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Urgent need of a hand hold / unMN hug

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MumofSpud · 04/10/2022 15:06

I know there may be more specific sites to put this thread but I can't bring myself to go there
DH is in hospital with Leukaemia- and for the past few weeks has had a chest infection
Now he has 2 chest infections
I have been visiting x2 a day but not since Thursday as I got Covid (for the first time)
The Macmillan nurse has just rung asking me to do a test as the Dr wants to have an conversation' and it might be easier if I am there
Of course I am still testing positive
I tried to get details out of her but all she would say is that it is a serious conversation
Dr is due to ring me soon
I feel sick with nerves and so guilty that I am not there
He is 49
I really need a hand hold

OP posts:
HangOnToYourself · 05/10/2022 23:16

Oh @MumofSpud I cant even tell you how sorry I am. To go from the awful news yesterday and thinking you still have time together to losing him so soon is be beyond heartbreaking. You must have still been processing everything, you poor poor thing.

stepfordwifey · 05/10/2022 23:18

So very sorry to read your update. I'm glad you were able to say goodbye. Sending you strength and best wishes. x

WhenAGrapeIsBorn · 05/10/2022 23:22

So sorry for your loss

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Chunkychipsohyeah · 05/10/2022 23:29

Sending love and best wishes to you and your family ❤️

Twinsmummy1812 · 05/10/2022 23:32

I am so terribly sorry. I’m glad you were together at the end and your DH’s passing was peaceful but I’m so sorry that you didn’t have the time you hoped x

QueSyrahSyrah · 05/10/2022 23:37

Oh @MumofSpud. I'm so, so sorry. Sending lots of very un-MN hugs to you.

Please keep talking to us, if you want to. MN has it's issues but you can rely on the fact that there is always somebody here to listen and hold your hand x

Parroteets · 05/10/2022 23:38

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry for your loss 💙

WakeMeUpBeforeYouGo · 05/10/2022 23:38

Big hug.. thinking of you. xx

purpleboy · 05/10/2022 23:42

I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤️

2018SoFarSoGreat · 06/10/2022 00:25

I'm so sorry. Sending love and strength and comfort to you and yours.

It strikes me that your DH was one of thosevspecial people with amazing control. He went on his terms, in his time. My mum and her father both did this, much to our shock and horror. In retrospect, it's a gift they had, and an enviable one at that. It did not help us in the moment though.

We are all here, holding you upright even if you can't. We've got you, if that's a comfort 🌹

Neome · 06/10/2022 00:35

I hope you can accept a virtual hug from a stranger, I’m struggling to find the right words but I have found a few tears for you, your DH and family 💐

Todayisontheup · 06/10/2022 00:36

I am sorry to hear your news @MumofSpud . You have carried yourself with such dignity during this difficult time. Sending lots of love your way x

toomuchlaundry · 06/10/2022 00:43

I am so sorry 💐

blackpearwhitelilies · 06/10/2022 00:48

Oh, OP. I am so very sorry.
He sounds like a very special person.
Thinking of you all.

elfies · 06/10/2022 01:00

Handhold and gentle hugs x

ItsAutumnThen · 06/10/2022 01:18

I am so sorry for your loss, sending huge hugs xxxx

CousinTime · 06/10/2022 01:30

I am so very sorry.
It won’t help now, but in the future that you were there and he wasn’t in pain will mean something, however small. He sounds wonderful.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 06/10/2022 01:35

Sorry for ypur loss @MumofSpud . Such a difficult time but pray you find comfort in the memories you shared.

ImAGummyBear · 06/10/2022 01:43

I am so sorry for your loss 💐
Heartbreaking...sending you love and peace in your heart xxx

JestersTear · 06/10/2022 01:53

I am so very sorry to read this news.
It sounds as though he went peacefully and comfortably and that is all we can ever hope for really.
Sending hugs and if you want to rant or offload or anything, then this random stranger's inbox is open if you need it.

Yarboosucks · 06/10/2022 02:12

My sincere condolences to you, your family and all who loved him. Hold on to each other and I hope you find comfort that he went peacefully.

Ohdofuckofdear · 06/10/2022 02:19

I am so so sorry,hard I know but please do try to accept any good help and support that you can, I hope you and your children have lots of love and support around you.

I shall be thinking of you all

TreeFishFrog · 06/10/2022 02:28

Oh @MumofSpud I am so sorry to hear that your dh died. Sending much love to you and your family.

waterlego · 06/10/2022 02:49

I’m so sorry for your loss. Glad though that you were with him. I think that fact will bring you comfort in the coming weeks and months.

AntiStars · 06/10/2022 03:01

I’m so, so, sorry to read your update. I can only imagine the pain you are going through and am sure there are people here who are better with words than I am but just know that people are here ready with handholds whenever you need them. We will be thinking of you xx