To not be enjoying working in my new job which includes Sundays

[freakazoidroid]

I worked in a shop 2 days a week , mon & fri. A friend who worked in another shop put me forward for a job in her shop. The money is very good £9.28 for retail.
However, I now work Sunday 11-4, Monday 9.30-5.30, thurs 9.30-5.30 and fri 9.30-5.30. I dont work tues, weds or saturday.
My children are 5 and 13. . I have only been doing the job 2 weeks but I miss a weekend with the family. Saturday, is busy with swimming lessons and Sunday I work now. I really feel like I am missing family time . My daughter is in reception and I miss picking and collecting her that extra day. I feel like I really am
Missing these special years.
I need to work as we do need the money , but I feel so sad about the lack of family time :(

[greenfolder]

you are not being unreasonable to feel that you are missing out in comparison to what you used to do. but you need to set your mind to your new hours. you need the money, the money is good. the hours are not bad at all overall. make saturday your family day and now weather is picking up, you could do stuff after school on the days you pick up dc.

i have just started a full time job- dd 5 in breakfast club and afterschool 5 days a week, but needs must and all that. life is a compromise.

[FasterStronger]

if the OP opts out of Sunday working, if I were her employer, I would just switch her to Saturday working.

as she would still need to keep the same hours under her employment contract. I expect everyone in the company works Saturday and/or Sunday so it would not be treating her unfairly. it would in fact be fair to her and everyone else.

she has no legal right not to work at the weekends, which is what she wants. I would stick with it, and either get used to it, or look for a job outside of retail.

[scottishmummy]

Op only in post 2weeks,surely knew the days prior to accepting job?
It's well paid,she needs the money. Maybe Reschedule the swimming class?
I don't think it's an onerous schedule and make best of the tome you do have instead of feeling precious moments are missed

[StuntGirl]

Well you can either get used to it for the higher income or quit and get another job.

£9.28 an hour is excellent for retail, and I suspect you were lucky to get away with not working weekends previously. Perhaps something outside of retail would be better suited for you?

[janey68]

Tbh overall I think this sounds like a very good life balance and if your dh is working a conventional 5 days a week, it might actually be quite
Nice for him to do swimming with the kids? If you can't bear to miss it, then rearrange- you only work part time so it shouldnt be hard

If you really really cannot bear what you are doing then talk to your dh (because he has a say in all this too- they are his kids
Too and you both share a responsibility for keeping a roof over your heads) and look at how you can adjust.

But frankly, with your children at school age already, I think you have a reasonable balance. Your children will be absolutely fine either way btw- whether you change your job or stick with this one. And that's
The most important thing

[Karoleann]

Just opt out - I did this (work weren't very happy about it), but it did make for a better life/work balance especially since I worked saturdays too.

[Hiphopopotamus]

The OP just said she was struggling - she's not moaning, or making a fuss.

If you've never worked weekends, it is an adjustment. I do shift work, and I never feel quite right working on a Sunday. These days a lot of people have to, but I can never quite shake the feeling that I'm out of step with the rest of the country!

Also, I really hate the implication that because jobs are scarce, you have no right to moan as you should just be grateful for employment. Of course you can still voice complaints and struggles without being labeled 'ungrateful'

All I can say OP is that you do get used to it. Concentrate on making Saturday a quality family time, and you will hopefully settle into a routine soon!

[HappySunflower]

I can totally see why you feel you're not getting a weekend. So you work Thursday, Friday, Sunday and Monday? Hence you cant ally do anything much as a family at the weekend aside from a Saturday.

I would look to change your hours. I'd rather work in the evenings than lose daytime weekend hours.

[TheCrackFox]

I used to work 7am-4pm on a Sunday. That really was shit as if I was lucky to get a Saturday night off I couldn't really enjoy it.

[iloveshortshorts]

*are

[iloveshortshorts]

Your lucky to do 11 - 4 my sundays 8 - 5 meaning i had to get up at 6 on a sunday.
Sigh

[Squarepebbles]

She isn't she is feeling sad,can't say I blame her.

[Bobyan]

You made a choice to go for more money and you knew the hours, I can't really see why your are moaning, given the current job market.

[Jinsei]

I agree with the majority, OP. You don't have to like it, but if you need the money, then you'll just have to suck it up or find another job. It's a good idea to move the swimming lessons so that you have your Saturdays clear.

[Squarepebbles]

Op could you cut back in order to be able to drop hours?

We live quite frugally and it's amazing what you can live without.Being broke in exchange for more family time is preferable for many.

[comfysofas]

Over £9 an hour to work in retail I can only dream of that.

[scottishmummy]

missing special years,no.you have a v light work schedule,and only 1weekend work day
You're not velcroed to your kids you don't need to see every burp,swim,or precious moment
This is all v indulgent,and ignoring obvious fact you work because you need money

[TheCrackFox]

When I worked shifts I utterly hated working Sundays.

DH always works 9am-midnight on a Saturday and I can cope with that but I hate it when he works a Sunday. It just feels like we have no family time.

Op, the money is great so I would keep at it for now. Is there anyway you can change the swimming lessons for a day after school? That way Saturday could be your big family day.

[hedgefund]

when my ds were really small i worked after school and all holidays and most sat/sundays. just had to work those hours or be broke! you get used to it x

[thistlelicker]

Sounds like op wants it all.... Lots of time and money!!! Living in real world u have o adjust and accommodate

[FasterStronger]

Op, I wonder if you just need to adjust. We waste lots of time at the weekend, but we could still do the good stuff if we had to work by arranging our time better.

Maybe you need to look at all you time, week and weekend and do some planning. Its only 25 hours so you do have plenty of time.

[noisytoys]

I work 7 days a week. Still part time, but I get paid for the hours I work so I work.

[RubyGates]

"Opting out of Sunday working

All other shop workers and betting shop workers can opt out of Sunday working by giving 3 months? notice.

An employer needing staff to work on Sundays must tell them in writing that they can opt out. They must do this within 2 months of the person starting work - if they don?t, only one month?s notice is needed to opt out.

Staff can opt in to Sunday working, but mustn?t be treated unfairly if they opt out."

[RubyGates]

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