I'm a cam girl - AMA

[cammydodger]

Just that, it is my only source of income.

Opening it up to any questions people might have!

If you’ve only got a year left, why not work longer hours and just rake in all the money you possibly can? That’s what I’d do if I had a 30-year-old body. 😂 Strike while the booty’s hot!

@hotpotlover

That's good that your mum is okay with it. Mine wouldn't, but it's fantastic that you've got such a supportive mother who has your back no matter what.

If a stranger asks you what you do for a living , do you tell them what you do or do you lie?

Btw, I find your income pretty amazing, considering that you don't have to pay any petrol etc

Thank you.

If someone asks what I do I usually say I'm home based IT, which is kind of true 😂

@MacbookHo

If you’ve only got a year left, why not work longer hours and just rake in all the money you possibly can? That’s what I’d do if I had a 30-year-old body. 😂 Strike while the booty’s hot!

If I worked longer hours there is the possibility that I might find it a chore after a while. I don't want it to feel like that, I'm happy to chug along at my own pace. I do have savings and a plan for when it's all finished so I am not worried about my future.

Thanks for answering my questions! I realised after I'd posted that they could be read as snarky but they weren't meant like that!

Camming was a massive factor in my 20 year marriage ending, because as well as the sex aspect, exH built a relationship with a few girls, told them about his life, told them how beautiful/sexy/amazing they were. Spent thousands of our life savings on camming and repeatedly lied to me. We had an active sex life and I thought we were happily married .

I have real issues with the industry as a result, I think it normalises cheating and also normalises women as a commodity to be paid for.

I think if I were camming I'd be contemptuous of the men paying me because wankingbis so important they spend thousands on it. I think I'd also feel a bit of guilt about the ones cheating by paying me for sexual services. Do you ever feel those things?

I don't judge you for taking the work, just wonder if your point of view is very different.

@QuentinWinters

Camming was a massive factor in my 20 year marriage ending, because as well as the sex aspect, exH built a relationship with a few girls, told them about his life, told them how beautiful/sexy/amazing they were. Spent thousands of our life savings on camming and repeatedly lied to me. We had an active sex life and I thought we were happily married .

I have real issues with the industry as a result, I think it normalises cheating and also normalises women as a commodity to be paid for.

I think if I were camming I'd be contemptuous of the men paying me because wankingbis so important they spend thousands on it. I think I'd also feel a bit of guilt about the ones cheating by paying me for sexual services. Do you ever feel those things?

I don't judge you for taking the work, just wonder if your point of view is very different.

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage. That is a truly shit thing to happen.

In all honesty I think a lot of the time it is easy to for me to forget about the "cheating" aspect as you don't often hear anything about their personal relationships at all. Only a handful of my fans admit to being married. Some say the partners are aware, or ok with it. It's not really something I pry into as it's none of my business. I would never encourage someone to seek sexual / romantic / other relationship with a cam person over their own flesh and blood partner however.

@TheSpottedZebra

Thanks for answering my questions! I realised after I'd posted that they could be read as snarky but they weren't meant like that!

No, not at all!

How do you compete with cam services that are free? Do you have a unique USP?

To be honest ( this is my personal opinion, I respect if yours is different, we all have different boundaries), if my partner used cam girls, I wouldn't consider this worse than porn. I wouldn't be jealous on a personal level, because I don't think there is an emotional relationship between the cam girl and a customer.

I think I would be really angry though because of the payment aspect of it. He'd be spending lots of money for an expensive wank ( I think these sites aren't cheap) when he should be spending the money on our family.

if my partner used cam girls, I wouldn't consider this worse than porn
In my case it did seem worse than porn. 1) because he was interacting with people, to me thats more akin to sexting or cyber sex hook ups than porn and 2) because he had favourites that he was chatting to, some romantic stuff and some mundane stuff about getting kids ready for school etc.

I think this idea that camming is like porn is what men who use cams want us to think. If camming was like porn men wouldn't pay for it, given the vast amount of free porn out there.

cammy thank you for the kind response

@WhoseThatGirl

That doesn’t sound like a lot of money. Why do you do it?

Pro-ratad to 37.5 hours a week it would be £65k a year, that sounds like a lot to me!

Is the £2000 per month after or before tax/NI?

@QuentinWinters

if my partner used cam girls, I wouldn't consider this worse than porn In my case it did seem worse than porn. 1) because he was interacting with people, to me thats more akin to sexting or cyber sex hook ups than porn and 2) because he had favourites that he was chatting to, some romantic stuff and some mundane stuff about getting kids ready for school etc.

I think this idea that camming is like porn is what men who use cams want us to think. If camming was like porn men wouldn't pay for it, given the vast amount of free porn out there.

Agree with this.

@ifonlyus

Is the £2000 per month after or before tax/NI?

That's generally what I am left with after tax, NI and my pension pot. Sometimes more, sometimes less. On my birthday month I can make double.

@fuckedandbombed

(Privately!)

Really? Why?

How old are you?

Do you advertise a different age(lower)?

@Rainedere

How old are you?

Do you advertise a different age(lower)?

I'm 30, I really should have advertised a lower age but when I signed up it was just out of curiosity so I put my real age.

@DillonPanthersTexas

How do you compete with cam services that are free? Do you have a unique USP?

I think it helps that viewers can see I am a 'real' person with interests and conversation topics and humour. We talk about all sorts and I spend a lot of time laughing.

A lot of the free cams barely speak, and don't interact much with their viewers.

@cammydodger thank you for answering my question so honestly. I don’t have a problem with what you do, it’s the married men choosing it over their own partners that’s akin to cheating, like the pp said. It’s real people.

One of my husband’s excuses was that he was after a particular thing that he knew I wasn’t keen on so rather than pester me for it he found it online.

He does say that it was more than one cammer though, it wasn’t just one person in particular.

I'll make money by setting "goals" like ... If I get to 3k tokens I'll strip etc.

^

OK, then the tokens can be cashed in by you? Is that how it works? Is there only 1 person at a time can see your cam? Or several people? I guess it costs more to be the only viewer?

Hi OP, if you are still about, do you mind me asking what site you use?
Thanks