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Why people smell bad

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Curiouscat101 · 01/09/2023 14:08

I was in town and the smell of BO from the couple standing in front of me in a queue was unreal. I then went into another store and the exact same thing with another person.

These people didn’t appear as ‘down and out’ types. I know you can never tell with people, but surely in this day and age most people apart from the homeless have access to running water to shower or at least wash themselves.

It isn’t a hot day and these people smelled like they hadn’t washed in a week

Why are there people not washing or concerned with how they smell 🤢

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Defiantjazz · 01/09/2023 17:48

Haven’t noticed this tbh

Lilibert456 · 01/09/2023 17:52

Not always but mostly laziness. Can't be bothered to wash themselves or their clothes. Just imagine what their bed sheets are like!!

MumGMT · 01/09/2023 17:52

Yellowlegobrick · 01/09/2023 15:39

Different people perceive smells differently.

I find heavily fragranced soaps amd perfumes overwhelminh. A colleague comes in wearing a very strong aftershave and it literally makes me feel nauseous!

I find a that slight mustiness of clothes not dried well, or mild BO, less nauseating & more "neutral" than people drenched in sweet perfumes.

People from some cultures don't use antiperspirants habitually and they can have a very particular smell that is very unpleasant .

This is true also.
I always thought the garnier fructis range smelled like B.O

There's a couple of perfumes and aftershaves that absolutely sicken me when I smell them, they just smell disgusting to me and I find it unbearable if I'm close to someone wearing them, but others love those scents and think they smell fab.

My son came back from his dads the other day saying similar about a shampoo he tried there, he said he started to use it and started to gag, he had to wash his hair several times then with a different one to make sure the smell was gone. He said the whole rest of the family thought it smelled fine and are happy to use it!

LlynTegid · 01/09/2023 17:53

The comments about larger people and about the nature of clothing fibres I think do contribute to what the OP describes.

I also wonder if having a month of less sunny weather and lower temperatures than last summer meant those who would have washed more often at this time of year don't do so now.

ArabeIIaScott · 01/09/2023 17:53

Gorgeouscombes · 01/09/2023 17:35

I have at least as much difficulty with people who wear strong perfume and aftershaves. It makes me retch. The musk gets down my throat and makes me I’ll for the rest of the day

Yes, also very strong scented washing powder.

I'd far rather a bit of normal clean sweat smell than the incredibly strong artificial fragrances.

Jacopo · 01/09/2023 17:53

People have entirely forgotten how to wash clothes properly because they have been seduced by the false promises offered by manufacturers.
Forget bio powders. Forget shower gel. Forget those who say that you can get good results from water at low temperatures. Forget synthetic fibres that claim to 'wick away' moisture.
Use clothes made from natural fibres e.g. cotton, - not polyester. Wash them in normal washing powder at a high temperature - 60C if possible, 50 if you must. Never less than 40.
Wash yourself in a bath or a shower using bar soap. Scrub the sweaty bits - armpits and groin. Wash the back of your neck and behind your ears.
If you can't afford to heat the water, boil a kettlefull, put in the basin, add cold water and strip wash with a flannel. Every day. Then wash the flannel, and wring it out before leaving it to dry.

Use an anti-perspirant deodorant. Wash your hair with shampoo, at the very least once a week. Change pants and socks every day.
That's it.
Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't.

TheAOEAztec · 01/09/2023 17:54

PoshPineapple · 01/09/2023 17:35

Yup, I think you're spot on there. I've noticed that if I don't wash bedding and towels at at least 50, they smell 'off' and less fresh much sooner than otherwise.

I do care about the environment, but to be honest I care about not stinking to high heaven and offending people around me just that bit more.

Yup. I do 60 for bedding, 40 for clothes. Added dettol for gym clothes.
I saw people claiming 20c 30min is enough. Nope.

Illbebythesea · 01/09/2023 17:54

I was on a train recently & my boyfriend and a fellow passenger started making grimacing faces at each other because of the smell of another bloke, I just felt really bad for him.

He did smell. It’s something that really irks my boyfriend because he feels like they’re invading his space with their smell… I get it. But I just always feel bad for them. Have no idea what’s going on in their lives. As said up post I don’t think people smell for fun (or even on purpose, mostly.)

TheAOEAztec · 01/09/2023 17:55

I use Aleppo soap and perspirex deodorat. Clean and non smelly. The soap is fuking amazing. Shower gels just cannot compare at all

Tribute219 · 01/09/2023 17:55

This has always been the case in my experience. Soap-dodgery is not a new phenomenon and yes, depression, illness etc can cause odours but this is hardly every 3rd person in the post office queue.
Some people are just a bit grubby.

