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I just want to be in the house ON MY OWN (lighthearted. Sort of)

59 replies

Silverstar2 · 21/07/2020 13:12

So I realised this week that I have not been in the house on my own, without DH and two teenagers since February half term.

I am now off for 6 bloody weeks, after only returning to work (school based) a few weeks ago. I really enjoy my job, and was happy to be busy again after 12 weeks sat at home doing nothing.

DH working from home, teenagers out at times but not so much as before. I am bored of the same four walls already, bored of the same walks I have done everyday for the last few months, bored of everything. Our holiday was cancelled, family quite far away and vulnerable.

Anyway, I think if they all just pissed off out and left me alone I would be happier! Does anyone else feel the same?

Six weeks of them all in the house with me is going to tough...……

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TheWoollybacksWife · 21/07/2020 13:21

I hear you. It's been a great comfort having the whole family under the same roof during lockdown but I miss my own company.

DH took our DC to visit MIL yesterday. It was the first time since February that I've been in the house on my own. It's a fairly rare occurrence even without lockdown as DH routinely works from home but it was utter bliss. I did lots of little jobs, caught up on some recorded tv and wandered from room to room enjoying the fact that I was the only one there.

I hope your turn comes soon.

LolaColaMola · 21/07/2020 13:26

I feel the same. DH has been at work through lockdown so it's just been me and the DC at home. I'm used to being home alone while they are at school (youngest just started reception and I was supposed to get a job but corona). I miss being alone, have had just one lovely hour since march.

FromTheAllotment · 21/07/2020 13:27

Not that you asked, but YADNBU. I totally get it. I love my DH, I love my DC, but if they would all piss off somewhere and have a lovely time without me for a couple of days that would be amazing. I think I’m basically both introverted and selfish- I want to play music they hate turned up really loud, and eat crap without having to share it, and NOT TALK TO ANYONE.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 21/07/2020 13:28

DH is taking DDs camping for the weekend next week.

I. Cannot. Wait. Except when I do food shopping or go for a walk I'm with DDs 24hrs a day. DH goes out to work.

Sad thing is.. I'm trying to decide which room to tidy first!

CoalTitCafe · 21/07/2020 13:29

YANBU, I love time home alone.

I think you should plan a family day out SOMEWHERE FAR AWAY and then develop a poorly tummy in the morning but insist that the boys don't miss out just because you're not well Wink

Grandmi · 21/07/2020 13:29

I am 100% with you on this !! Husband WFH son WFH I work three days a week and am craving a day at home on my own with the dog !!

Seeline · 21/07/2020 13:41

YANBU!! I said the other day that I hadn't been on my own apart from supermarket trips for months. I normally WFH so used to being by myself. DH has worked from home throughout lockdown. My DCs were supposed to have been doing GCSEs and A levels so haven't really had much to do in terms of school work. I am doing my nut - really missing my normal routines. Miss not having music on because of bloody zoom meetings. It would be lovely to have the house to myself.

starfishmummy · 21/07/2020 13:49

I know the feeling! DS is shielding so hasn't been out, and is unable to go out alone anyway due to his disabilities. He would normally have been at his SN college until the end of june and the holidays are long enough anyway!!

I can't do anything - even shift my position on the sofa - without being asked what I am doing! Hes on a zoom at the moment which is my only respite.

Baaaahhhhh · 21/07/2020 13:55

Thank God, a thread I can relate to. Everyone else in MN land is so happy to be working from home en-famille. I just want some SPACE (and we live in a big house in the countryside), but yes, I agree, just an hour with everyone out doing something else would be bliss.

homemadecommunistrussia · 21/07/2020 13:55

Yup.
Dh needs to go back to work, dd needs to go to uni and ds needs to get a JOB!
I know it's not easy for them, but I need peace.Sad

UncleShady · 21/07/2020 13:56

March 9. I have had someone at home since 9 March.

And now DH is permanently WFH so there's nothing to look forward to in September.

