Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Joking aside I am actually quite scared!

52 replies

TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:02

I have spent the last week cracking jokes about my finger, telling everyone its not a problem, I won;t sue as it was an accident etc.

But when I am alone at night the dc asleep I am scared, I am scared of what my finger is going to look like, is the throbbing normal, will something be wrong with it, how long is this pain going to last.

I am sat here now in a terrible state, I would love to have a glass of wine but can't, I really just want someone to wake me up and tell me it was just a bad dream.

OP posts:
worraliberty · 27/09/2011 23:04

In the nicest possible way...get a grip Hmm

I feel over the last few days I'm better aquainted with your finger than I am with my own Grin

Seriously, just have a word with the Doc...only he/she can answer you.

Anyone here would be second guessing and that will be far worse.

Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 23:05

What happened to your finger?

TequillaMockingBird · 27/09/2011 23:06

Yup... Give the finger to your Doc and let them tell you where to go

Wink
Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:06

Worra, I do need to get a grip I am being irrational I know this but all of a sudden I am panicking.

OP posts:
rhondajean · 27/09/2011 23:07

Aw bless you, I read about your finger, it sounds very painful. I wish I could say its going to be fine and it will all be back to normal soon but I cant say that, and you know it.

However I can tell you that reconstructive surgery these days is amazing; that you are most likely having world class treatment; and that I am sure the pain will not go on forever.

Are you not allowed wine because of meds? Have some chocolate and a good cry.

Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:07

Quint lost the tip in a door lock. had surgery last Thursday and have to go back to hospital on Thursday.

OP posts:
Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:08

Rhonda, I am meant to stay away from cigarettes and alcohol until well for 2 months with the cigarettes and Thursday with the alcohol.

OP posts:
worraliberty · 27/09/2011 23:09

I suppose 'get a grip' wasn't the best expression I could have chosen...given your finger situation Blush

But honestly, asking those questions here is like Googling an illness...we all know how that can end up Smile

rhondajean · 27/09/2011 23:10

chocolate. Releases happy chemicals. If you can do 2 months without the ciggys you dont need them at all.

Wine....erm....good luck?

LineRunner · 27/09/2011 23:10

Is that for vascular health reasons, LSE?

RatherBe · 27/09/2011 23:12

You come across as having been very calm at the time - but shock will always come to the fore sooner or later and it's natural to feel the way you do. Talk to the doctor and explain your fears. He/she can't address them unless he/she knows what they are.

Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:12

Worra, Grin I can grip with the remaining fingers and thumb!!!

I wasn;t really asking the questions, they are the things I am asking myself iyswim?

Rhonda and chocolate gives me migraines Sad

OP posts:
Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 23:12

Relax. It is only natural to worry. You have lost a part of your body. Think about it as having an appendectomy. That is also a part of your body, but nobody really complains about the loss of their appendix. You will be able to use your finger just like before. It will only be a little bit shorter. You will be fine! My sister lost the tip of her finger during woodworks in school. She never gave it a scond thought after it healed. It looks quite cool for the three middle fingers of her hand to be of equal length....

Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:14

I will admit that I have not managed to give up smoking but I have cut down - I am doing my damndest to get to zero ciggies a day.

Line tbh I am not 100% sure why

OP posts:
rhondajean · 27/09/2011 23:15

Marshmallows?

Comfort food, whatever it is, I think you are allowed it, and I agree about the shock thing just hitting home.

squeakytoy · 27/09/2011 23:16

You will be fine. It sounded a nasty and painful accident, and probably one that gave you a huge shock, and is still very clear in your mind too. But, its still early days, it will heal up, and pain is usually a part of the healing process too.

Put it into perspective, it is your little finger, not your face, not a life threatening injury, and not something that is going to have a long term impact on your quality of life.

worraliberty · 27/09/2011 23:17

What squeaky said

And you'll still be able to flip the middle one perfectly Grin

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDawn · 27/09/2011 23:19

It's not like it's your head or something, even if it goes all black and mouldy and falls right off, you won't miss it much! sorry, was that all insensitive and mean of me? I mean it lovingly, honest!

worraliberty · 27/09/2011 23:20

Yeah if your head went black and mouldy and fell off...that'd definitely put you out a bit.

Original poster
TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:20
Grin

See I knew MN would put a smile on my face again, tbh I think I have spent the time making sure everyone knew I was ok and making sure they were all ok including DS2 who witnessed it that I forgot to deal with the reality of how I was feeling.

(its my index not little finger but yes its just a little finger after all - damned foriegn hands!!!

OP posts:
iklboo · 27/09/2011 23:32

Little finger like your appendix? I never picked my nose with my appendix.

Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 23:34

Neither did I. But I suspect my appendix have one thing in common with TLEs finger tip: They both ended up in a jar soaking in formaldehyd liquid. Even if neither picked any nose....

Vallhala · 27/09/2011 23:39

If it's any comfort a friend did something very similar. Like you, she had scary surgery and was very upset and frightened, quite understandably BUT, that was some years ago and now it's all in the past. She has lost a bit of sensation in the finger but it gives her no problems. I didn't even notice it until she spoke of her ordeal.

As they say, this too will pass. :)

minimisschief · 27/09/2011 23:39

i agreed with the second poster. Bit sick of hearing about your finger woes

Birdsgottafly · 27/09/2011 23:39

My dad lost the top off his finger, sliced off by a rope on a ship.

They grew it back from part of his thigh and even got a nail to grow on it, not quite the same but you couldn't really tell.

This was the early 80's, so i am sure that there are lots of alternatives nowdays.

Swipe left for the next trending thread