Friend making snide comments about me being a sahm

[ReginaPhalange2190]

My friend & I have been friends for quite a number of years! We're both first time parents, our kids are the same age.
I'm lucky enough to be a sahm, she's a working mum.
Both our kids are at nursery (different towns, different nurseries) .
She keeps making snide comments about me being a sahm & how spoilt my child is to have mummy home all the time & it's starting to wear thin now.
Ive decided to pull my child out of nursery for a couple of weeks due to a positive covid case at the nursery.

She's made snide comments about how I'm lucky I can take my child out if I want to as I'm not working! I told her it's not about being lucky, it's about keeping my child safe & that my child's health is the most important thing.
She's taken complete offence to me saying this & blew up at me.
She messaged me a few days ago with reasons about why she took offence but I haven't replied as I don't know what to reply!

Personally I think she was looking for any excuse to have a go at you...

I wonder why. Some serious lack of self-awareness displayed by the OP, and I think this thread has been a bit of a wake-up.

Totally agree with whomever said that it doesn’t even sound as if the two women are friends.

@CaterpillarMilkshake

Personally I think she was looking for any excuse to have a go at you...

I wonder why. Some serious lack of self-awareness displayed by the OP, and I think this thread has been a bit of a wake-up.

Totally agree with whomever said that it doesn’t even sound as if the two women are friends.

I believe the 'friend' has form for digging at OP...

However this is only my opinion .. just like everyone else's on here...

there is no rule on mumsnet that says everyone on here MUST agree ...

and I don't know OP or the 'friend' ... only OP can be the true judge of who or what her 'friend' is ... 🌺

I believe the 'friend' has form for digging at OP...

According to the op yes, whilst presenting a major dig that she gave her “friend”

It’s irrelevant though, in this the op kicked this woman hard. If the friends being doing it to her too, then it’s worse. They aren’t friends. They are just two women who meet up, compete with each other and are spiteful to each other, whilst pretending to be friends.

I don’t know about you. But I tend not to make cunty comments to my friends. And they don’t me.

Just say, ' Sorry,' and that you didn't mean to cause offence but that it was a difficult decision to make and you were feeling a bit upset by it but you were just getting worried and stressing about everything and snapped when she said you were 'lucky'.

@Bluntness100

I believe the 'friend' has form for digging at OP...

According to the op yes, whilst presenting a major dig that she gave her “friend”

It’s irrelevant though, in this the op kicked this woman hard. If the friends being doing it to her too, then it’s worse. They aren’t friends. They are just two women who meet up, compete with each other and are spiteful to each other, whilst pretending to be friends.

I don’t know about you. But I tend not to make cunty comments to my friends. And they don’t me.

as I already said....

there's no rules saying we need to agree ....

I have my opinion and you have yours ...

🌺

I have my opinion and you have yours

True. I think though we all know that some posters think it’s their job to support the op and agree with her, no matter what, kind of like a BFF offer.

I’m sure you’re not that poster though, and genuinely do agree.

😃