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I just want to be in the house ON MY OWN (lighthearted. Sort of)

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Silverstar2 · 21/07/2020 13:12

So I realised this week that I have not been in the house on my own, without DH and two teenagers since February half term.

I am now off for 6 bloody weeks, after only returning to work (school based) a few weeks ago. I really enjoy my job, and was happy to be busy again after 12 weeks sat at home doing nothing.

DH working from home, teenagers out at times but not so much as before. I am bored of the same four walls already, bored of the same walks I have done everyday for the last few months, bored of everything. Our holiday was cancelled, family quite far away and vulnerable.

Anyway, I think if they all just pissed off out and left me alone I would be happier! Does anyone else feel the same?

Six weeks of them all in the house with me is going to tough...……

OP posts:
DinosApple · 21/07/2020 15:00

I'm with you. No time on my tod since 13 March.
I'm also school based and have asked my teacher when they want me in 😂. DH works part time and DC are 9 & 10.

We're all heartily sick of each other, the DC won't even go and play in the garden without WW3 breaking out!

Littleyellowbowl · 21/07/2020 15:01

Yes!! This exactly. I'm a single parent with 2 DC, one has SEN. All I want is time in the house, on my own. Can't wait until September

treeeeemendous · 21/07/2020 15:03

Oh my god this is me. DH been working all the way though, I've been working at home with two teenagers. I would just love a day to have the house to myself although sadly it's housework I would love to blitz. I'm thinking of booking the day they go back to school off as annual leave Blush

LonginesPrime · 21/07/2020 15:04

YANBU, OP.

It sucks that all my usual hiding places (cafes, libraries, etc) are all either closed or too stressful to visit at the moment - there's nowhere to hide!

BogRollBOGOF · 21/07/2020 15:23

DH has FINALLY left the house in connection with work for the first time since 12th March (just a site visit, still no sign of going to the office). The DCs have been in continually since 20th March.

I'm used to being on my own 9-3 each day, pootling around, going for runs and helping in school. All of that's ground to a halt. Other than the pain of inflicting home learning on the DCs, they need a presence in the house, but not close supervision.

When the DCs are in, my brain is "on call" and doesn't relax into doing things. Because of DH's work calls, I don't have R2 blaring in stereo through the house.

It's been like over a hundred dull Sundays one after the other. It's improved a bit in the last month as it's easier to get the kids out and break the groundhog day, but I cannot wait to skip out of the school playground singing HALLELUJA in September Grin

(Although DH is still likely to be esconced in the room upstairs... but at least I can get a few hours benefit from cleaning up Wink )

notangelinajolie · 21/07/2020 15:28

I love being home alone and I pretty much am more most of the day/early evening in normal times. I have enjoyed everyone's company during lockdown but I'm glad things are finally returning to normal.
DD and DH have both recently gone back to work so my peace and quiet is back at last.

thisonebreath · 21/07/2020 15:28

Oh god yes. They're all just constantly there. Until I have jobs for them to do...

AtiaoftheJulii · 21/07/2020 15:36

Oh jeez, I am so with you on this. Can't remember the last time I was home alone. I nearly lost it a couple of weeks ago when I got home from work and realised dh had come home from work at lunchtime and the kids (4 young adults/nearly adults) had been over visiting FIL (in the garden) for his birthday, so dh had had the afternoon in the house by himself. I thought I might die of envy.

Ds is gong back to his university city in a couple of weeks. I'm going to drive him and stay the night in a hotel. It won't be the sane as being home alone, but it will be SOLITUDE.

mizu · 21/07/2020 15:37

Yep. Feel a bit like this. DH now back at work though so just two DD teens. 2 bed flat so there's not a whole lot of space though we do have a private garden. I've been WFH since March and off for a few weeks now.
Want
Some
Space

Original poster
Silverstar2 · 21/07/2020 15:38

So sorry to hear you all feel the same, although nice to know I am not alone (chance would be fine thing.....).

DH has just announced he is taking the next two weeks off, so will be at home still of course but at least while he is working he is shut in the spare room. Arghhhhh!

I need my space.

OP posts:
IveSeenThings · 21/07/2020 15:41

Urgh I relate to this completely.
My husband usually works away mon-fri, and has been home non-stop since early March. Two children too.
I need my silent evenings to myself! I don't want to sit in the bedroom, I want to enjoy the sitting room after the children have gone up.
I'm so fed up.
My children are very well behaved, but it would be lovely to send them to granny's for a few days...but she's still in isolation.
I would love to not have to cook for a few days!

