What's the most attractive trait / quality someone can have?

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Just this. What makes someone attractive in your eyes. I'm quite drawn to intellectual men ( I'm thick as mince myself) I just find it so grrrrr when someone really knows stuff and is effortless without the arrogance.

Kindness is they key one for me, because so many other good things follow from it.

Being kind and humble. I absolutely detest all the "Big I Am" people who are self obsessed and full of their own importance, both male and female.

Yep, all that.

Kindness, humour, not cocky, not sleazy, sees young women in a fatherly way instead of something to perve on, affectionate, glass half full, chilled, attentive, deep.

Down to earth is a great quality. A sense of humour and an awareness of others are also good traits.

Kindness and a sense of humour

I really think kindness is number one. There are many other traits I value such as sense of humour, reliability, empathy, not being lazy, sense of fun. Kindness is the most important though.

Honesty - I can cope with most things if someone is honest with me.
but also kindness and integrity. All so
important to me.

In a nutshell.

Going to Harry Potter quote here but look at how a man treats his subordinates, not his equals. Or whatever Sirius actually said. It’s true though and I really respect that in a partner.

Kindness and generosity.

If someone finds you unexpectedly funny (not in a negative laughing at you way, obviously, nor in a polite, mild way). If they genuinely find you outstandingly funny and give a belly laugh, it's a knock-you-over impressive thing. I think anyone could sell me anything in the 20 seconds after that belly laugh. I'm briefly susceptible whatever they are like.

A rare combination of kindness, compassion and a sense of humour. Most people I know only have one of the three.

Someone who can be a full adult as mentioned previously, generosity,manners and to be at ease in any setting.
Ex partner was great in so many ways but was instantly uncomfortable in anything slightly premium. I'd like to go to nice places without it being such a 'thing'.

Decency is very under rated. Someone who is kind to pets, polite to waiting staff, puts the supermarket trolley away even though it’s half way across the car park, interested in what children have to tell him (or fakes it convincingly!), pops the neighbours bin up the drive if they are out, makes a cuppa instead of asking for one. They are all small markers that point to a good and decent person.

Hard to pick just one! Good sense of humour, genuine, intelligent, capable, easygoing but not a pushover, generous, sociable...I don't ask for much!

Sense of humour for me. A good one though, not a mean or stupid one.

The sense of humour think is pretty irresistible providing it’s clever. I also find cleverness very attractive.

Funny, clever, kind and generous of spirit.

Sense of adventure and charitable nature. Couldn’t be with someone who was vain and self obsessed or someone who had no interest in seeing the world.

Capability

Logic, self-reliance, common sense.

I'm able to cope with literally anything else, except people incapable of logical thought, common sense, and being able to look after themselves.

I just can't get past people who are "needy" in any way, whether it's emotionally needy, disorganised, chaotic, etc., however "nice", "kind", etc they are, and certainly not overly emotional people.

Intelligence, good manners and humour and whilst I do not want someone to be cruel I think kindness can be over rated. It’s a quality that many women like and value in themselves.

"Kindness" is also very easy to fake.

Boundaries. I really respect someone who has boundaries and sticks to them.

@Chocbuttonsandredwine "I remember one (ex) boyfriend asked me what Chicken Kiev was. I died"

You appear to be confusing intelligence with general knowledge....