to hate giving bj's?

[LoveMyOscar]

I hate giving dp oral sex. He doesn't give me oral sex neither but expects it from me. I hate getting jaw ache and the feeling of wanting to vomit, and let's not even go there if he ejaculates in my mouth. I do enjoy penetrative sex, as does dp. The relationship is quite new. AIBU to refuse to give dp oral sex because I dislike it so much?

You was banned so why you back aren't users banned for life breaching rules?

i think its a bit like all the girls having a chin wag about the subject as you do and someone rightly or wrongly evesdropping and then trying to join in women talk about sex in a more factual / and fun way where as men get turned on , we go watch a male stripper for a giggle and laugh about it and some men get off on watching a stripper in a club which is just so desperate

I do think he is being a knob, yes. However I've heard of friends who had the same problem with a bloke who otherwise wasn't a (total) tosser. I don't know, knobbish behaviour in one aspect of the relationship might possibly not translate to all of it...

Clutching at straws here, I know...

better whach those virtiolic insults then pump , you dont want to get banned

dad your accusation that I only post on sex threads came first

I advised you not to only post on the sex threads, at that point I made no reference to where you actually posted

however since you insist on trying to prove a non-point...today, 50% of your posts have been on threads that refer to sex acts or to parts of a womans body

say no more, eh ?

well if OP is happy with him in all the other areas of their relationship perhaps it would be best to just be honest and chat about how she feels, and nothing wrong in introducing other things they might mutually be happy with. if hes not willing to chat or listen to other options then yep he is a Kn** Jockey

pump, apparently it is possible for someone to be banned, but just to re-register with a different name

MNHQ ignore it for while (sometimes for a very long time) unless they get enough complaints about repeat offences, then they will ban lifetime

So long as Dad behaves from here on in then i think it only right we give him the benefit of the doubt. Though i missed the thread he was on that got hom banned.

Op, why are you asking? Your partner refuses because he doesn't like it, so why do you feel that you can't say the same?

I would be more worried if Op somehow felt obliged to continue doing something she doesn't want to, because she fears what will happen if she puts her foot down

urgh pump did you have to repost that....bleurgh

as in, my coffee's coming back up

there don't seem to be any notes of fear in the OP as far as I can tell, just boredom/irritation

Never be bullied into it op if you don't want to do it tell him, if he doesn't like it tough shit on him. No one can make you do anything you don't want to op please remember that.

Sorry alle but this why he was banned.

I know pump, certainly graphically illustrates the reason!!

And Dad if I was banned I'd be banned for breaching rules, I've had my posts deleted by MNHQ for swearing but what you did was wrong. I won't report you again.

OP do you think that your DP is being unreasonable to refuse you oral?

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sorry, that was taken out of context pump, copying that paragragph without the rest of the tread does paint me in a bad light

OP, you really don't have to do anything you don't want to do, end of.

And, if he's not making an effort, why should you? Although, that's a pretty bad state of affairs so early in a relationship, and you should think about what you're getting into.

But, I can't help but say, since you refer to hating the jaw ache and gagging feeling, that there are many ways to give oral without having to go, erm, all the way down, if you see what I mean. And you definitely don't have to do it long enough for your jaw to ache, fuck that. One way is to basically give a hand job, but with some oral attention on top, if you see what I mean (sorry, trying not to be too graphic )

Not to say you should do this if you really don't want to, but if it's just certain aspects of the BJ you hate, there are other things you can try.

pumpernickel,

I am male and I can see why you thought that distasteful. I am certainly no prude, and due to circumstances visit cough..many art sites but generally stick to the 'normal' images. I can't see how any bloke with a sense of morals or decency can get off on seeing the type of images you post brings up. I really hope that there are no women in the dads life as I would fear for ther safety

Thanks transplant I know most men do and it doesn't bother me if I'm honest even DH is known to have a bit of light relief. It was dads graphic description that made me boak. I'm not easily offended but that turned my stomach.

i also stick to normal images , as i made clear in the origional thread, even if did watch abusive porn and get off on it, which i dont, that wouldnt nesseserily mean my famaly were at risk

for those of you that dont know , the indian couple was an instance of porn that made me sick , the woman was clearly not consenting, but yes, how would you know when pump takes one paragraph and sets it out of context