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To think this nurse was exaggerating the truth...

319 replies

Likeaheadlesschicken · 15/09/2011 13:33

I have just been to take my DD (13 months) for her injections. I very politely requested to have the 12 month boosters on a separate visit to the MMR. The nurse then told me that every other child in the country has their's together. AIBU to think this isnt the case???

In the end she agreed but after trying to make me feel silly and very PFB-ish. I definately don't want to turn this into a MMR/vaccinations debate, I just feel that it should be "my baby my choice" on how things are done (obviously working within the constraints of the NHS) and that it simply isn't true that ALL children have their injections together.

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rushofbloodtothefeet · 15/09/2011 13:34

Funnily enough although we get the appointment letter with both the boosters and the MMR on, the nurse at our clinic actually suggests we only get one set done at a time and request a new appointment for the others.

pumpupthevolume · 15/09/2011 13:34

Why didn't you want them at the same appointment?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 15/09/2011 13:34

She was almost certainly exaggerating because she saw you as making her job more difficult. You can try going for 'my baby my choice' if you like, but as we all have to use the NHS, it's also 'one size fits all'.

creamola · 15/09/2011 13:37

yanbu as you say it is your baby therefore your choice.

I certainly wouldn't be happy with an array of injections in one go, think of their poor little immune systems.

I think she ( and others) should listen to the parents more.

MrsHoolie · 15/09/2011 13:39

Here in London we have both jabs at 12 months. So that's hib/men C,PCV and the MMR.
Then we have the MMR booster 3 or 6 months later as there is a measles outbreak round here. I think (although not sure) that out of London the booster is done alot later.
Personally I am happy for my children to have all their jabs as recommended but each to their own.

emsyj · 15/09/2011 13:44

Standard for babies to have both together here, but there is an option to separate them. I was asked if I wanted them done in 2 lots but said no. So it isn't true that every baby in the country has them together. Here where I live you do get a choice.

ShatnersBassoon · 15/09/2011 13:45

She was exaggerating. It's the norm to have them done in one session, but it's silly to say everyone has them done the same way.

It must piss professionals off though when people with little understanding of the matter in hand contradict them.

addictedtofrazzles · 15/09/2011 13:48

Went in last week to get Hib Men C and the other one (?) with the intention of giving MMR when DC2 was a bit older (around 18 months). Nurse insisted that they are now all given together so went with it...poor boy had a miserable afternoon but it is done! They wouldn't give it if it was unsafe but as a parent, I think you must choose what is best.

DeepPurple · 15/09/2011 13:49

I was asked whether I wanted them together or if I wanted to make a second appointment. i opted for them together.

DogsBestFriend · 15/09/2011 13:53

"The nurse then told me that every other child in the country has their's together."

She's not exaggerating, she's talking utter bollocks. My children, amongst a host of others, have not had any innoculations whatsoever.

Nurse seems to be forgetting the concept of patient and parental choice.

KAZAMM · 15/09/2011 14:00

I was given the choice of doing the jabs separate and the nurse said they offered that to every parent. So your nurse was wrong to say that to you. I ended up doing them at the same time but it was good to get that choice because i actually wasn't expecting it.

ragged · 15/09/2011 14:05

Well...maybe she meant "every other child" that she encounters in the clinic. Obviously that won't include the ones who never have any jabs at all.

You really are going to have to grow a thicker skin, OP, if you want to make unconventional vaccination decisions.

emsyj · 15/09/2011 14:13

"It must piss professionals off though when people with little understanding of the matter in hand contradict them."

Hum, well, I am a professional (tho not a medic) and I am very happy to explain anything to a client, ten times if necessary, without getting huffy at the presumptuousness of them daring to question me... Hmm

StrandedBear · 15/09/2011 15:07

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minimisschief · 15/09/2011 16:57

i think it is outrageous when people refuse inoculations but thats just me

featherbag · 15/09/2011 17:01

minimisschief I couldn't agree more. There is no valid research which shows they are harmful. There is lots and lots of evidence showing that not having them is harmful, not just to the un-vaccinated person, but to society as a whole. I don't think the OP is BU though, there may be no evidence to show one way or the other whether it's better to have all together or done separately but IMO as long as they're all being done who cares?!

HairyBeaver · 15/09/2011 17:02

Why would you not vacinate your child? General question BTW, not meant in "that" tone Grin

DoMeDon · 15/09/2011 17:02

The 2 nurses at my surgery were very huffy and patronising about my issues with innoculations. Theycould not answer my very basic questions and tried to intimidate me into having the jabs together.

YANBU

Huffythetantrumslayer · 15/09/2011 17:17

I thought ds was supposed to have them seperately but when I got there for the first one the nurse said they like to give them together now. I went with it to get it over and done with. Think they were a bit sneaky by not saying it in the appointment letter though.

CombineArvester · 15/09/2011 17:17

I was also offered them separately if I wanted. I said yes because youngest had had bad fever and swelling after previous jabs so wanted to minimise this.

BartletForAmerica · 15/09/2011 17:54

My son had them all together and had no problems at all.

(I think not immunising your children against potentially fatal diseases because you have a non-scientific view of it all is madness.)

eaglewings · 15/09/2011 17:56

YANBU

She was not telling you the truth she needs to rephrase her answer

eaglewings · 15/09/2011 17:59

Sorry OP that your thread has been hyjacked by people who did not read your comment that you did not want to turn this into a vaccination debate :(

yok2t · 15/09/2011 18:09

I will only ever let DD have one jab at a time. She had her first injections together( 2 jabs I think). The first one didn't bother her at all, the second one led to much screaming and crying. The next ones I requested only one jab at a time, no crying, fairly happy baby. I got much eye rolling from the practice nurses but I don't care, I prefer not to make my baby cry.

Milsean · 15/09/2011 18:14

You wanted 2 appts instead of one, which is twice as expensive to the NHS. So no, I think when you are getting a wonderful free service that mothers around the world would kill for, it isn't a matter of "your baby your choice". If you want it to be, you should pay privately for the same service and then you can literally call the shots.