you've never worked weekends, it is an adjustment. I do shift work, and I never feel quite right working on a Sunday. These days a lot of people have to, but I can never quite shake the feeling that I'm out of step with the rest of the country!

Also, I really hate the implication that because jobs are scarce, you have no right to moan as you should just be grateful for employment. Of course you can still voice complaints and struggles without being labeled 'ungrateful'

All I can say OP is that you do get used to it. Concentrate on making Saturday a quality family time, and you will hopefully settle into a routine soon!

[Karoleann]

Just opt out - I did this (work weren't very happy about it), but it did make for a better life/work balance especially since I worked saturdays too.

[janey68]

Tbh overall I think this sounds like a very good life balance and if your dh is working a conventional 5 days a week, it might actually be quite
Nice for him to do swimming with the kids? If you can't bear to miss it, then rearrange- you only work part time so it shouldnt be hard

If you really really cannot bear what you are doing then talk to your dh (because he has a say in all this too- they are his kids
Too and you both share a responsibility for keeping a roof over your heads) and look at how you can adjust.

But frankly, with your children at school age already, I think you have a reasonable balance. Your children will be absolutely fine either way btw- whether you change your job or stick with this one. And that's
The most important thing

[StuntGirl]

Well you can either get used to it for the higher income or quit and get another job.

£9.28 an hour is excellent for retail, and I suspect you were lucky to get away with not working weekends previously. Perhaps something outside of retail would be better suited for you?