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Please give me some moral support

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marymungomidge · 19/12/2019 00:36

Hi all, I'm really struggling - I've just found out I have choroidal melanoma (nasty eye cancer that has a 50:50 chance of survival) and today I told my daughter. She is 24 but still lives with me because she is very unwell and I look after her. She is bright and beautiful and lovely and funny and so, so vulnerable. I am terrified about what may happen to her if I die. She is, understandably, reeling from the news, which I had tried to keep from her till I know more. She found me crying this morning, though, and something had to be said. I'm 53 and completely stunned by all this - life goes from, one minute, planning ahead and expecting another 20-30 years, to suddenly finding that it may come to a stop soon. I can't bear the thought of leaving my daughter. Please help.

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chinateapot · 10/01/2020 23:29

@marymungomidge
Just wanted to say hello and how happy I am to have read this whole thread. I think we must live fairly close to you in N Yorks - Dalby is one of our regular stomping grounds - and my little girl has been having treatment for an orbital tumour including proton beam - we are so lucky that she has a really good prognosis - but I read this with my heart in my mouth hoping for good news for you and your lovely DD. So I’m joining in late but wanted to send you love and celebrate with you.
Also - be gentle with yourself over the next few weeks. You have had good news but an incredibly traumatic experience. It is ok to be upset by it at some point despite the positive outcome.
And - we loved little women too! Went to see it with my older daughter (not the sick one, big girl definitely needed some mum time too) and we both sobbed our way through it but loved it and then went to Bettys

Shockers · 10/01/2020 23:38

I’ve only just found, and read, this thread. I’ve had a shitter of a day, and this has cheered me up no end. Lots of love to you and your daughter.

MadeForThis · 11/01/2020 00:17

Best of luck. What a great outcome.

twelveminutespast · 13/02/2020 22:24

Just found and read this thread and my god, what a fantastic update. I'm tearing up. Thanks

Icepinkeskimo · 26/02/2020 23:10

I just read the update OP, I'm a bit choked up for you in a good way, think I've got some dust in my eyes.

Sending you and your daughter love, and happiness xx

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