What's the most attractive trait / quality someone can have?

[stupidsillybilly]

Just this. What makes someone attractive in your eyes. I'm quite drawn to intellectual men ( I'm thick as mince myself) I just find it so grrrrr when someone really knows stuff and is effortless without the arrogance.

I like warmth with a twinkle in their eye. A balance between caring and empathic, and joy.

Mine is a sense of humour too. Such a cliche but if you’re laughing with someone you’re having a good time!

I also think being genuinely funny requires intelligence, and is usually coupled with the ability to downplay that cleverness. Being effortlessly good at something without trying. I find competitiveness such a turn off!

Yes me too!!

Honesty and kindness

Most importance - kindness. Followed by intelligence, then sense of humour.

Kindness and chivalry

Appropriate generosity and a really good sense of humour

Kindness.

Integrity

I had a boyfriend who announced in awe that calamari were like “fishy onion rings”

I stayed with him for another five years 😳

Compassion for me.

Reliability

generosity ,also a man who's good with kids/animals I go weak at the knees

Intelligent, empathic sense of humour

Sarcastic, quick, dark sense of humour only a couple of men have ever been able to make me laugh in my life. I married one of them and the other I worked with and he was insanely attractive to me.

God yes to moral fibre.
Kindness, empathy, integrity, honesty.
Warmth. Vats of the stuff!
Someone who will stand tall and fix their reassuring gaze on you, even as the world around you both falls into flame.

integrity, compassionate, mischief

Kindness - so long as it's fair and straightforward, not selective and performative.

Can't say I care what foods they've heard of - wouldn't see that as a sign of intelligence either.

money

To be able to handle their shit and adult appropriately.

The kind of person who can pick somewhere to eat, sort out train times, pay their bills on time, track down a plumber… you know, someone who doesn’t need to be micro managed or told what to do 17,000 times before they do it.

Cannot abide a manchild or ditherer. Boils my blood when men can’t manage normal adult tasks.

plus muscles.

An ability to genuinely apologize when they have made a mistake, kindness, and a good sense of humour.

Being genuine. I've no time for falseness.

Decency, sense of duty, clever (I appreciate maths heads and people who can do things with spreadsheets). DH isn’t an overly kind person (more moral than super nice if you see the difference) but he’s incredibly empathetic to me and DD.

All of the above, plus a massive dick.