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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
SunshineCake · 29/01/2021 19:35

Hurray!!!

Timeforsinging81 · 29/01/2021 19:38

So pleased that your DH is slowly improving Smile. I'm not a nurse but I'm very involved with covid patients and we've had a bad fortnight in our hospital so it's really heartening to hear good news, even though you have a long road ahead of you.

Applesandpears23 · 29/01/2021 20:04

Excellent!

SunsetSenora · 29/01/2021 20:16

Oh @Wardrobes123, I am so sorry. Much love to you. Just go a minute at a time. There is nothing wrong with that as an approach, sounds like a smart thing to do. Sending you hugs.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 29/01/2021 20:17

Brilliant news! Flowers

Picassosfriend · 29/01/2021 20:23

Fabulous news!!!

SunshineCake · 29/01/2021 20:27

@SunsetSenora

Oh *@Wardrobes123*, I am so sorry. Much love to you. Just go a minute at a time. There is nothing wrong with that as an approach, sounds like a smart thing to do. Sending you hugs.
Maybe read the whole thread before jumping in.

MrWardrobes is doing better.

WitchDancer · 29/01/2021 21:16

Oh that is fantastic news, thank you for sharing. Small steps will complete a mile, even if it does take time Thanks

Cagedbirdsinging · 29/01/2021 21:26

Excellent news x

Jambalaya76 · 29/01/2021 21:45

I'm so happy for you and your family xx

Tonkerbea · 29/01/2021 21:51

I'm so so pleased he's improving!Flowers

boddtm · 29/01/2021 22:48

Oh this is really hopeful, I'm glad to hear your update and I'm sending lots of strength and all the good stuff your way. Obviously you have to be tentative with hoping but I'm so glad the news is better

Sakura7 · 29/01/2021 23:27

Oh I'm so relieved for you OP, that is fantastic news!

Floralnomad · 30/01/2021 00:38

Congratulations @Wardrobes123 , hope he continues to improve .

NapCracklePop · 30/01/2021 08:24

Such wonderful news! Flowers

Mama1980 · 30/01/2021 08:34

Oh such wonderful news!

friskybivalves · 30/01/2021 10:54

Wardrobe, I hesitated to mention it before but the FT ran a brilliant piece last week by one of their writers of his experiences in ICU with covid. It was both alarming at times and ultimately uplifting, in that he came through. It may be too soon for you to want to read it or to have the mental and physical ooomph to tackle it. But it was fascinating too, about his wild dreams and delusions. I'm not sure i can link it as it was paywalled but if you would like me to get you access I'm sure I can find a way with a DM or similar. No worries of course if not and no need to respond either way.

Great news about the steady progress!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 30/01/2021 11:32

Wonderful newsThanks

C0NNIE · 30/01/2021 11:57

Excellent news

LindaEllen · 30/01/2021 13:03

I am so so happy that things are moving in a positive direction for you all. Sending lots of love and hope that it continues 💗

Mallowmarshmallow · 30/01/2021 20:21

Thanks so much for this. My parents are delighted to be booked in for the end of the week. This should be public knowledge really.

AdoraBell · 30/01/2021 20:43

Fabulous update Wardrobe, hope he continues to improve.

adeleh · 30/01/2021 20:45

Wonderful news wardrobes xxxxx

Bettydot · 30/01/2021 22:05

I’m so happy to hear your latest update. What a fighter, it sounds like he’s doing really well. I’m so pleased to read this and hope he continues to make progress.

traditionallife · 31/01/2021 10:38

So glad to hear positive news for your DH x