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Did I get this right?

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2021x · 08/11/2026 03:18

I was on a Reddit Thread called:

Which celebrity can you no longer look at the same way after learning about a controversy or something disturbing they did?

A person responded JK Rowling and my reply was as follows.

I can help you with that. JK Rowling has expressed her opinion that, in certain circumstances, such as places in public where women have to remove their clothes (restrooms, changing rooms, etc.), sex should be considered more relevant than gender ideology. For people who do not live on the internet- this is the majority and most common view.

She has publicly stood up to a powerful misogynistic and homophobic ideology against immense pressure and personal persecution. She has held system-makers, not individuals, accountable for the lies that they have been internalised in the British Education and human resources system. She has also supported women across the UK to stand up for their sex-based rights with her own finances, which she made herself.

You can disagree and say that males - who still retain a significant physical strength advantage and commit sexual offences against women at a higher rate than females- in your opinion do not pose any extra risk to women in private space. What you can't say is JK Rowling has wished, asked for or instigated any harm against transgender people as a group or individuals.

Did I get this right or have I missed off anything?

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JellySaurus · 09/11/2026 09:34

What is unsurprising: that our resident TRAs maintain that beliefs should not be challenged.
What is surprising: that the challenge was allowed to stand.

Cheese55 · 09/11/2026 08:44

Cranx · 08/11/2026 08:12

Surely people can dislike or like who they want whatever the reason?

The point is they are saying they don't like her for something she has never done. That's an injustice.

drspouse · 09/11/2026 08:26

Lexibletheflexible · 09/11/2026 07:37

The person challenged the facts, not the opinions. This poster is attempting to challenge opinions that were asked for by the reddit OP.

It's your opinion that it's an opinion.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 09/11/2026 08:22

2021x · 09/11/2026 07:55

An update,

I got some support in Reddit of all places… and I didn’t get banned for saying it!

Excellent! And you may have made some other people think. Great that your comment was not shut down.

2021x · 09/11/2026 07:55

An update,

I got some support in Reddit of all places… and I didn’t get banned for saying it!

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Lexibletheflexible · 09/11/2026 07:37

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:59

So you agree there’s an opinion in that statement. So to be clear, an opinion about Dave Grohl has been challenged, an opinion about Meghan Markle has been challenged, both of which garnered much more attention than the JKR/OP opinion challenge, but it’s the opinion about JKR you have an issue with being challenged?

And you’re seriously trying to claim it’s not about JKR, per se, it’s about the nature of the thread and its “laws”? 😂😂😂

The person challenged the facts, not the opinions. This poster is attempting to challenge opinions that were asked for by the reddit OP.

Lexibletheflexible · 09/11/2026 07:36

StealthTroublemaker · 08/11/2026 11:50

That may be your opinion.

No whether something is an opinion or not, is a matter of fact.

Lexibletheflexible · 09/11/2026 07:34

Grammarnut · 08/11/2026 12:32

That's true enough. I don't think any but a TRA would think JKR's opinions on women's rights and sex reality were controversial, though.

I think this is, as someone else said, a misunderstanding of the definition of "controversial".

Heggettypeg · 08/11/2026 23:58

JKR pays for some women to raise a court case or two to find out what the law actually is.

Stonewall get a load of organisations to pay them to tell them that the law is not as it is, but as Stonewall would like it to be.

And JKR is the baddie? The one who is subverting democracy?

Incidentally, the latest news is that Stonewall are having cosy talks with Number 10 about the conversion therapy bill. I am not aware of JKR being similarly honoured.

AstonCanKissMyArse · 08/11/2026 21:35

Christ on a bike. Somebody loves the sound of their own voice!

But at least we've all been educated on how to use Reddit.

Its all a bit bananarama.

Good post OP.

funding strategic litigation isnt inherently wrong. The problem is the extraordinary influence that concentrated private wealth can exercise over the development of laws in a democratic state,"

Well no. What these muppets fail to understand is that if you take someone to court and you haven't got a case to make, the judge throws it out (or even before it gets that far). You can't buy a specific outcome.