I want to play loud music and watch TV and even clean the bloody floor without someone asking why or what or whatever. I can't even hide in the shed as the neighbour pops his head over.

BlingLoving · 21/07/2020 13:57

God yes. I've been actively day dreaming about this the last few weeks. I just want to be ALONE. I've started going to work out in coffee shops etc occasionally now, which is better than nothing. But I'd far rather just be at home by myself for more than 5 minutes!

chelseahotel · 21/07/2020 14:01

Oh yes.
Though this is nothing new. DH retired years ago when DC were still at school. Not only that he is a hermit who would never, ever leave the house given the choice.
We do have lots of room, DC all grown up and gone but oh to have the house to myself for a few hours..

Deardonkey · 21/07/2020 14:03

DH declared last night that he is never going back to the office again, wfh forever (I’m not sure his company feel the same).
DD2 just received her 6th form timetable and she’s not going to be in school everyday.
DD1 is really unwell and will probably not be able to go back to work anytime soon.
DS is really going to struggle to go to back to school in September (he has ASD) and I can imagine getting quite a few phone calls to collect him early.

I’m exhausted having everyone around and just want a little time at home alone, it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen at all this year 🙄.

CoronaIsShit · 21/07/2020 14:07

I hear you! DH and DC are at a theme park today. First time since the 16th March that I’ve been alone in the house (4DC). I would have gone if our 7 seater hadn’t given up the ghost a few months ago, and our other car is a 5 seater, how glad am I that it didGrin.

House cleaned by 9.30, no one here to come behind me and make any mess. Just doing a bit of sunbathing, then going to open a bottle of wine and watch a crap 15 or 18 rated film which haven’t been able to do as youngest DC is going to bed at the same time as me and DH at the moment. Shame I gave them all the chocolate Hmm.

On my own til at least 8pm. Loving it!

Firenight · 21/07/2020 14:08

Same. Only time have been when I am working so still no headspace

Poppyismyfavourite · 21/07/2020 14:25

Ooh yes. DH went to stay with his mum a couple of weeks ago for 4/5 days (he is WFH so just worked from there, and she lives alone so we were a bubble). It was bliss!

feesh · 21/07/2020 14:27

I get it, OP. That’s why my mum (our bubble) is having my DCs for 24 whole hours tomorrow and I am so excited!

PeonyTruffle · 21/07/2020 14:29

I am so with you OP. Desperately craving my own company now 😖

Sunnydayshereatlast · 21/07/2020 14:30

My dc have been off since March, 1 dc went to school for 4 weeks until yesterday.. So that's 4 dc been home full time for what feels like eternity...
Until September.. No wonder my hair needs dyeing so often...

afromom · 21/07/2020 14:37

Haha it's the other other way around in our house, DP has been going out to work and DCs are teens so lock themselves away for about 23 hrs a day. I'm loving some time at home on my own.
DP on the other hand asked me this morning how long it would be before I start travelling again for work 😂 he apparently wants to be able to sit in his pants on the sofa watching war films like he used to before lockdown! 🙄 I told him he's free to go ahead!

ThatBitch · 21/07/2020 14:41

My dh is away and both dc are in school at the same time for the first time since March. It's been bliss! I've finally tidied and sorted our living space and feeling so much more relaxed because of it 🤣

gnushoes · 21/07/2020 14:44

I always WFH. EVERY time I break for an urgent wee or surface from a meeting DH, DS or DD want to talk to me NOW about something.

Puffinhead · 21/07/2020 14:57

Snap! And I have literally just had this conversation!

It’s my birthday in a few days and what I would really like is a day at home all on my own. I don’t want to go out, I want to be at home by myself.

Purplelion · 21/07/2020 14:57

Omg I couldn’t agree more! I booked my 2 children in at the childminders 2 days a week from last week just so I can have some alone time. Last week the car broke down so they couldn’t go, this week OH is ill so isn’t working today, I’m praying nothing gets in my way next week!