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Why people smell bad

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Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 14:08

I was in town and the smell of BO from the couple standing in front of me in a queue was unreal. I then went into another store and the exact same thing with another person.

These people didn’t appear as ‘down and out’ types. I know you can never tell with people, but surely in this day and age most people apart from the homeless have access to running water to shower or at least wash themselves.

It isn’t a hot day and these people smelled like they hadn’t washed in a week

Why are there people not washing or concerned with how they smell 🤢

OP posts:
Lourdes12 · 01/09/2023 18:11

Hormonal, stress, food, medical reasons. Sometimes while I am in the shower and have washed my armpits a few times they still stink of BO and deodorant does not sort it out

LuluJili · 01/09/2023 18:11

Jacopo · 01/09/2023 17:53

People have entirely forgotten how to wash clothes properly because they have been seduced by the false promises offered by manufacturers.
Forget bio powders. Forget shower gel. Forget those who say that you can get good results from water at low temperatures. Forget synthetic fibres that claim to 'wick away' moisture.
Use clothes made from natural fibres e.g. cotton, - not polyester. Wash them in normal washing powder at a high temperature - 60C if possible, 50 if you must. Never less than 40.
Wash yourself in a bath or a shower using bar soap. Scrub the sweaty bits - armpits and groin. Wash the back of your neck and behind your ears.
If you can't afford to heat the water, boil a kettlefull, put in the basin, add cold water and strip wash with a flannel. Every day. Then wash the flannel, and wring it out before leaving it to dry.

Use an anti-perspirant deodorant. Wash your hair with shampoo, at the very least once a week. Change pants and socks every day.
That's it.
Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't.

Yes. And constantly washing clothes at low temperatures means your washing machine also isn't being cleaned.

I had this problem a couple of years ago. My clothes were coming out not smelling particularly fresh and even if I could smell the detergent, within a few hrs of normal wear, the armpits of some clothes smelt sweaty. And I'm not a particularly sweaty person.

I got an engineer out who said there was nothing wrong the machine but that because I was washing everything at 30 degrees, the clothes weren't able to be cleaned properly and the machine wasn't heating up enough to kill bacteria inside the machine, and it often smelt musty. So I was trying to wash clothes in a dirty machine.

I now wash my clothes at higher temps but also use one of those washing machine cleaner products that you put on an empty but very hot wash once a month and it's sorted it out.

I don't think that's a full answer to how some people actually reek, as I never did, but I think it plays a part.

BMW6 · 01/09/2023 18:11

ErniesGhostlyGoldTops · 01/09/2023 17:18

I haven't RTFT but I'm convinced a lot of people smell because they are washing their clothes in cold water or at least not a hot enough wash and the organic material remains.

I came on here to say exactly the same. I don't think a cold wash really does the job.

I do clothes at 40 and bedding / towels at 60.

adriftabroad · 01/09/2023 18:12

I agree that menopause makes you smell odd. For a few years.

HRT is a solution, but if you use the gel (the safest) it is 98% alcohol. I often smell of alcohol (or worry about it)

The PP who mentioned change of smell when she had undiagnosed cancer (so glad you are ok) I think animals detect when someone has cancer through smell sometimes.

I am just getting divorced after an horrifically abusive marriage.
There were days (while I was recovering) when a shower simply was out the question. Mind you, so was leaving the house. Someone else wrote a very good thread a month ago: you go into survival mode. Exposing yourself in a shower is simply too much to risk. It was fascinating and made me feel so much better.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/09/2023 18:15

Mummykins54 · 01/09/2023 17:41

I work for a local food bank and some of these people cannot feed their children never mind afford a bar of soap. You may have access to water but can you afford to put the water on for an hour?

Would they have access to a sink? And enough electricity to boil a kettle? No need to put the water on for an hour if you can boil some water enough for various changes of sink water to wash everyone in a strip wash with a bar of soap. Granted hair washing is harder if you have long hair.

stbrandonsboat · 01/09/2023 18:15

Laundry liquid/pods can make the washing machine smell bad. My machine no longer smells now that I've stopped using the pods. I was doing a separate machine wash with special stuff too, but the smell still remained.

Thighdentitycrisis · 01/09/2023 18:16

I think Sainsbury’s might have a policy employing people with mild learning disabilities. There are at least 3 in my local and one man who seems ND who has very bad body odour. I imagine he doesn’t wash himself or his clothes enough. The reason I notice is he cos he loves to chat to people and has no idea about personal space

Bingos · 01/09/2023 18:16

I suspect the environment concern is an excuse to be honest.

I believe it.

I feel guilty about driving and prefer to take public transport amongst other things. Can totally see someone showering once a week due to climate anxiety and not realising they smell.

ADHDGURL · 01/09/2023 18:20

I use the tube often for work.. these are adults working in London, the city, canary wharf etc.. and ugh.. many smell, and bad breath, like they haven't brushed their teeth.. glammed up males and females, great styles but.. yea.. people are rank

user1477391263 · 01/09/2023 18:21

It’s normal to wash with completely cold water in Oz and in Japan where I live; there isn’t more body odor in either country, seriously.

I think the increased body odor issue is more likely to do with washing clothes less often and leaving laundry loads to pile up for longer in the basket before doing a wash (which keeps BO smells trapped and makes them harder to get out), cheap plasticky fibers in so many clothes, and the increased numbers of overweight people.

Hawkins0009 · 01/09/2023 18:25

I think sometimes it's a mix at times

TheAOEAztec · 01/09/2023 18:25

It’s normal to wash with completely cold water in Oz and in Japan where I live; there isn’t more body odor in either country, seriously.

