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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

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SoulofanAggron · 18/03/2021 18:23

Glad things are a bit better. Sorry to hear about his kidneys. Flowers

My best friend is on dialysis. Perhaps once he's got his energy/strength back, your DH might consider doing peritoneal dialysis? A lot of people haven't heard of it.

People do it at home, it just involves some stuff a few times a day. They can even do it on a machine overnight while they sleep, so it doesn't eat into their day. It's worth considering when he feels well enough. Peritoneal dialysis also means people can go on holiday more easily- they just bring supplies with them or they get delivered, so they don't have to take time out of their holiday to go to a centre. Recommended if and when he feels able. xxx

Abbey0134 · 18/03/2021 18:24

That's bloody brilliant! No doubt you have a long road in front of you. But I'm so pleased for the whole family x

Deereamer · 18/03/2021 18:28

Delighted to see your update! I’ve been checking and hoping every day that things worked out for you x

LabbyNoona · 18/03/2021 18:34

I’m so delighted to read your update Smile I have been lurking for a long time and only posted a few times (I think). I know it’s a long road ahead still but I hope things continue to improve Flowers Look after yourself too as well as everyone else.

Floralnomad · 18/03/2021 18:37

Delighted to read the update , hope things continue to improve for your family 💐

CormoranStrike · 18/03/2021 18:42

What a lovely update to read. Positive steps all round for you guys - a long hard road, but hopefully heading for a good destination.

Much love to you and Mr Wardobes, the two little bedside cabinets and Mama sideboard.

SplendidSuns1000 · 18/03/2021 18:51

Absolutely thrilled for you all! So glad Mr Wardrobes, and the two little bedside cabinets are doing okay, they're so lucky to have you and Mama sideboard, I hope you're both okay too.

Best wishes to you all, take care of yourselves xx

LoudestCat14 · 18/03/2021 18:54

I'm another lurker who has been following your posts and I am so thrilled to read this latest update. It sounds as though Mr Wardrobes has some way to go but to hear he's off the ventilator is brilliant. And that you and the little Wardrobes are doing well too. You are amazing how you've coped with all this, I am in awe. Flowers

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/03/2021 18:55

Oh gosh what a relief that your dh is off the ventilator, starting to recover and your ds is out of hospital and back at school. Long road ahead but with the improving weather, hopefully life will continue to look up. Smile

paradyning · 18/03/2021 18:57

Amazing news Thanks

WitchDancer · 18/03/2021 18:58

Fantastic news, thank you for sharing Thanks

H1978 · 18/03/2021 18:58

What great news! Well done to your dh, he’s an absolute fighter. And you’re amazing to be so positive through everything.

MiaChia · 18/03/2021 18:59

Lovely update 😊

minniemoocher · 18/03/2021 19:00

So pleased your news is positive, your journey is still a long one but you have hope

marriednotdead · 18/03/2021 19:01

What a wonderful update. I know you have a long way to go but baby steps in the right direction is definitely to be celebrated! Wishing you and yours more good health Flowers

AdoraBell · 18/03/2021 19:02

So glad to read your update 💐

myrtleWilson · 18/03/2021 19:04

Such a lovely update - I wish every happiness & health for you and the entire Wardrobe family - even if that takes a little while Flowers

mineofuselessinformation · 18/03/2021 19:04

Still shaking pom-poms here, and so pleased to read your update, @Wardrobes123. Onwards and upwards! But, small steps, eh?
Take good care of you and yours. Thanks

Whatamesssss · 18/03/2021 19:04

Wonderful news. It brought tears to my eyes. So happy for you all. Flowers

Queenie6655 · 18/03/2021 19:04

In tears reading this

Have thought of you and your family often ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

LIZS · 18/03/2021 19:05

I'm so pleased to hear he has left icu and is starting on his recovery. What a horrible time you and the dc have had. Can identify with the long road to walking, eating and towards some semblance of normal life. Dh was also muscle wasted after a stay in icu last year, although not as long or arduous a stay as Mr W, and is still recovering months later. Wishing him, you and all the mini Wardrobes well.

Welshywitch · 18/03/2021 19:06

What wonderful news, so happy for you Wardrobes xFlowers

Capetownmothercity · 18/03/2021 19:09

Oh well done Wardrobe family, great news!

BigBamboo · 18/03/2021 19:11

Really pleased to hear this Wardrobes. Lots of love to you all. What fighting spirit you all have.
Xxxxx

SunshineCake · 18/03/2021 19:12

My heart was in my mouth when I saw your thread in trending but oh my goodness what a wonderful update. I know things are tough, and have been extremely hard, but he is still here and that is wonderful. I'm so sorry your child has also been ill but happy they are home. I know things are difficult in many areas but thank you for taking the time to tell us what has been going on.

I think about you every day but stopped posting daily so as to not fill up the thread.

Support on here is wonderful.