FatBurger · 01/09/2023 17:56

Jacopo · 01/09/2023 17:53

People have entirely forgotten how to wash clothes properly because they have been seduced by the false promises offered by manufacturers.
Forget bio powders. Forget shower gel. Forget those who say that you can get good results from water at low temperatures. Forget synthetic fibres that claim to 'wick away' moisture.
Use clothes made from natural fibres e.g. cotton, - not polyester. Wash them in normal washing powder at a high temperature - 60C if possible, 50 if you must. Never less than 40.
Wash yourself in a bath or a shower using bar soap. Scrub the sweaty bits - armpits and groin. Wash the back of your neck and behind your ears.
If you can't afford to heat the water, boil a kettlefull, put in the basin, add cold water and strip wash with a flannel. Every day. Then wash the flannel, and wring it out before leaving it to dry.

Use an anti-perspirant deodorant. Wash your hair with shampoo, at the very least once a week. Change pants and socks every day.
That's it.
Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't.

But that doesn't always help. It will for most, but not all.

LakieLady · 01/09/2023 17:56

AzureBlue99 · 01/09/2023 17:39

Women's clothing is mostly all man made now, in the shops that are left that is. That ups the sweat factor. Men can still buy natural fabrics in mainstream shops.

M&S still have plenty of cotton and linen stuff, as do shops like Sea Salt, White Stuff and Crew Club. And online, Cotton Traders and Regatta still do a lot of natural fabrics and are very reasonably priced (although they could never be described as fashionable).

Toomanylaughs · 01/09/2023 17:57

It could be mental health issues. My hairdresser I had last week smelled really bad. I was surprised she’d smell that bad at the beginning of her shift, it would be a bit different perhaps at least if it was the end of a long day. She was also over an hour late for our appointment, so who knows what’s going on.

Interesting a lot of people are citing poverty but one thing I noticed from my time in many developing nations was that people no matter how poor or rich always made sure they were clean and smelled fresh - typical to have at least two showers/washes per day there. Many didn’t use deodorants but still smelled good due to how much they showered.

I don’t think there’s a massive culture of daily showers in Britain - growing up in an immigrant family in a working class community I was always surprised at the relative lack of washing that went on in other homes. I’ve had periods in my younger days where I had to decide how to make £7 last a week before I’d even bought groceries but always got in the shower. So I do feel some of this is cultural.

Illbebythesea · 01/09/2023 17:57

@Jacopo

People have entirely forgotten how to wash clothes properly because they have been seduced by the false promises offered by manufacturers.
Forget bio powders. Forget shower gel. Forget those who say that you can get good results from water at low temperatures. Forget synthetic fibres that claim to 'wick away' moisture.
Use clothes made from natural fibres e.g. cotton, - not polyester. Wash them in normal washing powder at a high temperature - 60C if possible, 50 if you must. Never less than 40.
Wash yourself in a bath or a shower using bar soap. Scrub the sweaty bits - armpits and groin. Wash the back of your neck and behind your ears.
If you can't afford to heat the water, boil a kettlefull, put in the basin, add cold water and strip wash with a flannel. Every day. Then wash the flannel, and wring it out before leaving it to dry.
Use an anti-perspirant deodorant. Wash your hair with shampoo, at the very least once a week. Change pants and socks every day.
That's it.
Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't

This is so patronising. Who made you an expert? I never use soap bars (old fashioned) or wash my clothes at 60 (bad for the environment and I know NO ONE who does this.) I don’t smell!

Lifeomars · 01/09/2023 17:57

the80sweregreat · 01/09/2023 15:14

Maybe years ago people didn't notice it as much because people could smoke everywhere ( at their desks at work for one example) and bathing / showering wasn't like it is today , it was only one bath a week and a wash down at the sink at other times, clothes not washed as often , so you just didn't notice the smell as much ? The smoking must have masked a lot of any other odors ( just a theory of mine)
My sense of smell has altered since having Covid too

I noticed how bad our local pub smelled after smoking was banned. A mix of dried urine from the toilets and unwashed blokes propping up the bar

Dascha · 01/09/2023 17:57

@MumGMT "This is true also.
I always thought the garnier fructis range smelled like B.O"

Yes, me too! Asda own brand bathroom cleaner is the same. Sadly COVID has not dulled my receptors for that one.