How, specifically, is JKR influencing the development of laws? She's not a think tank. There are multitudes of organising specifically set up to influence policy and law making. And multiple wealthy individuals.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, she only gets the criticism she does because she's an unapologetic self made woman, ave people hate that.

2021x · 08/11/2026 19:02

Lacksie · 08/11/2026 09:27

JKR has described trans women as “men performing their idea of femaleness”, mocked inclusive language, repeatedly described trans women as men, and portrayed trans-inclusive policies as potentially providing cover for sexual predators. Her rhetoric characterises trans identities as performances, imply deception, and repeatedly associate trans inclusion with threats to women

There’s a meaningful distinction between saying that someone’s biological sex may be relevant in particular circumstances and suggesting that their entire identity is a pretence. The former is a position about sex and its practical implications. The latter is a judgement about the authenticity of another person’s experience of themselves.

Transphobia doesn’t require overt hatred it can manifest in persistent stereotyping, ridicule, suspicion, and the systematic delegitimisation of a group.

Most concerning, however, is that this has gone far beyond expressing personal opinions. Rowling has used her considerable wealth to fund legal challenges with potentially far-reaching consequences for trans people’s rights. She donated £70,000 to For Women Scotland’s Supreme Court appeal.
She has subsequently established the J.K. Rowling Women’s Fund, specifically to finance legal action concerning sex-based rights. Its own website explicitly identifies strategic cases that establish legal precedents and enforce its interpretation of equality law as objectives.

Of course, funding litigation is lawful, and the courts are responsible for their own decisions. But I think there are legitimate concerns about the extent to which an extraordinarily wealthy individual can help determine which legal questions are pursued, which arguments receive substantial resources, and ultimately how the rights of a much less powerful minority are defined and implemented.

All valid points Lacksie.

From a person who thinks that TG Ideology is a path to a valid and healthy way of being, I could see how you could interpret her words as coming from someone with a lack of empathy for a group of people you feel immense empathy for.

The issue for me is that the people who are reporting that they are transgender have not behaved with any respect or empathy for the women who have been directly affected by the actions of TG people. Therefore, like most women who have been forced into a situation were they have had a man walk into a changing room and could do anything about it- I care as much about TG people's feelings and comfort as they care about mine.

So I support J.K. Rowling's actions in providing funding for women whose feelings, safety, and dignity have been deprioritised in favour of disrespectful men. I agree about being forced to use incorrect pronouns to satisfy a man's sexual fetish, and most people and I never see a woman when looking at a transwoman but a mentally unwell man with either intense internalised homophobia or a dangerous personality disorder.

Trans people have the same rights as everyone else. No one has the right to use the facilities that align with their mental illness; no one has the right to taxpayer-funded cosmetic surgery to alleviate their mental illness (even though some do get it).

Having dysphoric feelings is not a choice; transitioning is.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/11/2026 17:19

CorvusPurpureus · 08/11/2026 08:48

So Lexible interprets the purpose of the Reddit thread as:
• poster A - explains that they haven’t been quite such an ardent fan of The Krankies since the swinging stuff
• poster B - shares that they voted for that nice David Cameron, but well, that thing with the pig was a bit extra

Everyone else just strokes their beards thoughtfully & no one reacts to anyone else?

That doesn’t quite sound like how Reddit, with its nested posts, works.

That was my thought too.

Soupsavior · 08/11/2026 16:43

Personally I can't understand what you're asking. Do you put all your social media posts through forums to see what people think of them or to correct them? Why? How bizarre.

Grammarnut · 08/11/2026 12:32

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 08:45

Controversial is an opinion. I might think celebrity X is controversial because she has kids with several different fathers. You might not think that is controversial as we are in 2026. We both have opinions.

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That's true enough. I don't think any but a TRA would think JKR's opinions on women's rights and sex reality were controversial, though.

