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To have stopped my daughter going for a wee...

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:43

She said "i'm going toilet"and then ran off. I called her back and said "you mean "I am going to the bathroom" ". And got her to repeat it bak before she could go.

Of course, bathroom, toilet, loo, whatever word you choose, but the poor expression of it shocked me!

AIBU?

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:43

She is 6 not that it makes it better!

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valiumredhead · 19/10/2012 19:44

Errr, ok Confused

valiumredhead · 19/10/2012 19:45

Are you American?

Northernlurkerisbehindyouboo · 19/10/2012 19:46

YANBU to correct her and it's your carpet - you took the risk of a wet carpet and upset dd and got away with it. Correct use of language is worth it though Grin

IvorHughJackolantern · 19/10/2012 19:46

Well this is odd Confused

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:48

No, do only Americans say '...going to the xxx, ? Going shops? Going toilet? Going school? Is that correct English?

I did not actually stop her. I was exaggerating mildly. I am sure she would not have actually returned from the bathroom (which incidental is where she went for a wee) to repeat it correctly if she was going to wet herself...

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Floggingmolly · 19/10/2012 19:49

Was it the word "toilet" you objected to? We were told to use "loo" as kids, because toilets are common. My poor mum!

valiumredhead · 19/10/2012 19:49

Oh sorry - I have re read and see she missed out the 'to the' - I thought you were snotty about her saying toilet and not bathroom.

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:50

But...my Dh is American. And he speaks very good English. Apart from 'peana buddah! (Work that one out)

Northern, thanks for the vote of me not being odd...Grin

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valiumredhead · 19/10/2012 19:50

Seriously you are in for a rough time if you are so easily shocked Grin

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 19/10/2012 19:50

I would have let her go, and corrected her grammar afterwards.

pootlebug · 19/10/2012 19:50

I'm assuming it is the fact that you corrected 'toilet' to 'bathroom' that leads people to assume you are American. My kids say they need the toilet, or need a wee, or whatever. They'd never say they are going to the bathroom, but then nor would I, or indeed anyone I know that I can think of.

Floggingmolly · 19/10/2012 19:50

Ah, ok. The verbal equivalent of text speak. No, YANBU. Nip it in the bud NOW. Grin

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:51

No, I thought I made that clear, use whatever take your fancy for the purpose of going to the loo. I call it loo or bathroom, but technically, she was going to the bathroom so she did not really need to announce her actions. Like, I don't need to know she is having a poo. But, yes, it was the 'going to' that made me sit very upright.

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Marrow · 19/10/2012 19:51

My Dd does this constantly and it really irritates me!

Witchety · 19/10/2012 19:52

I know what you mean Pavlov

My ds is 14 and I've not been able to stop him saying that!

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:55

STD no not afterwards,y the time she has read a magazine, washed her hands and the entire bathroom with large amounts of liquid hand wash she would look at me like Confused when I mentioned it.

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golemmings · 19/10/2012 19:55

It's a very north staffs expression. Stokies go places; never to the... Unless they're going to Hamlet and they ullus go up 'anley, duck.

My mum would have done what you did. But then in response to my first letter home from uni she sent me a list of corrected prepositions!

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 19:59

And it is not like I am particularly well spoken either. I do correct DH too when he says 'peana 'Buddha' I say " peanuT buTTer". I ignore 'cell phone' now.

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Pavlovthecat · 19/10/2012 20:04

golem local dialect here would probably have said the same. However, they do add 'to' to every question. "Where's that to?" "Where you going to" "where's the party to?" The first time I heard that last sentence, I had to ask him to repeat it several times. They also add 'lover' so they would say 'I'm going shops, where is it to my lover?" For '" i need to go to the shops, do you know how to get there?"

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Arithmeticulous · 19/10/2012 20:23

YABU. I've spent many a bath time with shampoo in my eyes begging for a towel as my dad stood there saying "tow-ELLE" not "to'el"

Mind you, I was had a kid made to apologise to me for saying "hey" to me in the park by his American mother - WTF was that about? When did hey become bad?

HoneyDragon · 19/10/2012 20:26

I don't have this issue. I simply get TOileeeeeeeeet and then Ds stampeding porcelainward Hmm

Tuttutitlookslikerain · 19/10/2012 20:28

YABU.

Learn to pick your battles!

StillIRise · 19/10/2012 20:33

YABU.

I am scarred by the evil witch teacher who refused to let me out of the classroom for asking 'please can i go to the loo?' (very english child in welsh school, not welsh speaking, think she wanted me to say toilet)

Not knowing what she was on about all i could do was beg until i wet myself.

ThreeWheelsGood · 19/10/2012 21:01

She's ahead of her time - omitting the preposition like that is increasingly a feature of inner city/multicultural English, lots of people talk like that now. Seriously, Google multicultural London English. YABU.

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