To hate 'the wife'?

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AIBU to have a go at DH because he addressed me as 'the wife' to someone else? I mean did I wake up this morning in the 1980's during an episode of Boon or something? Urgh!

YA definitely NBU.

I absolutely detest 'the wife!!!' It is so derogatory. My husband knows that he would refer to me as that, on pain of certain death.

I wouldnt be happy to be referred to as 'the wife'. Although my husband does sometimes call me 'the commanding officer' in a jokey way.

What about 'the missus' :o

I hate all that. Yanbu

Yanbu. as its your husband referring to you

However some people don't mind or even like it. I have never got people who hate the phrase when used by someone elses husband.

I also know women that refer to 'him indoors' or 'the husband'.

My Dmother, who has been married almost 50 years would kill my Dfather if he called her that.

YANBU

I like it (clearly in minority) I couldn't wait to get married and be his wife, there are much worse things to be called.

Not fussed really

It does make me laugh though if a male poster dares to post that on here

Cue 50+ posts from people moaning about it and totally ignoring whatever problem he was posting about.

My DH calls me 'R Lass when talking to strangers, (he tends to go all "Northern").

Always makes me think of the dog Lassie.

YANBU. You are not an object, you are a person.

"My wife" - no problem.
"The wife" - awful. What are you, an inanimate object?

Doesn't bother me at all. How many of us regularly refer to "the kids"? Different how?

"the wife" or "the missus" = LTB!

I have no problem with 'my wife', although thinking about it does that make me a possession too?
It is just 'the' I object to.
I have asked him several times not to call me that but he has a brain like a doily.

If I LTB I will be 'the x wife' but at least I won't have to hear it

Dogsmum - my wife is fine. I just really hate 'the wife.'

A friend of mine always refers to her DH as 'the husband' which is unusual and sounds weird, therefore illustrating that 'the wife' is perhaps derogatory.

I always find that men who refer to 'the wife' are usually the ones who also says they are 'getting a pass' when they talk about going out drinking etc without their wives, trying to give the impression that they are unfairly under the thumb and shouldn't be expected to take part in family life etc.

My bugbear is "my/the other half".

My DP says it a lot and it makes me cringe. I hate referring to people just by their status in a couple - bleurgh.

Yanbu-"The Wife" i think, sounds very much like your the property of the man iyswim.

Not bothered by it at all.

Well "the wife" sounds a bit like a functional thing rather than a relation. "The wife" is someone who carries out certain duties (around the home), like perhaps "the receptionist" or "the plumber". It also sounds pretty chavvy.

Not as bad as John McKrickric (sp?) calling his wife 'Booby' but I still don't like it and my DH NEVER calls me that.

DH calls me 'the wife' and 'the Mrs', doesn't bother me at all.

I get called 'the Mississ' all the time wouldn't mind but were not even married!

Its better than 'current wife'.