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Original poster

to be pissed off with DP

78 replies

ruledbyheart · 13/04/2013 11:44

Today is the last day I can spend any fun time with my DCs before they go back to school so I said they can do whatever they want, it was a decision between all of them that they want to go to Macdonalds, fair enough they don't go often and I said anything they wanted.

Told DP the plan as he will be driving as I haven't passed my test yet, and he is whinging saying no because he is on a diet and its not fair to tempt him.

The car is a joint purchase, I pay for the insurance/ fuel etc and when he isn't at work he had agreed to let me use it as I wish with him as driver.

I'm so pissed off, I want Macdonalds too now and at 5 months pregnant I want to eat what I want.

Its not my fault he is on yet another diet, he is the one who eats shit most of the time and puts the weight on then decides because he is on a diet I'm not allowed shit food in the house so the rest of us have to go without.

I have 3 disappointed DC and a sulking DP.
AIBU to think he should suck it up and stick to the deal?
I'm not forcing him to eat.

Btw this diet is a thing that he only sticks to, to suit himself.

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GiveMummyTheWhizzer · 13/04/2013 11:46

Get the bus with them? Then he doesn't have to go?

50shadesofbrown · 13/04/2013 11:47

Can he not take you & dc there, then go off & do his own thing for a bit?

voscar · 13/04/2013 11:47

He can buy a nice salad in McDonalds. He's being totally unreasonable.

GiveMummyTheWhizzer · 13/04/2013 11:47

Sorry posted to soon! But he is BU as he made the deal to take you where you wanted. Not your fault he's on a diet.

WorraLiberty · 13/04/2013 11:48

He needs to take control of his own eating habits/lack of willpower that's for sure.

How far away is Maccy Dees from you? Can you walk/take the bus/taxi?

glossyflower · 13/04/2013 11:48

I can understand your frustrations that his diet is only when it suits him but I feel maybe YABU a little. I've never had a weight problem but have seen loved ones trying to lose weight and it is hard to get the motivation sometimes, maybe if you could support DP in his diet plans he's be more successful at sticking with it.
That said you did promise your DC anything they wanted. Can't you compromise somehow? Maybe go to a pub restaurant with a play area so DP can chose something healthier?

glossyflower · 13/04/2013 11:49

voscar McDonalds salads are surprisingly high in calories. Nothing you buy at McDonald's is low in calories!

Original poster
ruledbyheart · 13/04/2013 11:51

The nearest Macdonalds is at a services as such so no buses and too far for a taxi? The only other one is in a city centre which will be heaving and nearly impossible for me to take 3dc under 5 whilst nearly 6mths pregnant by myself.

So annoyed as we only go every 3mths or so as a treat but he has decided he is on a diet so he won't go.

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glossyflower · 13/04/2013 11:52

Or of you are going then don't make him come with you get public transport then do something as a family after.

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ruledbyheart · 13/04/2013 11:53

Glossy I do support DP most of the time but he literally decides he is on a diet the day I've made plans.

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squeakytoy · 13/04/2013 11:53

why can he not take you and go off and do his own thing for a bit, or just not eat in there...

RandomMess · 13/04/2013 11:55

errrrrrrrrrrrrrr McDonalds sell salads that are low in calories...

CamperWidow · 13/04/2013 11:55

Salads, wraps, a fillet o fish which is steamed, not fried.... there are options. Tell him to buck up and get on with it!

BreasticlesNTesticles · 13/04/2013 11:59

Nonsense! DH has just popped out to get 2 dc's happy meals. I am on a diet again big deal! I have a jacket potato in the oven.

He is being ridiculous.

NynaevesSister · 13/04/2013 12:00

A grilled chicken salad at McDs is NOT high in calories if you don't use an entire sachet of dressing on it. Use a little dressing and you are fine. I happen to love their salad!

pictish · 13/04/2013 12:01

The chilli chicken wrap is low in fat and well delish! I am on a diet too.

Your dp is being unreasonable btw. Does everything has to be considered with him as the priority? What a big baby!

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ruledbyheart · 13/04/2013 12:02

Think I might show him this thread, well I would but he has stormed out sulking so looks like it's down to me to do all the entertainment for the children, too wet for the park and too far to go anywhere else as the town has nothing for children.

Selfish twat!

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pictish · 13/04/2013 12:04

Go to McDonalds as requested ffs! He's being a bellend - let him flounce!!

swallowedAfly · 13/04/2013 12:06

sounds like mcds is the least of your problems and a selfish, childish dp who can't suck it up for his kids and pregnant wife like a grown up is a far bigger issue.

pictish · 13/04/2013 12:07

Agreed.

swallowedAfly · 13/04/2013 12:08

i really feel for people who have to deal with pathetic crap like this in their lives from another adult.

mn does nothing to convince me i'd be better off with a partner.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/04/2013 12:09

He sounds like a total prat. I'm guessing that this is the thin end of the wedge in terms of selfish/childish/knobend type behaviour?

Pigsmummy · 13/04/2013 12:10

Chicken salad is awesome in mcd's, ask him to take you, it's not fair on the DC's if you had agreed this with them.

pictish · 13/04/2013 12:11

Yabu to be pissed off with your dp. He's not stopping you doing anything - you are, by not ignoring his tedious, self absorbed controlling behaviour!

By being pissed off about his decision, you have given him all the power.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/04/2013 12:11

swallowed - x-posts!

And agreed. My DH is lovely, but if he wasn't then reading MN I would think that there were no decent, normal men, just hundreds of selfish twats.