Neighbour embarrassment!

Good gracious great balls of fire a neighbor that actually knocked on the door. Firstly no neighbours are nice and friendly may seem like at first then gradually annoy you. The day i have enough would like to move to a quiet surburban area with two neighbours the less the better

I can’t help thinking that putting a note through the door is a little odd. I would have knocked as you clearly know where she lives, it feels as if you have passed the “responsibility” of starting a conversation on to her.

Don't be. It was a lovely and civilised gesture!
Please don't worry about it, it may simply be that you will get a call when they have something in mind.

Give it time, or maybe she doesn't want to meet up and that's okay too. I have a very small circle but really no need or time for more friends. I'd find a note like that a little bit intrusive and stressful, especially if I got it during a time when I'm feeling quite overwhelmed with life,.which is often. Not everybody wants or needs lots of social interaction. It drains me sometimes rather than fills my cup.

You're being impatient.

Two days 😆

Fuck me, that's icy.

How long did it take you to thaw?!

Jesus, calm the fuck down. It’s only been two days!

I understand why you would feel like that, I’m an over thinker and I know I would be the same but looking at it from outside maybe she thought, yes I will give her a text when we are free to arrange one (unless it’s already been months) just trying to look at the other side. My daughter has recently moved to a new school and we went on a play date with a girl in her class, I then text the mum to ask for the spellings as my child had been off sick, to which she said she didn’t have them and then I asked if she was around in the half term, she never replied. I was a little worried I had upset her but sometimes it’s more about them than you x

I live in a house filled with little girls, their craft projects and colouring sheets.

I spend my days picking up little pieces of paper, 'projects' and hundreds of drawings, then pop them all in the recycling.

If I seen a note on the floor beside the door, I would have picked it up assuming it was another one of their projects and put it straight into the bin without even reading it.

A note is a weird way to communicate anyway. You should chap the door and speak to her. There's a very good chance the mum never even seen the note.

You’ve said to message if she wants a play date, it was only 2 days ago and she might be busy this weekend and over the next few days, if she’s not available for a play date just she’s not going to message you to try and arrange one but it doesn’t mean she won’t message at some point I’m the future when available. Are people really expected to reply to things like this instantly?

Goodness, did you expect a playdate immediately? Even though they are home i expect they are busy doing their own thing. She probably doesn't want to get into a message conversation for no reason, but might message you if her child wants to play with yours one day.
However notes through doors and texts seems like a strange way for neighbouring kids to play together. Round here (before they are old enough to just play out) if a kid wants to play with someone we go with them and knock in to see if NeighbourKidName wants to come play? Once older they just go knock themselves.
Watching your neighbours to see if they are in is odd.

A neighbour whom I didn't like asked for my number. I told her my number was for friends and family not random people. She looked shocked and said "But I'm your neighbour" as if that gave her some kind of entitlement. ." I told her "\your a random person who just happens to live next door."

My philosophy with neighbours is that a good one is a dead one.

Why on earth is this mortifying?

You gave her your number. She'll either reply or she won't. If she does then fine. If not then also fine, just forget it and move on.

My philosophy with neighbours is that a good one is a dead one.

Completely agree. I’ve got to 12 months without having had to say a word to the bloke next door that moved in.

If I do ever talk to him, it’s most likely going to be “move your camper van you stupid cunt, I can’t see out of my drive”.

So tempted to wire his van up to my car charger and see the fucker off.

I like my privacy and have no desire to strike up a friendship with people I’m forced to live next door to. I don’t mind taking in parcels occasionally or lending them equipment if they need it but I don’t want to hang out with them.

My previous NDN also had kids a similar age to my youngest and she very much tried to be my friend when they first moved in. I didn’t want that so I was a bit cold and she got the hint. Obviously figured I was a bitch and perhaps I am.

Good fences make good neighbours.

My 9ft high hedge does too. Miserable bastards complain about that too.

Not everyone has the time/need/energy for play dates.
Some mums have enough friends and don't want to deal with more people.

Your well suited as neighbours!

Oh just be patient and thankful. If she’s keeping you at length it’s because doesn’t to be pally pally with her neighbours. If you ever bad experiences in this way, it’s totally understandable. At least you know and she won’t be avoiding you. However, I got a card from new neighbours with number, I didn’t call for two weeks, not because I wasn’t feeling like contacting her, I just didn’t have anything to say. We good friends now, and I still have the card!

Nah she's a legend!

I have read this three four times and I just don't get it 😳 can someone please explain.

A friend andnI had this conversation and we camme to the conclusion that there are people who can be bothered to try thisband those whonare just lazy and dont think about their kids. My daughter is a good kid (not perfect by any stretch) and overall has good values. We habe set up lots of sleep overs here over the years and rarely get a thank you off the parents or an invite back which brekas her heart.

In other words she has zero interest in playdates or socialising and won't be pushed around by other Mums hence the "this is my number oh look it's come up as private... so take the hint and fuck off"

My kinda woman