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Joking aside I am actually quite scared!

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TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:02

I have spent the last week cracking jokes about my finger, telling everyone its not a problem, I won;t sue as it was an accident etc.

But when I am alone at night the dc asleep I am scared, I am scared of what my finger is going to look like, is the throbbing normal, will something be wrong with it, how long is this pain going to last.

I am sat here now in a terrible state, I would love to have a glass of wine but can't, I really just want someone to wake me up and tell me it was just a bad dream.

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Quintessentialist · 27/09/2011 23:42

Well, the op is keen to talk about what happened to her. Understandably. There are plenty of people like me, who dont live on mumsnet as we are actually a little busy, who would happily talk to TLE about her finger.

If you are sick about hearing it, why dont you just hide the thread rather than bleathe on about it? It is a pretty dim thing to do, now it will be in YOUR active convos too! And who are you anway, the thread police telling people whether they have mentioned something enough, or too much?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:44

Sorry if I pissed off anyone just got to thinking/worrying while sitting alone Sad

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DENMAN03 · 27/09/2011 23:47

Amputation is the only way forward.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:51

Hmm no need for amputation its been reconstructed, doesn't stop worry though

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Pandemoniaa · 27/09/2011 23:55

I've been a bit on injured side over the last few years - have ankle that looks more like a badly boiled ham that's well past its sell by date as a result - and can assure you that sometimes, you can't beat a ciggie and a leeetle tiny glass of something medicinal.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 27/09/2011 23:58

Pande thanks Grin looks like a glass of something is in order, although maybe tomorrow night won't be the best time with the hospital on Thursday Morning Smile

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DENMAN03 · 27/09/2011 23:59

Op...that was slightly tongue in cheek....

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TheLadyEvenstar · 28/09/2011 00:01

Denman, I said the day it happened worse case scenario I would be able to get a discount on acrylics Wink

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maras2 · 28/09/2011 00:03

Are you going to sue the bejaysus out of the school ? Sounds like you're building up to it.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 28/09/2011 00:06

Maras2 read here what I am going to do

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DENMAN03 · 28/09/2011 00:10

tee hee..every cloud and all that..

MarginallyNarkyPuffin · 28/09/2011 00:20

Cut down on smoking as much as possible whilst it's healing- use nicotine gum. It will make a difference.

The throbbing isn't necessarily a bad thing. I did similar to a finger as a child (though it just stayed on.) It still throbs sometimes. I think it's to do with the blood flow. If you are worried get it seen, but throbbing sounds a lot better than numb - you have feeling and blood flow.

maras2 · 28/09/2011 00:22

Already read it. Why the bold type ?

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TheLadyEvenstar · 28/09/2011 00:32

maras - sometimes, i bold a name of the person I am replying to

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maras2 · 28/09/2011 00:34

Ok.

itshotintexas · 28/09/2011 01:01

Hi TLE,

I did the same to two fingers a long long time ago - well someone did it for me - one tip was compound fracture and hanging off, the other the tip was pulled off over the bone and hanging off. Sorry if TMI, both were sewn back - lots of pain and throbbing is normal and its very painful because your nerve endings end in your fingers! One has healed ok but with damaged nail (my ring finger) the door got me right at the base of the nail bed and damaged the nail bed cells. the other I had lots of trouble with the nail not growing back properly and surgeries to remove stray nail bed cells - is ok now though. It still hurts a lot if I bang the end of my finger and when it is cold the circulation is poor - it goes white but a couple of shakes and blowing on it works. No-one ever notices and I sometimes point it out when I retell the story - it happened when I was 11 and a guy kicked a squash court door closed on my hand! If you have any questions, feel free to ask - I am a long time lurker though just name changed as we moved!

HTH and good luck.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 28/09/2011 01:11

itshot, thanks! I guess its the same as me except I still had all of my nail and just the flesh behind the nail was taken along with part of the bone and my finger is also fractured.

