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Why people smell bad

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Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 14:08

I was in town and the smell of BO from the couple standing in front of me in a queue was unreal. I then went into another store and the exact same thing with another person.

These people didn’t appear as ‘down and out’ types. I know you can never tell with people, but surely in this day and age most people apart from the homeless have access to running water to shower or at least wash themselves.

It isn’t a hot day and these people smelled like they hadn’t washed in a week

Why are there people not washing or concerned with how they smell 🤢

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Bornonsunday · 02/09/2023 14:27

All sorts of reasons.

Learning difficulties, autism, mental health problems, poverty.

Don't be so judgemental.

Curiouscat101 · 02/09/2023 15:11

I actually thought this came across as judgmental and asked for the thread to be taken down but it hasn’t been 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Gwenhwyfar · 02/09/2023 15:42

Pretty shitty to get your own thread taken down.

Ravenglass83 · 02/09/2023 16:35

Curiouscat101 · 02/09/2023 15:11

I actually thought this came across as judgmental and asked for the thread to be taken down but it hasn’t been 🤷🏽‍♀️

It did come across as quite judgemental to me at first (hence my first comment which was apparently 'lunacy'!) but in fairness it seems there are a minority of people who go out knowing they smell, for whom it's part of a wider thing of being generally obnoxious and disrespectful to others.
My concern would be that it's difficult to tell obnoxiously smelly and unintentionally smelly people apart and therefore I'd tend to lean towards not getting too worked up about it unless it was someone I had to interact with again

Curiouscat101 · 02/09/2023 17:48

@Gwenhwyfar

why is it “shitty?”

People are complaining it is judgemental. I didn’t think about people with illnesses such as tumours etc so I think it’s the kindest thing to do.

You really can’t win on here. What a toxic place

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Defiantjazz · 02/09/2023 20:03

People are complaining it is judgemental
Well it is. Fair play to you for realising that and taking it back though.

why is it “shitty?”
Some people on this thread probably think you’re being a bit of a spoilsport

Defiantjazz · 03/09/2023 08:29

in fairness it seems there are a minority of people who go out knowing they smell, for whom it's part of a wider thing of being generally obnoxious and disrespectful to others

Nah thinking people are deliberately smelly just to piss you off is just a narrative that allows you to be judgemental AND the victim at the same time.

It’s more likely to be a problem with functioning - either their self care is poor for whatever reason or they don’t know how to keep their clothes clean (because a lot of the time it probably is the cloths that smell rather than the person).

TheAOEAztec · 03/09/2023 08:37

Tbh if we have this amount of adults around with issues functioning lately, we should look out for sociatal collapse...

I don't believe all these people have actual issues. While aome people do have problems, ome people just simply don't wash themselves or clothes properly. Whether that's because they don't care, don't smell it or it's "for the environment". I had that with couple of colleagues over the years. They were generally unhygienic eg lack of hand washing etc. They did not last long in hospitality.

Gwenhwyfar · 03/09/2023 19:36

Curiouscat101 · 02/09/2023 17:48

@Gwenhwyfar

why is it “shitty?”

People are complaining it is judgemental. I didn’t think about people with illnesses such as tumours etc so I think it’s the kindest thing to do.

You really can’t win on here. What a toxic place

It's really annoying to be in the middle of a conversation to find a thread having been deleted.

Yerroblemom1923 · 04/09/2023 06:17

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER exactly! Although as kids we had one bath a week - Sunday evening - we would still wash at the sink twice daily - hands, face, pits & bits and feet.
If modern day families are trying to save money by not bathing or showering they still need to fill the sink with hot water and use a soap and flannel to clean themselves daily. Maybe they don't realise they need to do this. I feel sorry for the teachers - 30 unwashed kids by Friday must be a joy!

Fruitynutcase · 04/09/2023 07:51

I think also that cheap soap powder on low temperatures does not clean clothes properly and sweat smells cling on to synthetic clothing even after washing with cheap soap powder .

Defiantjazz · 04/09/2023 08:45

Tbh if we have this amount of adults around with issues functioning lately, we should look out for sociatal collapse

Bit of an exaggeration 😂

ChocolateCinderToffee · 04/09/2023 09:28

Ginmonkeyagain · 01/09/2023 19:43

Man made fibres definitely seem to hold sweat smell after awhile, in a way cotton or wool doesn't.

I don't wear many man made fibre but Mr Monkey has a lot of running tops, after a few weeks of normal washes I have to commandeer them and spray arm pits with white vinegar before washing them in sports wash.

Is this because we wash them at lower temperatures though?

TheAOEAztec · 04/09/2023 09:32

ChocolateCinderToffee · 04/09/2023 09:28

Is this because we wash them at lower temperatures though?

