help..
been with partner 3 years
partner hasn’t seen 1 child in these 3 years
partner sees other child very regularly
child 1s mother used my disabled child as an excuse to keep said child away. Said child was making up lies etc to the point I had to install cameras .
I have watched partner be heartbroken and his other child heartbroken to the stage they doesn’t even mention him now.
well this child has decided they now wants to come but I really don’t want them in my house partner said we need to keep my disabled child happy if the child is there ( not punishing giving whatever they like etc so they don’t get upset and kick off ) I am worried of the lies of the hurt my partner will feel again and most importantly I don’t want partners other child finding out getting excited and expect to see the child when it could all be ripped away again.
i feel like the worst human because this is not my 1st nature this has been bugging me now for a week.
why should everyone feel like crap again when child I mean child under 10 chooses and pleases and leave a trail of hurt and the mum says nothing?
what would u do?