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AIBU?

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to have fed my baby here?

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:08

Went shopping yesteerday.ds1. Jas a blu badge so we parked in a disabled space.went to shops and back to car couple of hours later. We have 4 dcs and the baby 7 mths started screaming and was hungry.by then the car park was packd. I started to feed ds while dh got other dcs in car and an elderly couple drove past and politely asked if we were leaving, dh said sorry not yet then 2 other drivers did the same but the fourth stopped got out and said please could we hurry up, I explained that when I had fed ds we would be going but she was really angry and said a disabled space is not just for sitting in that we should go immediately. I was only another ten mins fding ds it is hard enough going out as all dcs have same condition and ds2 was really screaming I had to feed him as it was a long drive home. Was I being unreasonable?

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:10

Sorry for lack of paragraphs and bad spelling-on blackbrry and half the keys are 'sticky'

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:10

Sorry for lack of paragraphs and bad spelling-on blackbrry and half the keys are 'sticky'

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TwelveLeggedWalk · 03/12/2012 11:10

Well they're being illogical to com

takataka · 03/12/2012 11:11

no...its non of her business how long you will be in the parking space

SneakyBiscuitEater · 03/12/2012 11:12

Blue badges allow cars to be used as a 'refuge' as well as a transport method so yanbu at all.

quietlysuggests · 03/12/2012 11:15

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choceyes · 03/12/2012 11:15

no YANBU in my opinion. What if you had gone into the shops to feed the baby instead? Your DH and DCs would still have to be waiting for you won't they and taking up the space? Can't see what else you could have done.

pELFicFloorClenchReminder · 03/12/2012 11:15

YANBU - Agree it's none of her business. A screaming baby is more important than someone getting to a shop. And driving with a screaming baby is extremely stressful and probably dangerous!

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:17

I did not know they could also be used as a 'refuge' I did feel very vulnerable with somebody so irate with me whilst I was bf and other dcs in car.would have fed ds in a shop but h gets so distracted and over tired the dark in car park calmed him down enough after screaming to feed untill I got shouted at !

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:17

I did not know they could also be used as a 'refuge' I did feel very vulnerable with somebody so irate with me whilst I was bf and other dcs in car.would have fed ds in a shop but h gets so distracted and over tired the dark in car park calmed him down enough after screaming to feed untill I got shouted at !

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CwtchesAndCuddles · 03/12/2012 11:19

Sorry - as a blue badge holder I think you were unreasonable to stay there to feed, I would have moved the car so that others needing the space could have it.

I would have be annoyed if I needed that space.

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ariane5 · 03/12/2012 11:19

Couldn't double park-was multi storey and w would have been in the one way lane blocking every car from driving past

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baublesandbaileys · 03/12/2012 11:19

YANBU because if you had stayed inside longer in order to feed in the cafe etc then you would have vacated the space at the same time as you did by feeding in the car - possibly longer if you ordered coffees etc in order to sit in the cafe

Janeatthebarre · 03/12/2012 11:19

YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping. I agree that you could have double parked or could you not have breastfed while DH drove the car?

threesocksfullofchocs · 03/12/2012 11:19

yabu
you should have moved

baublesandbaileys · 03/12/2012 11:20

"YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping."
?? but so was everyone else who was parked in the disabled spaces.. and they might have been having a REALLY leisurely lunch themselves before meandering back with a bit of window shoppping - which is not UR either!

toofattorun · 03/12/2012 11:20

I can see both sides. I would say that if there were other spaces, I would have driven into another space but as you say, there were no spaces so I don't think YWBU.

TwelveLeggedWalk · 03/12/2012 11:20

Sorry, don't know what happened there.

Well they're being illogical to comPlain really, because if you'd fed in a supermarket cafe you'd actually take just as long, if nOt longer by the time you'd sat down, fed, then gone back to your space. Not sure how you could've pointed that out though!

SantaWearsGreen · 03/12/2012 11:20

I do think yabu actually.

You could have driven nearer the exit and stayed there to feed. Didn't need to keep a limited space that people needed.

pELFicFloorClenchReminder · 03/12/2012 11:21

Breastfeed a baby in a moving car?? Confused

baublesandbaileys · 03/12/2012 11:21

"YABU. If the car park was packed then you were preventing a disabled driver from being able to do their shopping."
?? but so was everyone else who was parked in the disabled spaces.. and they might have been having a REALLY leisurely lunch themselves before meandering back with a bit of window shoppping - which is not UR either!

Pootles2010 · 03/12/2012 11:23

YANBU - can't believe people think she should bf whilst dh drives! Slightly dangerous?!

badtasteflump · 03/12/2012 11:24

IIWY I would have told them I was waiting for someone else to get back to the car - I do that sometimes when people start getting glarey at me when I'm sitting in my car eating a sandwich, writing a text, whatever, when a car park is busy. But anyway, YANBU.

takataka · 03/12/2012 11:24

exactly twelve...plenty of spaces being occupied whilst mothers feeding babies in Starbucks, or feeding own face...

it is not the womens business what OP does whilst parked

OP shouldnt occupy space to feed baby, but should vacate so that other woman can park up and go shopping?? Confused

Mrskbpw · 03/12/2012 11:25

I don't think you were BU, but I'm shocked at the suggestion you should have fed the baby in a moving car. Surely very dangerous? Unless you can somehow feed them in a car seat, while strapped in yourself?!

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