They have detergents made for that. You don't get the same result with our basic stuff on old wash

drearydear · 01/09/2023 18:26

@user1477391263 yep friend from NZ washes in cold water though she said they have a special powder she hasn't been able to get over here.

HeritageBlooms · 01/09/2023 18:27

AzureBlue99 · 01/09/2023 17:35

I used to work with a guy who didn't believe in deodorants, thought they were toxic. So he started off the day smelling ok, come the afternoon it wasn't pleasant. I am not sure he changed his trousers in all the time I knew him. The seat was so shiny I am surprised he didn't slide off his chair.

<lighthearted> was his name Baldrick?

ArabeIIaScott · 01/09/2023 18:29

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/09/2023 18:15

Would they have access to a sink? And enough electricity to boil a kettle? No need to put the water on for an hour if you can boil some water enough for various changes of sink water to wash everyone in a strip wash with a bar of soap. Granted hair washing is harder if you have long hair.

In my experience it's usually more to do with clothing than body odour. If you live in a damp house your clothes may well smell and htere's not much you can do about it. If you can't heat your house it's quite likely to get damp and musty, in our climate.

LadyEloise1 · 01/09/2023 18:33

I noticed it too.
But it was men in their late teens / early twenties , it was as if no one ever told them about personal hygiene.
I had to leave a shop as the assistant smelled of BO.
Not good for business if customers leave and don't buy anything.

Bluesky85 · 01/09/2023 18:33

There are people who think it’s natural not to wash. I have a friend who says things like ‘you don’t need to wash every day, your body cleans itself and washing is bad for your skin’ and he also says ‘you don’t need to use shower gel, water is enough to get off any dirt’ and ‘hair doesn’t need to be cleaned’ etc. consequently he smells.

I have also been camping with friends for long weekends and noticed that most of them don’t wash the whole time, even though there’s a shower block. Im not sure they all brush their teeth at night either. They say ‘I’m camping there’s no need’ like different rules apply. I’d understand if there aren’t facilities but there are.

I think some people just find washing a hassle and will make excuses to just not do it.

Annaishere · 01/09/2023 18:34

Babyroobs · 01/09/2023 14:59

Yes but that doesn't mean everyone on Uc can afford to wash. A single unemployed person on UC gets around £75/ £80 to cover everything after rent paid and sometimes if in private rented accomodation which is more than their Uc rent element pays they need to supplement rent out of that too. Contrast that with others on UC who have kids and may be working some hours and are a lot better off then really there's no comparison. Some people literally cannot afford hot water or to wash their clothes or to buy deodrant. Some people live in substandard accomodation with no access to hot water, rogue landlords who don't fix things, hostels etc. Some people have no means to being able to wash clothing cheaply, relying on expensive landerettes.

Yeah I guess

TheAOEAztec · 01/09/2023 18:36

Bingos · 01/09/2023 18:16

I suspect the environment concern is an excuse to be honest.

I believe it.

I feel guilty about driving and prefer to take public transport amongst other things. Can totally see someone showering once a week due to climate anxiety and not realising they smell.

It's absolutely ridiculous that people are giving up necessary basics like washing to "save the environment" hrn people telling us to do so are jetting about in private jets and have consumption of anything higher than 20 average people.
I am really not happy with the climate emergency handling. The easiest targets get bullied about small stuff by elite who are actually the issue

Mummykins54 · 01/09/2023 18:37

there are various reasons why people smell bad. Lack of money, low self esteem, poor mental health, maybe they don't realise they smell, family problems, work problems, can't face getting out of bed or getting a shower. Please be kind people - try and put yourself into one of those categories if you are not already in one. Not everyone can afford even the cheapest deoderant soap powder etc. nor do they have the motivation to look up natural remedies. My son has just left a house riddled with damp and he has a 5 month old baby - the land lord did a good job of covering it up but the place stank of mould and so did their clothes despite washing them.

Just please don't judge and be kind 😍

TheDogMama · 01/09/2023 18:40

Maybe it was you OP. 😬

LuluJili · 01/09/2023 18:41

Lifeomars · 01/09/2023 17:57

I noticed how bad our local pub smelled after smoking was banned. A mix of dried urine from the toilets and unwashed blokes propping up the bar

100%.

Of course there were problems with the smell of smoke and how that was invading all non-smokers clothes and hair. Which was unacceptable.

But having lived through the smoking ban I definitely noticed the over-riding smell in a lot of pubs then was piss, BO and chemical urinal blocks/air fresheners.

It certainly wasn't the 'clean fresh air' that was being sold as a result of the ban 😂.

PickAChew · 01/09/2023 18:42

If there is one thing worse than being stuck indoors with someone with poor hygiene, it's being stuck indoors with someone with poor hygiene and someone else blathered in perfume.

fizzypop100 · 01/09/2023 18:51

Bar of soap is very cheap and armpits/hair can be washed in sink. There's no excuse

msmonstera · 01/09/2023 18:52

I think some men are proud of smelling. It's another way to invade space. I've noticed that a bit in my gym. Some kind of performative masculinity nonsense. I was also in a cafe recently where a big butch very wealthy looking man with fancy gadgets and attitude absolutely stank the room out.

The worst for me is clothes that have dried slowly in a poorly ventilated room where people smoke and also cook food. I'm friendly with a couple like that and tbh I think they're nose blind after years of smoking. They reek.

There's cultural differences too. I was on a train with a group of young French men not long ago and they all smelled like their willies and last night's dinner. I remember finding French guys smelly when I lived in Paris, and that was 15 years ago.

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