Purpleartichoke · 21/07/2020 15:45

I would dearly love a bit of solitude. I thought I was going to get a break of a couple of hours when DH took dd to a medical appointment, but he insisted on giving me a play by play of the entire outing in real time, alternating between phone calls and texts.

If you are bored though, you need some hobbies or a new distraction. I’ve been studying a language and building legos. I’ve also found escape from the stress of the world by playing video games (animal crossing is particularly effective for forgetting the world outside is a dystopian nightmare).

Ohdeariedear · 21/07/2020 15:45

I have worked out I should have the house to myself on 13 August, that’s three weeks on Thursday. That’s the first day both DC will be at school on the same day. I might just lie in bed all day and enjoy the silence. 😄

loulouljh · 21/07/2020 15:46

I feel the same. I had 20 mins on my own the other day! Was like a holiday...

MitziK · 21/07/2020 15:50

I understand completely.

Until DP got his job, I realised that I hadn't been in my own home alone for months, if not a year. And, as much as I like him, I just wanted the place to myself for a change. On the first Saturday he did, I got up five minutes after he closed the front door, just so I could enjoy as much time alone as possible, as even when we were both at work, he'd finish and get home before me, so he was always there, for him to have to do some Saturdays was a bonus I'd hardly dared dream of.

Since he went back to work and I've been WFH, I've loved having twelve hours to myself before he comes back in. No TV, no eighties action shows, no radio 'comedies', no sodding noise at all, just me and two sleeping cats.

His work is extending their hours and opening on Sundays soon. The peace will continue after my return to the office.

cheeseychovolate · 21/07/2020 15:55

I'm so looking forward to being home alone for a couple of hours here and there in September.

formerbabe · 21/07/2020 15:55

Yes...by the time my dc go back to school,they'll have been home for nearly six months. I am a sahm so I'm used to having six blissful hours a day home alone while dc at school and dh at work. Miss it so much...especially being able to clean up whist they're all out. Clearing up with everyone at home constantly is like trying to hold back the tide.

AnotherBiteMe · 21/07/2020 15:57

I really feel for those of you who have younger kids at home. I'm shielding but only have one 18 Yr old at home so it's been pretty plain sailing with a largish house and own garden.

Blobby10 · 21/07/2020 16:04

I've been working as normal throughout lockdown so out of the house 7am - 6pm but my 3 young adult children all came back for a period of time and after a few weeks I was just craving being able to come home and it be quiet and as tidy as when I left it 12 hours earlier!! Yes I missed them(for about a millsecond!) when they dispersed and even told my OH not to come and visit for a couple of days so I could appreciate the peace!

WhenDoISleep · 21/07/2020 16:05

Yep - the last time I had alone in the house was on 13 March whilst both DC were at school. DH started working from home the following week. I'm a complete introvert, and normally 2 weeks of everyone home is enough to make me completely twitchy - going on 19 weeks now and no sign of anything changing. DH is wfh for the foreseeable and DC are now on 'summer holidays'. Oldest DC had a few weeks back in school (y6), but the younger one wasn't in a year that went back.

Happynow001 · 21/07/2020 16:10

@Puffinhead

Snap! And I have literally just had this conversation!

It’s my birthday in a few days and what I would really like is a day at home all on my own. I don’t want to go out, I want to be at home by myself.

I don't suppose you could ask for exactly this (plus a bottle of wine and some decent chocolates) as your present?? 😁

Fishfingersandwichplease · 21/07/2020 16:12

I am counting the days til September OP ....the first day dd goes back to school l am going to come home, and sit on my sofa in absolute silence!!! Can't wait!!

IrmaFayLear · 21/07/2020 16:13

I bumped into someone I know the other day (well, a socially-distanced bump) and we both agreed that the worst three words in the English language are “What’s for lunch?”

I feel mean and ungrateful for scowling so much about it but in normal times I wouldn’t bother with much but dh gets very excited about lunch and wants to sit down at the table (and unfortunately tell me about his work...).

Mrsmchammer · 21/07/2020 16:14

I hear you!!! I'm going to book myself a night away on my own at some stage soon. No laptop, no people, just me, maybe the dog, and my kindle.

DorsetCamping · 21/07/2020 16:17

Yep I totally feel your pain. I literally cannot wait to get some space to myself; there is always someone here demanding something or other Angry