The plastic surgeon perfomed a v-y plasty, which tbh I am not really sure what it is except it involved cutting a Y and pulling a skin flap.

I keep looking at the bandage (which is huge!) to check for bleeding. I don;t think there has been anymore though.

Typing is hard as after a while my hand starts to ache. Right now it feels like the dressing is stuck to where the wound is which is what started me worrying tonight.

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itshotintexas · 28/09/2011 01:45

I kept my hand upright - this helped with the throbbing - do you have a sling? also, don't let them pull the bandages off when you see them. They used to soak mine off in sterile water stuff - it really is too painful to just pull the bandages off because they do stick to the stitches. Mind you, they may have better bandages and things than in 1982! Its funny (not really) but I still know about it 30 years on if I bang it or get cold. I hope yours is better quickly - it is really quite traumatic and to a place where people think oh it cant be that bad and painful but it can be. And rested it on a pillow to sleep!

MissMap · 28/09/2011 11:31

Dont panic!

I often post on here about my Great Aunt as I read her bits and pieces of Mumsnet and it keeps her, and me entertained. She likes your name and always remembers you (She suspects you are a real titled Lady)!

She wants me to tell you that when she was a school girl, a very long time ago, she cut off the top of her little finger, and they just bandaged it back on and left it, and hoped for the best. Amazingly it reattatched its self, although it healed in a sort of zig zag shape! She has always felt an afinity with Anne Bolyn because of this and wished she could have had draping freanch sleves with which to hide it.

She wants you to know it was the worst pain she ever felt including natural child birth.

We both wish you a speedy recovery, and hopes your little boy gets over the trauma soon. The GA says he might appreciate the AA Milne poem James James Morrison Morrison.

MissMap · 28/09/2011 11:32

French !!

aldiwhore · 28/09/2011 11:33

YANBU and YABU, but you know that. It's NORMAL to fret over things, and even if that thing is relatively small in the grand scheme of 'things you can chop off' I completely get your worrying!

Do give yourself a stern talking to though Smile

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TheLadyEvenstar · 28/09/2011 22:41

MissHap Please pass my thanks on to your Gt Aunt, she sounds like a real Gem!! I have printed off a copy of James James Morrison Morrison for DS2.
I wish I was a real titled Lady, sadly I am not.

I am off to the plastic surgery dressings unit in the morning, I think my irrational fear comes from worry that the v-y plasty hasn;t taken BUT then I think its just my own skin on the same finger so why wouldn;t it have!!

Aldi I didn't only give myself a stern talking to, I spanked myself as well Wink

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Happymm · 29/09/2011 11:05

Good luck today. Hope the flap has taken. TBH, it will look grim for a while, but it will improve. For throbbing, hold it up to reduce the swelling. As soon as you can cope, start touching the new tip of your finger, so that your brain starts "reloading" where the end now is. This will help reduce sensitivity and also help phantom pains. You can start tapping and touching even through dressings. Once healed, massage well with bio-oil or similar.

The no ciggies rule is because nicotine causes vasoconstriction, which'll mean that the blood supply will be reduced to your finger, making healing take longer. The longer it takes to heal, the worse the scarring is.

Finally, give yourself time. this is not being a drama queen. Losing a tip of your finger is a loss-so you will go through a bereavement process for it, as loss of tip, function etc.

Dawndonna · 29/09/2011 11:14

lost the tip of my little fingie a few years back, mandolin slicer. It's fine, looks normal, there is one tiny weeny bit in which I have no feeling. Seriously though, tis fine.
Throbbing is generally normal, however, take a quick peek and check there's no infection, if there is go get some antibiotics.
Hope it feels better soon.

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TheLadyEvenstar · 29/09/2011 17:11

Well I am back and WOW i managed to not only NOT pass out or panic but I took the dressing off and cleaned the wound.

The nurse reckoned me taking the drssing off under her supervision would help me deal with it, well not did it help me deal with what has happened but I also took photos of it so I will be able to see how it progresses.

THANKYOU ALL ON HERE!!!!

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