Low and short. You do ine or other. Hence why eo programmes are long. Iirc there were people doing 20c 20min washes on MN which is not enough unless you have some really special detergent and sanitiser

TheAOEAztec · 04/09/2023 09:33

Defiantjazz · 04/09/2023 08:45

Tbh if we have this amount of adults around with issues functioning lately, we should look out for sociatal collapse

Bit of an exaggeration 😂

Well yes. Same way like thinking everyone who smells is ill either physically or mentally...

But...
Have you been to bus in summer midday 🙈

Defiantjazz · 04/09/2023 10:05

Well yes. Same way like thinking everyone who smells is ill either physically or mentally..
Not really

But...
Have you been to bus in summer midday 🙈
An enclosed space with dozens of people in it, in the middle of the day, in 20-30 degree heat with no air conditioning is going to whiff a bit.

It’s a lot hotter in this country than it used to be and we don’t have the infrastructure to deal with it.

TheAOEAztec · 04/09/2023 10:14

20s are not heat.

I don't whiff even in a aummer purely because I do make sure I use adequate washing procedures for clothes, wash myself and use proper antiperspirant (got 2 strenghts depending on weather). Summers have been warm for years in UK. Time to get used to it. Tbh public transport is often not pleasant even in other seasons but I think in winter lots hide under zipped jackets.

LuvSmallDogs · 04/09/2023 10:42

I have problems with tonsil stones and am prone to tonsil infections. I can often taste when my tonsils start to get bad, and feel self conscious knowing others can smell them on my breath.

There's not a lot I can do though, I don't get horrific bouts of tonsillitis/strep throat frequently enough to qualify for a tonsillectomy.

KimberleyClark · 04/09/2023 10:59

Yerroblemom1923 · 04/09/2023 06:17

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER exactly! Although as kids we had one bath a week - Sunday evening - we would still wash at the sink twice daily - hands, face, pits & bits and feet.
If modern day families are trying to save money by not bathing or showering they still need to fill the sink with hot water and use a soap and flannel to clean themselves daily. Maybe they don't realise they need to do this. I feel sorry for the teachers - 30 unwashed kids by Friday must be a joy!

Yes this. Smelly bits need to be washed daily, doesn’t matter whether in the sink or shower.

TheAOEAztec · 04/09/2023 11:06

Fucking hell. I just checked NHs page to see how many infections one needs😱 ridiculous.

TheAOEAztec · 04/09/2023 11:07

Ok I lost quote option. Tgat was about tonsils removal

Defiantjazz · 04/09/2023 12:11

20s are not heat

🙄

Sawadeekakaka · 04/09/2023 13:59

Yanbu
I live in Thailand, one of the hottest and most humid countries there is and with people often living in poverty. People here simply do not smell. At all. I take public transport to work, no one has bo. The only time someone was whiffy I looked over and it was a foreigner.
When I was in England - and even worse France - this summer, I was struck by how smelly some people were.
It's cleanliness. That's all. Thai people shower two or three times a day or even more (often a bucket wash if thats all they have), use deodorant and talc to soak up sweat. You see launderettes everywhere because they will change clothes frequently and many don't have washing machines.
Poverty is no excuse. I volunteer in a slum. Sanitary conditions are pretty bad and it's hot and crowded but people still take care of personal hygiene.
In thailand they see it as shameful and disrespectful to others to go around with a body odour.

Defiantjazz · 04/09/2023 14:19

I live in Thailand, one of the hottest and most humid countries there is and with people often living in poverty. People here simply do not smell. At all. I take public transport to work, no one has bo. The only time someone was whiffy I looked over and it was a foreigner.
When I was in England - and even worse France - this summer, I was struck by how smelly some people were.
It's cleanliness. That's all. Thai people shower two or three times a day or even more (often a bucket wash if thats all they have), use deodorant and talc to soak up sweat. You see launderettes everywhere because they will change clothes frequently and many don't have washing machines.
Poverty is no excuse. I volunteer in a slum. Sanitary conditions are pretty bad and it's hot and crowded but people still take care of personal hygiene.
In thailand they see it as shameful and disrespectful to others to go around with a body odour

Mmmm
So your argument is…Europeans don’t wash?

Toomanylaughs · 04/09/2023 14:26

I agree! @Sawadeekakaka i said the same upthread. Been to various very hot & poorer/ developing nations and the people just make sure they shower more and better including using the bucket wash.

It’s rare for people to smell …BO smell is far worse in places like London among a range of social classes and they have access to “proper” showers.

I’ve heard other Europeans wash even less than Brits, but I’ve not spent enough time in those countries to know but yeah there’s isn’t a massive shower culture in Britain compared to these poorer countries so I don’t buy the poverty argument either.

I was horrified in uni to hear a very middle class affluent English girl talk about how her parents only shower once a week 🤢

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