to understand why newbies feel unwelcome when there's a certain group of people on here that think mumsnet is all about them?

[truthful]

I really do understand why there is a 'flouncers corner' on this site and I understand why people feel the need to go to it!
Six months ago I joined this site and on my first ever thread there was about 10 people who all clearly knew eachother and started their own conversation and completely ignored me! I felt really unwelcome but just thought it was a one off. Ever since then I've begun to realise that its like school on here and theres the 'popular' group who seem to think that everyone should know who they are and so they just hijack everyone elses thread and talk amongst themselves ignoring other people in the process! I was even in a thread yesterday and there was a discussion and one of the popular ones said something along the lines of ' oh its jack, havent seen you for a while, hows your dad?'
To me that was rude and if you know eachother that well then shouldn't you be emailing or private messaging instead of being so rude? I can honestly say I have said something regarding to what the OP was asking and been completely ignored by what send like the usual lot talking about scones or something
Another thing which I hate is all the private jokes flying around which is between the usual lot and no one else. Fanjo??? Grow up!
The only time people seem to get noticed is when they have changed their name to something like one of the popular peoples names! Remember the whole 'whos impersonating sue's thing yesterday??? seems like thats all people cared about as yiu are sooo popular so

,heaves creaking bones off chair, stands up, proffers handshake>

see that's what happens

alright bibbers
awright Mary

Flightty did you ever sort out that weird PM thing?

I agree with the OP, you're all horrid

So ner

Oh yes. Yes. It was some arse who was PMing about a million people. THEY sorted it, thankfully...so someone was right, can't remember whom.

Sorry about your pants, Pinot.

Pinot, are you at home?
Then why don't you just change your knickers
It will make you feel a lot better, I promise.

And ACTUALLY the thread you're talking about was started by one of the silly, cliquey, ignoring bullies, so I wonder if that makes a difference.

If I start a thread am I allowed to muck about on it or not?

Just to point out netmums do hate us

Glad you got it sorted - was weird. I remember we had a sit-in with pringles until HQ sorted it :)

Thanks for the pants-ympathy. They really are horrid.

Maryz - good luck.
(you need a dinosaur name to give you strength)

Tons of luck Mary xxxx

MARYZ I LOVE YOU AND I GIVE YOU ALL MY STRENGTH AND SUPPORT xx

Of course she's not at home. If she was at home, she wouldn't be here, would she?

You can't be in two places at once.

But we don't mind too much if you want to change your pants here. We'll close our eyes etc

Good luck Maryz

Ok Maryz, you get your own {{{{HUG}}}} too.

Good luck.

Shit, Shit. x posted. Good luck Mary

Mary - best of, darling. xx

maryz make sure your pants are comfy before you start

Squeeze for maryz

Good Luck Maryz.
Fingers crossed for you, I hope everything works out ok.

I only have one pair of non-VPL-but-also-nude-colour pants LadyBE. And I'm wearing white linen trews.

Having been on and left lots of women-dominated chat sites and found them to be pink, fluffy, cliquey, predictable and irritating, I can tell you OP that MN is so much better. Yes there is cliquey-ness but that comes with the territory of having boobies and a fanjo.

You can actually tell it's better from the user names, which is what attracted me in the first place. Add to that, lots of clearly smart posters who can express themselves very well and aren't afraid of a robust bit of swearing and you've got....well a better option than the usual that's on offer.

Then again, I'm a cold fish very non-pink and fluffy person so that sort of thing suits me better. Eh up... welcome on board anyway :)

btw Has anyone seen Katie about? (just wondering how she is getting on)

Also can I say DucketyDuckDuck made a bloody great post back up there and I nodded vigorously!

Whats up with Katie? Middleton or Scarlett?

maryz