Tribute219 · 01/09/2023 17:58

Jacopo · 01/09/2023 17:53

People have entirely forgotten how to wash clothes properly because they have been seduced by the false promises offered by manufacturers.
Forget bio powders. Forget shower gel. Forget those who say that you can get good results from water at low temperatures. Forget synthetic fibres that claim to 'wick away' moisture.
Use clothes made from natural fibres e.g. cotton, - not polyester. Wash them in normal washing powder at a high temperature - 60C if possible, 50 if you must. Never less than 40.
Wash yourself in a bath or a shower using bar soap. Scrub the sweaty bits - armpits and groin. Wash the back of your neck and behind your ears.
If you can't afford to heat the water, boil a kettlefull, put in the basin, add cold water and strip wash with a flannel. Every day. Then wash the flannel, and wring it out before leaving it to dry.

Use an anti-perspirant deodorant. Wash your hair with shampoo, at the very least once a week. Change pants and socks every day.
That's it.
Its sad your mothers have not told you all this, but it seems they haven't.

Even if not taught at home, isn't this what PSHE lessons are for at School?
I think genuine reasons are few and far between, the majority of stinkers are just lazy.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 01/09/2023 17:58

But I do tell her she smells nice when I know she's fresh from the shower, and say, 'Oh, that's a lovely shower gel/perfume/cream/whatever', in the hope it might change.... for her. I used to work with her, and I did overhear people commenting sometimes. I do wonder if I should say something.

@HollaHolla I'm not surre she'd take the hint with that. Maybe you could try "oh you smell nice and fresh" or even the more obvious "nice and clean" rather than commenting on the particular shower gel, as she might just think it's the smell of the shower gel you like rather the fact that she's clean!

TheAOEAztec · 01/09/2023 17:58

LakieLady · 01/09/2023 17:56

M&S still have plenty of cotton and linen stuff, as do shops like Sea Salt, White Stuff and Crew Club. And online, Cotton Traders and Regatta still do a lot of natural fabrics and are very reasonably priced (although they could never be described as fashionable).

Evsn primark had linen trousers and tops now. It's back in fashion (yay!).
Some if the m&s and JL stuff is reallt good and for good prices (JL Anyday collection)

stbrandonsboat · 01/09/2023 17:59

TripleDaisySummer · 01/09/2023 17:09

I've noticed that it's getting harder and harder to buy bio washing powder that actually works. I always used to use Persil bio powder but then my clothes started to smell, so I added in Dettol laundry disinfectant. Then Persil got so bad that I was rewashing clothing so I've switched to Ariel Powder and am adding extra enzyme powder and the Dettol disinfectant. Clothes no longer smell.

Due to eczema we have to use no bio but I get told on here that even low temp washes should mean clothes smell clean - well sometimes the teen stuff come out still smelling which is apparently impossible - and gets put on again at a hotter wash.

So perhaps poorer washing powder and lower temp washes and more cheap synthetic clothing is having an effect.

Good points.

The synthetic clothing absolutely stinks by the end of the day as well. I have some tops I'm only wearing for gardening now as I can't stand the body odour they harbour. I shower daily and have clean clothing on every day too.

materialworldagain · 01/09/2023 18:00

DupontsYellowDressingGown · 01/09/2023 14:18

I've noticed that more people seem to have more of an odour to them within the past year or so and put it down to saving money by not bathing daily so I've stopped being so judgemental.

No matter how tight things got financially, I would never stop washing. You don't even need to take a shower every day, even a wash at the sink will do.

There are lots of ways to cut back but personal hygiene isn't really one of them.

Toomanylaughs · 01/09/2023 18:00

YouJustDoYou · 01/09/2023 17:24

My friend smells because she only washes once a week due to worries about the environment.

I suspect the environment concern is an excuse to be honest.

Does she have a partner btw? I honestly couldn’t be with someone like that.

bctf123 · 01/09/2023 18:00

I've worked in a lot of poorer towns and it was common there .
You need soap , hot water and a change of clothes. One of these missing could cause an issue (as well as odour issues in the main living area)
Im lucky I can shower at work

queenofthewild · 01/09/2023 18:04

SirenSays · 01/09/2023 14:51

I go to lots of nerdy gamer events and the BO from the crowd is so intense! Eye-wateringly bad at times. It really ruins the experience when you have to hold your breath to go inside!!

I used to work at these events. We called the whiff "eau de coder"

Tribute219 · 01/09/2023 18:04

Actually one of the less pleasant smells on people has reduced in my experience, and that's the pervading stink of deep fat fryer.