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Did I get this right?

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2021x · 08/11/2026 03:18

I was on a Reddit Thread called:

Which celebrity can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?

A person responded JK Rowling and my reply was as follows.

I can help you with that. JK Rowling has expressed her opinion that, in certain circumstances, such as places in public where women have to remove their clothes (restrooms, changing rooms, etc.), sex should be considered more relevant than gender ideology. For people who do not live on the internet- this is the majority and most common view.

She has publicly stood up to a powerful misogynistic and homophobic ideology against immense pressure and personal persecution. She has held system-makers, not individuals, accountable for the lies that they have been internalised in the British Education and human resources system. She has also supported women across the UK to stand up for their sex-based rights with her own finances, which she made herself.

You can disagree and say that males - who still retain a significant physical strength advantage and commit sexual offences against women at a higher rate than females- in your opinion do not pose any extra risk to women in private space. What you can't say is JK Rowling has wished, asked for or instigated any harm against transgender people as a group or individuals.

Did I get this right or have I missed off anything?

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2021x · 08/11/2026 08:50

Coconutter24 · 08/11/2026 08:48

Did they ask for your opinion or for you to share facts or for you to try and change their mind? Or do they have their own beliefs on gender etc and that is the reason they dislike her?
Why are you asking if you got this right?

I am asking if my response was missing anything- i.e did I miss a relevant point, has their been an update etc… could I have explained a point better?

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Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:51

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:44

In your opinion what is the subject we are discussing, and the appropriate levels.

Well, we can go by what the thread asked which is in your OP. It asked "Which celebrity can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?"

So that is the scope of the thread. What celebrity, and why?

BettyBooper · 08/11/2026 08:52

'cis boys are the ones having gender-affirming care in large numbers.'

Are they, indeed? What is this about? 🤔🤨

(Just so that I can be well-informed on the latest nonsense from the gender woo woo train)😂

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:53

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:51

Well, we can go by what the thread asked which is in your OP. It asked "Which celebrity can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?"

So that is the scope of the thread. What celebrity, and why?

On the Reddit thread.

But we are on Mumsnet. So what is the subject we are discussing on Mumsnet?

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Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:53

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:48

So in your opinion what does that mean?

That other people around you got the scope of the thread and replied appropriately. Challenging the response is something I can only see you and two others have done to the poster who said JK.

You're the only ones in the room acting that way.

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:54

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:53

On the Reddit thread.

But we are on Mumsnet. So what is the subject we are discussing on Mumsnet?

You are asking if your response was "right". I am explaining why I think it wasn't right.

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:55

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:53

That other people around you got the scope of the thread and replied appropriately. Challenging the response is something I can only see you and two others have done to the poster who said JK.

You're the only ones in the room acting that way.

Why do you think that I need to hear that information?

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 08/11/2026 08:56

GreyskySexRealistsky · 08/11/2026 08:42

So say no. And stop there. That's what you're expecting from others. Stick to your own rules.

I suppose that poster and TPA are just giving perfect examples re the TRA views of “#no debate” one way system?
”you can’t argue with us”
”you must accept and agree with us”
”your views will not be heard, ours will be lauded” ?

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:57

CorvusPurpureus · 08/11/2026 08:48

So Lexible interprets the purpose of the Reddit thread as:
• poster A - explains that they haven’t been quite such an ardent fan of The Krankies since the swinging stuff
• poster B - shares that they voted for that nice David Cameron, but well, that thing with the pig was a bit extra

Everyone else just strokes their beards thoughtfully & no one reacts to anyone else?

That doesn’t quite sound like how Reddit, with its nested posts, works.

No other people were asking for details, agreeing that they feel the same about the person for the same reasons or adding other controversies they've been involved with.

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:57

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:54

You are asking if your response was "right". I am explaining why I think it wasn't right.

I understand.

In my OP I was asking for input to see if I had missed anything out or if I could have explained anything more clearly.

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NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 08:57

Which Mumsnet poster can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?

For me, it’s @Lexibletheflexible because I read somewhere they hate kittens and puppies.

user293948849167 · 08/11/2026 08:59

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

How can an athlete pass or fail a “gender” test?
Do they have to answer questions about their favourite colours etc?

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:59

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 08/11/2026 08:56

I suppose that poster and TPA are just giving perfect examples re the TRA views of “#no debate” one way system?
”you can’t argue with us”
”you must accept and agree with us”
”your views will not be heard, ours will be lauded” ?

But the question is just in r/askreddit. It isnt in a GC or trans group. The only one who has even mentioned trans issues at all is the OP. Not even the person who said JK. They just said HP is tarnished for them. It could be because Dumbledore was confirmed as gay or that Harry ended up with Ginny.

BettyBooper · 08/11/2026 09:00

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 08:57

Which Mumsnet poster can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?

For me, it’s @Lexibletheflexible because I read somewhere they hate kittens and puppies.

Well, that's your opinion.

In which case, it would be completely inappropriate for anyone to disagree.

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:00

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:57

I understand.

In my OP I was asking for input to see if I had missed anything out or if I could have explained anything more clearly.

Yes and I'm answering.

Myalternate · 08/11/2026 09:01

I’ve heard the phrase ’thread police’ before. Now I know what it looks like 🤪

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:02

2021x · 08/11/2026 08:55

Why do you think that I need to hear that information?

Because you asked for it on your thread pondering if you got this right.

BettyBooper · 08/11/2026 09:03

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:59

But the question is just in r/askreddit. It isnt in a GC or trans group. The only one who has even mentioned trans issues at all is the OP. Not even the person who said JK. They just said HP is tarnished for them. It could be because Dumbledore was confirmed as gay or that Harry ended up with Ginny.

Harry ends up with Ginny??! 🫪

Well.

That's me done. JKR can just get in the bin.

🤣

2021x · 08/11/2026 09:04

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:00

Yes and I'm answering.

You are answering the question on whether I should have posted.

The question I am asking is about the content of the post.

I can see your confusion from the title.

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2021x · 08/11/2026 09:05

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:02

Because you asked for it on your thread pondering if you got this right.

I am asking if the content in the post is right- not if the action of posting was the right thing to do.

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ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 08/11/2026 09:05

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:59

But the question is just in r/askreddit. It isnt in a GC or trans group. The only one who has even mentioned trans issues at all is the OP. Not even the person who said JK. They just said HP is tarnished for them. It could be because Dumbledore was confirmed as gay or that Harry ended up with Ginny.

Again as above. @2021x has asked her question on MUMSNET… not Reddit?
I know it’s hard for some to leave the cozy enclave of reddit and marvel at the fact there’s spaces that don’t cheer and validate the gender woo, but dems the breaks of reality!

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:05

BettyBooper · 08/11/2026 09:03

Harry ends up with Ginny??! 🫪

Well.

That's me done. JKR can just get in the bin.

🤣

I should have put a spoiler alert in truth.

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:06

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 08/11/2026 09:05

Again as above. @2021x has asked her question on MUMSNET… not Reddit?
I know it’s hard for some to leave the cozy enclave of reddit and marvel at the fact there’s spaces that don’t cheer and validate the gender woo, but dems the breaks of reality!

But she's asking about her actions on the original thread on reddit.

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:07

2021x · 08/11/2026 09:05

I am asking if the content in the post is right- not if the action of posting was the right thing to do.

Well it's the same thing. No the content isn't right because IMO, none of it should exist as a response to that comment in that thread.

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 09:07

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:05

I should have put a spoiler alert in truth.

Harry doesn’t end with Ginny. He ends up with Cho Chang.