to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

you haven't come to my dinosaur thread yet truthful

:(

(quick cheeky link for those who've only just joined the thread)

Bat, yes, or so I heard, they like to share and share alike because they are all so lovely over there.

Apparently.

OP are you here from NMs spying on the meanies on MN??

Anyone can join in when there's nonsense. Those of us wot like nonsense are deeply deeply grateful when people join in because there are a hell of a lot of people who object to fun.

just veering back to scones for a minute, we always have jam and loads of clotted cream. I always thought that was the point of scones, that you can load them down with calories. Really some of you prefer fruit scones - just with butter?

It is important that I know this

This is a bit like going in M+S and wandering around telling the how shit they are and how great sainsbos is....you might be told to tootle off back to sainsbos.

I dont hate netmums, I just dont like fluffy wuffy hugs, kisses and faux twee niceness, I would rather be on a site where if you think someone is behaving like a nobber, you can tell them so.

Dont see the point in starting a shit stir thread like this though, as you just make yourself look rather daft.

tosses a scone to thegreylady (oops sorry too much cream!)

OK just to say that even though I am one of the shadow people I would really really like a scone-with jam-and cream and fruit.

OP, what was your other name before you changed it to this one so you could tell everyone the truth?

I haven't been on long, but I like the banter that goes on. I've never found that the regulars ignore people at all. Sometimes you find you post a terribly witty reply and find 20 other people have got in first with their bland comments and completely ruined your reply but that's going to happen on any quick moving thread.
And those self same people who have a few shared jokes also are usually the first to come and offer help and comfort to people who need it.

Oh no ZZZ fruit scones with jam and cream, but butter will do at a push, why go for plain when you can have fruit too imo.

Duck everyone, fruit heading for thegreylady

Ooohh thank you thank you-they have seen me-they have sconed me...I am happy-I am a mumsnetter

wonders why this thread appears twice!

Ok ok there are some nice peoplet on here. just received a lovely pm from someone and it had kisses on the end ..wow! I will changed my name and leave now :) < are you allowed to smile in here or is that too fluffy and nice?

IF you liked netmums so much, why stay here? If it doesn't suit you here and you're not getting the attention you clearly crave then go back there. Obviously sparkly tickers and fluffywuffy stuff suits you better.
"Fanjo" is hardly an "in-joke", either - just a term for your vagina - or perhaps you'd prefer to call it a foo-foo?

ah drat, fruit in the scone. Back to the drawing board. Yes good point there, why go without Bib5?

This is a bit like going in M+S and wandering around telling the how shit they are and how great sainsbos is

I love doing things like this the scandelised looks are brilliant, you know to avoid the shop in future if the assistants are properly agreeing with you though.

What's this dinosaur business about?

Seriously now truthful I am very much a member of the incrowd (having posted most days for nearly 6 years) and you're right. They are a bunch of cunts. I have no idea about the scone joke either, serves me right for occasionally having a dabble in rl.

don't change your name, brazen it out. We all have a strop now and again. (Mary certainly does!)

I don't post often. I go through phases of posting a lot and then not even lurking for months. But you get out what you put in pretty much.

It's a big place so I wouldn't really expect to be noticed.