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To think pushing a pram while smoking...

235 replies

Damash12 · 22/03/2013 06:58

Is just wrong!! I'm probably gonna get flamed but really??!! I see mum/dad pushing their babies with a fag resting on the handle, about level with child's head, all the fag smoke blowing nicely over the baby. And why do I find it even worse when it's a grandparent???

OP posts:
OhDearieDearieMe · 22/03/2013 06:59

Gosh yeah - they really should be doing that inside. Must be very uncomfortable for them in these cold temperatures.

surroundedbyblondes · 22/03/2013 07:00

Smoking is disgusting. Smoking around kids even more so.

Twattybollocks · 22/03/2013 07:35

So when the fuck else am I supposed to have a fag? Can't smoke inside the house, can't smoke inside anywhere really. Can't smoke in the car either. I find if I walk fast enough and hold the fag away from me the smoke goes behind me, and I blow the smoke upwards rather than forwards. My mother has never commented that the baby smells of smoke and believe me she has a smoke detector in her nose like a bloodhound.

bedmonster · 22/03/2013 07:37

I wouldn't do it and I'm a smoker.

Purple2012 · 22/03/2013 07:37

I cringe when I see it.

pigletmania · 22/03/2013 07:38

They should not be doing that round their children at all, you know passive smoking and all that. Yes if they want to smoke they should stand out in th cold so what! That's the price you pay

scottishmummy · 22/03/2013 07:44

Faggy mammies,yes it looks common
But I don't imagine they care what others think of them smoking over their baby

EggandSpooneyMara · 22/03/2013 07:44

I think it's supposed to be a good idea to wash after having a cigarette so you don't transfer any toxins from your skin and clothes to the baby

Grandparents presumably get downtime to smoke away from kids

SneakyNinja · 22/03/2013 07:45

Yanbu, rightly or wrongly I will judge.

MrsFruitcake · 22/03/2013 07:52

Smoking in the car is worse - I saw this only yesterday, two babies strapped into a people carrier and both the driver and passenger smoking with the windows wound down about an inch. I wanted to shout at them.

RubyGates · 22/03/2013 07:55

I suppose it just shows how ridiculoulsy addictive smoking is. If you are pretty much prevented from smoking anywhere else, and you still can't stop yourself from smoking while you're pushing a pram; your chances of EVER giving up must be pretty much nil.

Because these parents MUST love their tiny helpless babies as much as non-smokers, mustn't they?

JeremyPiven · 22/03/2013 07:58

At least they were strapped in. I saw a car on motorway with 2 adults in front, 1 smoking. 1 adult in back with baby on her knee.

I judge that a lot, I find it quite unbelievable.

ScumbagCollegeDropout · 22/03/2013 08:00

YANBU

I'm a smoker but I manage to refrain from lighting up if I am out with the kids.

I could just never do it. Totally wrong in my opinion.

pregnantpause · 22/03/2013 08:00

It's disgusting. I can't stand to see it. When else can you have a fag?! When your child is not there to suffer your passive smoke.
I appreciate that there are worse fumes in car exhausts which are also right at baby level, but as a parent you cannot control that, you can however not add to your childs pollutionSad

MrsKeithRichards · 22/03/2013 08:01

I too cringe, it looks awful. I smoke.

I remember parking ds1 in bus stop and standing outside to smoke!

Same with smoking in cars with kids. Rank.

HerrenaHarridan · 22/03/2013 08:04

Yanbu. I hate this too.

My EXp couldn't understand why I made such an unecessary fuss about him wanting to smoke with dd in a back carrier Shock

I once saw some one smoking while tucking their babies pram blanket
In the course of faffing I watched the still glowing ash land on her dd neck she then used the fag hand to bat it away smear it around bringing the cherry of it to within cm of dds face. Could see the poor baby flinching away from it. Sad

It took all my self control not to publicly berate her, Angry

But then I'm an ex smoker so apparently my opinion doesn't count
" none so zealous as the newly converted" Hmm

Fanjounchained · 22/03/2013 08:04

No you are not BU.

Twattybollocks you winding us up right ? Smoke outsided, without your baby.

Don't care if I'm being judgmental...this is absolutely one of my pet hates.

Dillydollydaydream · 22/03/2013 08:05

My dad used to smoke in the house when we were little, it's only now when I go to visit them that I realise I must have stank of smoke when I was a little girl.

Fanjounchained · 22/03/2013 08:06

Glad to see there are lots of smokers here who agree with me !

purrpurr · 22/03/2013 08:11

Ex smoker here and I agree entirely.

ArtVandelay · 22/03/2013 08:13

It's revolting. I have moved to a very poor area of Germany that is trapped in some sort of 70's timewarp. The streets are packed with smokers including parents puffing over babies. If I didn't do yoga every morning I think id combust some days. As it is I content myself with ordering people to get out of the way when they are waving their fags at DS face height. Utter peadants

ArtVandelay · 22/03/2013 08:15

Haha! Posted too soon - peasants! Disclaimer - there are some nice people here too, but they are also in despair of all the smoking, spitting and general oafishness of the populace.

Feminine · 22/03/2013 08:17

twatty then quit!

I did.

never looked back.

Twattybollocks · 22/03/2013 08:18

No I am not winding you up. If the smoke was blowing in the babies face I wouldn't do it. Same as I don't smoke in the car or house because I don't want them breathing in the smoke. If someone else is with me I will ask them to push while I walk behind and smoke, but that's not always an option, so yes I have had the odd fag whilst pushing. I don't get any time to myself to have a cigarette most days, so I grab one when I can whenever the baby isn't crying for me or being held by me. Go ahead and judge me, I can take it.

Feminine · 22/03/2013 08:22

twatty was a fuss!

Surely it would be easier to give up? Confused