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AIBU?

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to hate giving bj's?

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LoveMyOscar · 20/06/2011 18:09

I hate giving dp oral sex. He doesn't give me oral sex neither but expects it from me. I hate getting jaw ache and the feeling of wanting to vomit, and let's not even go there if he ejaculates in my mouth. I do enjoy penetrative sex, as does dp. The relationship is quite new. AIBU to refuse to give dp oral sex because I dislike it so much?

OP posts:
smileANDwave2000 · 20/06/2011 19:57

good name inneed Grin perhaps hes on the wrong site , it does come across as a bit freakish/scary from a womans point of view and if he doesnt realise its one thing giving OP advice or making comments and another to say what he said, also as i said earlier just because women talk openly about sex and have a good laugh about it does'nt mean were open to listening/ reading things in the tone you portrayed it felt kind of weird like it belonged on a S&M site or something

dadof2ofthem · 20/06/2011 19:57

pump you have made you mind up about me , and i doubt i can change that now , logging off for tonight now, lets just keep out of each others way shall we?

AnyFucker · 20/06/2011 20:05

allegra, no she doesn't come across as fearful, but why would you carry on doing something you hate when you don't even get it back ?

she may not fear him, but something is compelling her to over-ride her instincts

let's hope it is only a case of trying to put her "best side" forward in a new relationship and please him eh ?

although I'm not sure what says about him apart from confirming what I said upthread

he is shit in bed and she should find someone who doesn't come across as a bit of a twat in the bedroom

most men are not twats, she doesn't have to put up with this from anybody

Pumpernickel10 · 20/06/2011 20:12

I'm happy to stay away from you, no doubt you'll name change again and trip yourself up :)

Pumpernickel10 · 20/06/2011 20:14

And dad that was the post that got you banned hence why I showed it.

ineedabodytransplant · 20/06/2011 20:14

jeez. I have never had oral in any shape or form and the poor OP is having to do what she is told by a newish partner!! What's he going to come out with next? But AF, maybe she is fearful if what may happen if she stands up to him and says reciprocate or it stops?

ineedabodytransplant · 20/06/2011 20:15

of what may happen..

AnyFucker · 20/06/2011 20:16

ineedabodytransplant, I think that too, but I appreciate what allegra is trying to say

I am also a cynical old mare Smile

dreamingbohemian · 20/06/2011 20:16

Actually I would like some clarification of 'he expects it from me'

Does he know you don't like it?

Does he want you to do it even though he knows you don't like it?

This would determine whether he's really a shit or not. I mean, there's nothing wrong with him not wanting to perform oral himself. But if he expects you to do something you don't like, well, honestly, I would just ditch him now.

K999 · 20/06/2011 20:22

I rather enjoy performing fellatio on my Darling Man as long as he has abluted thoroughly.....Grin

And by thoroughly I mean scrubbed within an inch of it' life washed properly.....behind all the nooks and crannies IYSWIM.....

Pumpernickel10 · 20/06/2011 20:25

Me to k999 he's washed to an inch of his life and smooth ;)

LDNmummy · 20/06/2011 20:28

OMG, that is funny! I thought it had finally happened.

I just came off one thread and saw the title of this one to which I thought the person being talked about on the other thread (a MIL who apparently also dislikes giving BJ's) had started a parallel thread of her own.

K999 · 20/06/2011 20:30

Oh yes Pump....nothing like a bit of knob cheese dirt to put a girl right off....

Pumpernickel10 · 20/06/2011 20:31

Boak

ineedabodytransplant · 20/06/2011 20:36

don't say boak say smeg...

ineedabodytransplant · 20/06/2011 20:38

AF, you have said before you are a cynical old mare , and I have said before that I doubt you are a cynic..(fingers crossed when I say that.)Wink

AnyFucker · 21/06/2011 08:09

< ahem >

sunnydelight · 21/06/2011 08:17

I really like giving bJs. I hate being on the receiving end. Does that make me strange then?

TechLovingDad · 21/06/2011 08:20

If he refuses you then refuse him, especially if you don't like it.

My ex refused me but expected me to give it to her, to the extent she would slate me in front of friends.

I took it as an, accurate, sign of her selfishness.

dreamingbohemian · 21/06/2011 08:39

sunnydelight Same here, I suspect we probably are odd though Smile

Morloth · 21/06/2011 09:20

Don't do anything you don't want to and if he doesn't like it tell him to Fuck Off.

Same sunnydelight, can't stand getting oral myself, irritates the hell out of me. But really enjoy giving.

sunnydelight · 22/06/2011 04:40

Irritates - that's the exact word Morloth!

Ridemyface · 04/05/2024 23:07

Hope this does not come off as rude or dirty but. In my eyes he should be the one giving it before you do anything for him. I always want to and need to take care of the women first thing

Valeriekat · 05/05/2024 08:37

Well you need to let him know that you don't like it either and then dump him.
You must but he won't?
How dare he.

Bonjovispjs · 05/05/2024 08:41

Zombie! This thread is from 2011.

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