Where is Matt Lucas?

Imagine if everyone took the stance of look away, nothing to see here, stop stirring things up etc.

People like you mean it goes on and on.

Those who know but stay silent are complicit in abuse/rape/grooming etc. Do you prefer people to be complicit?

If I meet my partner in a hotel room knowing I am having sex I am making myself ‘available’ for that, and I am doing that willingly. Does that mean he has the right to use my body in every way? Because I made myself ‘available’ for vaginal sex? No. It doesn’t. If he attempts to take it beyond that - and I say no - he is raping me. End of.
You are victim blaming.

All I have said, is about the Brand case. It is very dangerous to have sex with strangers. We are not talking about husbands or partners.
it WAS rape. She agreed to have vaginal sex with a stranger- but not anal sex.
I am saying that it should be advocated that women should not put themselves in danger by going to strangers houses fo vaginal sex. That is all !! Insult me if you will.

You just keep repeating your angle of her "putting herself in harm's way".

How do you expect women who are married to their rapists avoid "putting themselves in harm's way" with their "romantic ideas" about marriage.

It doesn't matter how many times you restate it, you are blaming the victims.

We are talking about the 21 year old woman who was anally raped by Brand.
we are NOT talking about married couples who obviously have ‘Romantic notions’ about their husbands.

This young woman went to Brand’s house by herself and willingly had vaginal sex with him.

She was not a sex worker - so, probably, had Romantic ideas about him.

Any person who goes to a male stranger’s home to have sex with them…..IS putting themselves at risk.

it is not ‘ Victim blaming ‘ to warn every young woman to avoid such a situation.

We are talking about the 21 year old woman who was anally raped by Brand.
we are NOT talking about married couples who obviously have ‘Romantic notions’ about their husbands.

This young woman went to Brand’s house by herself and willingly had vaginal sex with him.

She was not a sex worker - so, probably, had Romantic ideas about him.

Any person who goes to a male stranger’s home to have sex with them…..IS putting themselves at risk.

it is not ‘ Victim blaming ‘ to warn every young woman to avoid such a situation.

Yes, but I am NOT !!

Only advocating that women take more care of themselves.

I only mentioned this topic IRO of Brand’s single Rape conviction.

Not Williams. He hasn’t been tried or convicted.

Did I say she made herself ‘available for anal sex’? I didn’t ….and neither did she !!

She made herself available for vaginal sex. He forced the anal sex on her, because HE thought she WAS available ,

Bad and wickedly selfish move on his part.

No victim shaming at all, except the fact that she agreed to go alone to his house and thereby put herself at his mercy.

How about instead of putting the onus on women to protect themselves by not trusting anyone, ever, that instead men don't rape us?

You are suggesting the victim made a mistake and could have avoided it. You are forgetting these predators are manipulative and experts at creating trust.

All I have said, is about the Brand case. It is very dangerous to have sex with strangers. We are not talking about husbands or partners.
it WAS rape. She agreed to have vaginal sex with a stranger- but not anal sex.
I am saying that it should be advocated that women should not put themselves in danger by going to strangers houses fo vaginal sex. That is all !! Insult me if you will.

Everyone who ever watched Russell Brand or David Walliams and didn't think they were repulsive amoral men needs to take a good look at themselves.

Why shouldn’t women go to mens houses to have sex? Why shouldn’t women have freedom to have sex with strangers?

You are locating the onus for change in victims. Women mostly.

This has been the case for years. We are told to guard our drinks. Don’t dress provocatively. Stay in pairs. Don’t walk home alone. Carry a rape alarm.

There is an assumption that men are dangerous, that’s accepted, it’s on women to protect themselves. It’s time for change. It’s time to switch the onus onto men.

Men need calling out. Need shaming. Shunning. And the non predatory men who stay silent need to step up and speak out.

And what you are voicing IS internalised misogyny. Sorry. But it is. Take the feedback you have had and reflect.

How patronising !!! I will not be reflecting on anything that you have said.

I was 14 when I found RB funny and charming, I’d say my conscience is pretty clear there. I also don’t think finding someone funny decades before they’re convicted of a heinous act makes you a bad person.

Truth hurts huh?