pronouns on booking form

Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 2026-10-13T14:01:09+00:00

What would you put in a form when it demands you fill in the pronoun box or it won't submit, and there is a danger said pronouns will be printed on the name badges? It's a professional conference.

PissedOffAutistic · 13/10/2026 15:03

N/A

Manxexile · 13/10/2026 15:10

I'd choose (or make up) the stupidest combination of propouns possible.

what "profession" is this?

alcovecupboards · 13/10/2026 15:18

Your pronouns?

GrumpyPanda · 13/10/2026 15:24

alcovecupboards · 13/10/2026 15:18

Your pronouns?

Nobody owns pronouns, the whole point of them is that they're placeholders for a noun. If you're talking about how OP wishes others to address her, I imagine for most of us that would be "you" rather than "thou".

Zimunya · 13/10/2026 15:24

I would contact the organisers and quote Principle 6 of the Yogyakarta Principles
"Everyone, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, is entitled to the enjoyment of privacy without arbitrary or unlawful interference, including with regard to their family, home or correspondence as well as to protection from unlawful attacks on their honour and reputation. The right to privacy ordinarily includes the choice to disclose or not to disclose information relating to one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, as well as decisions and choices regarding both one’s own body and consensual sexual and other relations with others." (https://yogyakartaprinciples.org/principle-6/)

You are not obliged to state your gender identity.

Principle 6 – Yogyakartaprinciples.org

https://yogyakartaprinciples.org/principle-6/

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Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 13/10/2026 15:26

I don't think it's my business to police what other people say about my apparent sex@alcovecupboards . I just want them to not ask or at least don't make it mandatory to reply on the form to book the conference

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Lomonald · 13/10/2026 15:29

Are you a she ? Just put she .because that would be a pronoun, if you don't want to tick anything just tick N/A

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Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 13/10/2026 15:30

There is no option of N/A, it's not a tick box, it's a box you can write whatever you like in.

I can therefore write N/A, but it's annoying not to be able to decline to write anything.

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GreenwayHouse · 13/10/2026 15:31

That’s infuriating. If there’s no option but to submit something I would also put “N/a” in the pronoun field if possible. Or I would put something and then tippex it out when going to the conference. I would absolutely not have pronouns on my badge at an event. I think anyone who does is an idiot or a sheep and I wouldn’t want to be seen as either!

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Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 13/10/2026 15:32

Should have written me/you. Kicking self!

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poshfrock · 13/10/2026 15:35

Put a full stop in the box so it registers a text response but will look blank when printed.

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 13/10/2026 15:35

Zimunya · 13/10/2026 15:24

I would contact the organisers and quote Principle 6 of the Yogyakarta Principles
"Everyone, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity, is entitled to the enjoyment of privacy without arbitrary or unlawful interference, including with regard to their family, home or correspondence as well as to protection from unlawful attacks on their honour and reputation. The right to privacy ordinarily includes the choice to disclose or not to disclose information relating to one’s sexual orientation or gender identity, as well as decisions and choices regarding both one’s own body and consensual sexual and other relations with others." (https://yogyakartaprinciples.org/principle-6/)

You are not obliged to state your gender identity.

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No! This is a really BAD idea unless you also want to encourage them to read, absorb & implement all the REST of these godawful "principles", which even one of the authors later realised were totally anti-women, &: regretted his part in. They need to be buried without trace, NOT recommended as something to follow.

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Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 13/10/2026 15:39

yes @poshfrock that's the answer. Or a space might even work, thanks

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MagpiePi · 13/10/2026 15:40

I’d want to put the rolly eyes emoji.

🙄

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 13/10/2026 15:40

How about "Don't be silly!"? 😉
Or failing that, "N/A".
If the box is long enough, you could also put a comment that it would be better/more inclusive to not make that question mandatory, as many people don't like to specify pronouns. Or mention it in any other feedback they collect.

SamphiretheTervosaur · 13/10/2026 15:42

I asked the woman at the desk how the company would use that information

She looked at me like I was mad

I muttered GDPR and typed "No thanks" in the gap

LordEmsworthsGirlfriend · 13/10/2026 15:44

Iamawomanofconstantsorrow · 13/10/2026 15:32

Should have written me/you. Kicking self!

Or 'one'. I agree that spaces are the way to go, though.

Zimunya · 13/10/2026 15:46

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 13/10/2026 15:35

No! This is a really BAD idea unless you also want to encourage them to read, absorb & implement all the REST of these godawful "principles", which even one of the authors later realised were totally anti-women, &: regretted his part in. They need to be buried without trace, NOT recommended as something to follow.

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I only ever quote Principle 6, for the reasons you have outlined. But Principle 6 still has it's uses.

NewAgain26 · 13/10/2026 15:49

I'd be tempted to write "Take your best guess", or there's always "Who/Where"??

Justme56 · 13/10/2026 15:51

Honestly if anyone asked me what my pronouns were at a conference I’d throw back ‘do you think I’m a man?’ The whole thing is a nonsense.

JanesLittleGirl · 13/10/2026 15:56

How about 'your choice'?

Shedmistress · 13/10/2026 15:57

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Igmum · 13/10/2026 15:59

Tempted to go with oh FFS but would probably compromise on XXX XXX

SausageRoll2020 · 13/10/2026 16:01

Someone I used to work with chose She / Her Majesty 👑

SirChenjins · 13/10/2026 16:04

I/me/my - because they are my pronouns.

How other people refer to me is up to them - if they chose he then I would survive to tell the tale. I don't compel other people's speech.