StealthTroublemaker · 08/11/2026 11:50

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 09:59

Your comment doesn't make it less of an opinion.

That may be your opinion.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 08/11/2026 11:29

TWETMIRF · 08/11/2026 11:08

"funding strategic litigation isnt inherently wrong. The problem is the extraordinary influence that concentrated private wealth can exercise over the development of laws in a democratic state,"

I am sure that if JKR was a TRA and was putting the same funds into supporting trans rights legal cases, this 'problem' wouldn't be a problem.

Of course not.. that’s right think remember!

TWETMIRF · 08/11/2026 11:08

"funding strategic litigation isnt inherently wrong. The problem is the extraordinary influence that concentrated private wealth can exercise over the development of laws in a democratic state,"

I am sure that if JKR was a TRA and was putting the same funds into supporting trans rights legal cases, this 'problem' wouldn't be a problem.

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:59

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:54

Well no, whether she knew for years or not is a matter of fact, not opinion. Whether she should have done something/more is a matter of opinon. Whether the legal people told her not to do anything is a matter of fact.

So you agree there’s an opinion in that statement. So to be clear, an opinion about Dave Grohl has been challenged, an opinion about Meghan Markle has been challenged, both of which garnered much more attention than the JKR/OP opinion challenge, but it’s the opinion about JKR you have an issue with being challenged?

And you’re seriously trying to claim it’s not about JKR, per se, it’s about the nature of the thread and its “laws”? 😂😂😂

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:59

We are heading to my MILs for Sunday dinner now. I will be back at some point

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:54

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:52

And it’s an opinion that she could have known for years.

But sure, the rule of that thread, unwritten, unspoken, appreciated by you, other posters on the thread but not the OP, is that “only replies that correct facts are allowed, thou shall not correct opinions” 😂😂😂

Well no, whether she knew for years or not is a matter of fact, not opinion. Whether she should have done something/more is a matter of opinon. Whether the legal people told her not to do anything is a matter of fact.

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:52

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:49

It seems to be a fact that she was instructed not to compromise the investigation.

And it’s an opinion that she could have known for years.

But sure, the rule of that thread, unwritten, unspoken, appreciated by you, other posters on the thread but not the OP, is that “only replies that correct facts are allowed, thou shall not correct opinions” 😂😂😂

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:49

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:48

It’s an opinion that Markle has sat on knowledge about her father. It’s an opinion as to whether Dave Grohl’s infidelity has tarnished his legacy.

But keep going

It seems to be a fact that she was instructed not to compromise the investigation.

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:48

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:45

Nearly nobody disagreeing with opinions. A few people correcting facts.

It’s an opinion that Markle has sat on knowledge about her father. It’s an opinion as to whether Dave Grohl’s infidelity has tarnished his legacy.

But keep going

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Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:47

MrsColinRobinson · 08/11/2026 10:31

The poster certainly likes her self appointed position, even writing threads about how, in their opinion, feminism and gender discussions are unfairly balanced, ignoring the fact we write what we bloody want here.

When that falls safely within MN standards they start trying to derail and shut down.

It's probably time to stop feeding them tbh. It's pretty tedious.

With the amount of comments that are deleted, I'm not sure you do write what you want here.

Lexibletheflexible · 08/11/2026 10:45

NotBadConsidering · 08/11/2026 10:43

Yes, more than one sub thread in the entire thread contains people agreeing and disagreeing about people. So not remotely a thread where things can go unchallenged like you claimed it to be. And those challenges, Grohl and Markle, garnered significantly more attention that the JKR one. Opinions about whether Grohl has tarnished his legacy. An opinion that Markle has sat on knowledge of her father. Discussion, opinion, facts.

You know, Reddit.

Your claim that it wasn’t the sort of thread for that sort of thing was, I repeat, bullshit.

You just wanted to tell off the OP for what she wrote, not the fact she challenged an opinion. It’s clear as day.

Nearly nobody disagreeing with opinions. A few people correcting facts.